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AIBU?

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My husband is glued to the PS3 all evening every evening.

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mummyloveslucy · 28/09/2009 19:35

Hi, my husband and I have always had a very close relationship. We used to chat, laugh and have fun in the evenings.
Ever since he bought vertual tennis 09 he just spends every bit of free time on it. He plays people through the internet and gets very stressed and swears or hits the sofa if he's loosing. It makes such a tense unhappy atmosphere. He plays it very late into the night and I'm ready for bed at 10:30- 11pm. So We never go to bed together any more.
I have tried talking to him about it and he shrugs it off saying "You should be pleased I like your birthday present". (I bought it for him because he asked for it).
I'd be greatful for any ideas to get him to play it less and spend some time with me.

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FlamingoBingo · 28/09/2009 19:36

Give him a blow job?

aristocat · 28/09/2009 19:39

why bother....just MN more

choosyfloosy · 28/09/2009 19:42

Is he someone who gets bored of things like this, or is this a new obsession?

Speaking as someone who has been known to MN until the small hours ( - REALLY trying not to do that any more) i would say I think it's a poor idea even if my partner doesn't protest.

And the poor atmosphere stuff is awful.

You have got to get this across loud and clear, as he is clearly in the throes of passion for this thing at the mo. You need to tell him that it's seriously affecting how you feel about being in your own home, and you need to discuss limits on it pronto. If he responds as in your OP, just say 'Don't be a child'.

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mummyloveslucy · 28/09/2009 19:44

FlamingoBingo- ha-ha

aristocat- that's what I do, but he even moans about the tapping sound of the key board.

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ThePhantomPlopper · 28/09/2009 19:46

You need to throw it out the window.

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mummyloveslucy · 28/09/2009 19:47

I will Choosyfloosy.

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MmeLindt · 28/09/2009 19:48

DH and I went through a phase where I was stuck on MN all evening and he felt quite neglected.

I have to say that he would often be watching TV, or rather falling asleep on the couch in front of the TV after switching some rubbish programme on.

We eventually had a good clear the air talk (about that and other issues) and decided that the computer and his blackberry should stay off in the evenings.

Can you ask him to restrict himself to one night a week, tell him you will go out with pals on one night a week so he can play as long as he likes while you are out.

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mummyloveslucy · 28/09/2009 19:50

Good idea, I hope he goees for it.

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Radox123 · 28/09/2009 19:53

How long has this been going on for?

Talk to him when he's nowhere near it. Tell him you miss spending time with him, and that so much time spent doing something solitary or with people over the internet is affecting your relationship. Tell him you understand it's fun, and stress relieving, but it can also be stressful if he gets over-involved.

Tell him you are not asking him to stop playing it, but to please maybe limit the time he does to a few evenings a week, or a certain time of night. Ask him how he'd feel if it was his son or daughter spending all the time on the PS3. Tell him you miss him.

The rest is up to him. If he still insists on spending ALL the time with the bloody thing, go out. Go and see friends, go to the cinema, go and have some fun.

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mummyloveslucy · 28/09/2009 19:53

Oh, I missed the one about throwing it out the window.

It plays the blue ray films too though, so I might have to smash the game instead.

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mummyloveslucy · 28/09/2009 19:55

Thanks Radox, good point.

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mummyloveslucy · 28/09/2009 19:56

He is fuming at the moment as he's being beaten by a woman. Lol (he is soo sexest)

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PrincessToadstool · 28/09/2009 20:01

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lovechoc · 28/09/2009 20:03

sorry that's just some men for you OP I'm afraid. DH plays Fallout on PS3 most nights that he can. Just means I get to do what I like when he's doing all that.

MrsChemist · 28/09/2009 20:18

I second trying to get interested in it. Not having a PS3, I can't know for certain, but surely if he can play online he can co-op play with you. Even if it really doesn't interest you, just try. You, never know you might like it.
My DH can be the same, but if I told him to stop I think he would resent it, because it's just his way of unwinding after a hard days work (even if it does seem to frustrate him more.)

ThingumyandBob · 28/09/2009 20:22

OH is currently on x-box playing Halo odst, it?s ok as I get some peace and quiet (he puts the head phones on) I?m not sure how well I?d cope with him flinging himself around the room like John McEnroe though!!! Full sympathies there!

Could you get him to man up and play some nice war games?? At least he would be sitting in one place instead of turning your front room into centre court!

(Fallout, Halo and Call of Duty seem to be the ones that the men folk like currently?.)

CommonNortherner · 28/09/2009 20:24

Years (and years!) ago dh had a computer game issue and so one day I totted up all the minutes he spent with me all the ones he spent playing on the computer, he wanted to know what I was up to half way through it as I kept getting a notebook out after we'd finished speaking, hah! Then we discussed it based on my findings. I am quite blunt and insistent though and so can go on for quite a long time about priorities and that marriages don't just happen they are made on a daily basis!

CommonNortherner · 28/09/2009 20:26

Oh and even now if dh is getting pissy at a computer game I just point out that it's supposed to be for fun and so what's the point in doing it if it's not fun, because there's not anything in real life actually at stake to get worked up over!

We do play some games together as well though!

beaniesinthebucketagain · 28/09/2009 20:32

i had to tolerate call of duty, he learnt the hard way, he got obsessed he would be on it non stop, took it to the toilet and would be gone hours (it was on the dsi) so when he completed it i sold it, and had a meal out with mates, and calmly told him it would be a long time before i made the mistake of buying him a game let alone another console!!!

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