to want to tell people to stop commenting on dd weight /height etc

[elmofan]

well exactly like it says in the title really .....
dd (3.8) was born 4 weeks early & weighed 5lb, she was always a slow gainer but was walking by 9 1/2 months so advanced for her age although tiny , she had a hospital appointment on friday for her eczema & she had her height & weight checked & she is only 2 stone & 1 pound . the nurse kept saying " oh she's tiny" but when i told the doctor i was worried she said dd is a healthy child & told me to ignore other people . dd has started preschool on the 1st sept & i am sick & tired at this stage of some of the other mums asking me dd age & then comparing her to their child who is almost a year younger but the same height . aibu to just want to tell these kind of people it's not nice to compare children , or am i just being touchy

hi back, i hope you didn't mind me advising you to read over my thread it was just the fact that i have been going through the same thing as you since dd was born & she is 3.8 now & i am still hearing comments , so i can sympathise with you completely , likewise some days it upsets me & other days i just laugh it off , actually i had to stop myself laughing earlier as 1 of the mums at dd's playschool who has been commenting on my dd was in a bad mood & when i asked her was she ok she told me that she had taken her dd to the playground after school yesterday & while she was there she saw another mum with a " TINY" (her words) lo & said " oh he's sooo tiny" to this other mum & the mother bit her head off & said " well i think your dd is very fat" so i think she has had her comeuppance . iykwim
i still felt a wee bit sorry for her though as i know she doesn't mean anything by her comments ,

back i also have a friend-ish who likes to compare dd to her twins who are only 11 months old eg when they stand up against a chair & dd gives them 1 of her toys my friend likes to say things like " oh look x is almost the same height as your dd" etc & she knows all about our struggles with dd weight gain , she almost tripped over her tongue to let me know that her babies are only a few pounds lighter than my dd . you just have to let it roll over you though because otherwise you'd be done for murder

Would people feel free rushing over to a child with glasses or red hair and say the same thing? My Hubby is ahorter than me and as he goes about his daily business meeting new clients no one has ever said upon meeting him 'Wow, you're quite short aren't you?. Oay it might be thought sometiimes but no one would say it to him would they?

I think people only really comment if they think it is neutral or positive. I get comments about being tall (so does my dh) and I used to get them about being thin too (I'm a bit more tubby at the moment). But commenting on childrens height is standard small talk (haven't you grown etc etc) so I really don't think people do think they are being insensitive.

or in our case nooka , its more like " oh you haven't grown " lol