For not expecting an earful of abuse just because I want us to look at our holiday snaps as a family

[pissedoffandcrying]

I am a regular, but have a few MN mates on FB and don't want to be identified.

We have just got back from holiday and DP asked if I wanted to look at our holiday snaps blown up for the first time on our telly. He plugs the camera into his X box and me, him and DS settle down in front of it to look at the photos together. We get half way through them (about 20 mins in) when a message pings up from one of his mates inviting him to some online thing so he accepts and all I can hear is him chatting to them about computer games. I ask him nicely if he can wait until we have finished before he starts talking online to his mates and with that he says "Hold on mate, I've got the bitch in my ear again" and starts yelling at me to stop intefering. I say to him that chatting to his mates when we are supposed to be looking at our holiday snaps is rude as we are supposed to be having some family time together and that calling me a bitch is disrespectful. With that he turns the X box off, shoves the camera at me and tells me he is going out.

So now I am sat at the PC crying (when I am supposed to be studying). My question is Am I being unreasonable to expect DP to not chat to his mates when we are supposed to be looking at our holiday pictures? Why could he not have just waited until we had finished. And now I have to do tea, bath and bedtime when it is his turn, and I really need to study as I have an assignment due next week.

Thanks Scottishmummy. I will see if he can ask about this when he next sees the OT.

2Rebecca - I agree. The only person who makes him angry is him but he never sees it like that. It is usually my fault because I didn't back down when I disagreed with him about something, or that bad drivers fault for cutting him up or DS's fault for not listening etc etc. He needs to realise no-one makes him angry but himself.

Junglist - thats ok. I understand why you are still angry at your exdp. How did you engineer the situation? And what about when he left - how did you find it on your own? I think I would be ok on my own as long as I had the finances to do it. I am not scared of my own company and I often feel more relaxed and like a weight has been lifted when he goes out sometimes. Not a good sign really is it?