To Have taken DS1 to the police station over this latest incident?

[TheLadyEvenstar]

DS1 started secondary on the 7th Sept. He loves it BUT

second day there his p.e shorts were stolen
fourth day there he was hit by a group of 15 yr 8 boys because he had stood on a coin
seventh day there yr 8 boy punches him in the stomach because its fun apparently

Today he phones and asks if he can go to football trials, so i say yes (feeling happy that he has finally took an interest in sport!)
I expect him to call at 4.30 to say he is on way home, by 4.45 i am frantic as he did not call, I called him to be told by him he was looking for another gate out as one of the yr7 boys had threatened him. So I told him to put his phone away and just get home asap so i knew he was safe. I hung up the phone and within minutes had a feeling that something was wrong with him so i called back he was in a panic because said boy was coming at him across the grass. A couple of other boys from his class caught up with him and asked him what was wrong so he quickly explained while i was on the phone and they then walked with him halfway to the bus stop.
Thats when I went off the phone. At this point the said child caught up to where he was and followed him the rest of the way to the bus stop as ds1 was about to get on the bus he looked behind him and this child punched him in the stomach winding him.

Now I didn't know this but something made me call him and he was in tears, so i met him at the stop and took him to police station to report it as a crime. The police are going to investigate it and are also contacting the school about the other incidents as I have had no joy with them sorting things out. We were told this is a case of ABH and that they were taking it seriously.

AIBU to have done this?

Foxy will do.....I recommend everyone has a foxy to keep them grounded lol x

Shh, I am really just an ole school marm.

You've done exactly the right thing. But I do think it is unfair that your ds should have to move class - why is it always the victim who ha s to make changes to their lives when they've suffered already? I do hope things improve and well done for clamping down on the situation straight away.

If your ds has to stay in the same class as the other boy, ask the Safer Schools Officer about Restorative Justice. I can't explain it here as it does need some detailed explanation and I have to get some work done.
Hope this helps!

You are doing the right thing by taking a hard line with the school. I would urge you to consider carefully allowing them to move your DS to another class.
They moved my friend's DD to another class. They didn't tell her new teachers what had happened and some weeks later she discovered that her new teachers thought she had been moved because she had been disruptive.
Then she was asked to take part in a workshop about self-esteem run by the school counselling service and walked in to find her bully sitting there too. Nobody had told the counselling service about the situation either.
Meanwhile he carried on bullying her in corridors and breaktimes.
That was when they changed schools.
My friend feels that being a lot tougher with the school, not allowing them to fob her off with the first solution they thought of and,crucially, involving the police, would have meant a much better outcome for her DD.

Excellent idea from Foxytocin! This will mean that they have to acknowledge what they have said to you and everything is recorded and dated, and they are obliged to deal with quickly. Maybe send a copy to the Chairman of Governors too?

hi - we have recently moved our son to a new school several miles from our home as he suffered from persistent bullying during his first 18 months of secondary school.

we took the "proper" route -we were polite, pleasant and far too understanding of the difficluties the school stated that they had with this particular child who was bullying my son.
In the end, even though the bullying was bad enough to involve the police on several occasions and my ds was asked to make video witness statements with the local police - nothing was done about this child..

If this EVER happened to us again I would be contacting the papers and screaming from the rooftops at the first opportunity and I would advise anyone else to do the same.. My ds had two miserable years and is now on medication for depression ..His life was really ruined for a while and I honestly believe that some schools are just not interested in sorting out these issues.

Don't give them a chance to not deal with it, this is one of those times to be an incredibly pushy parent ..

Good luck xxxxx