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Original poster

Online newsletter lists all the reception children's full names

45 replies

paisleyleaf · 11/09/2009 23:05

As in 'we would like to welcome so and so, so and so..... etc'
I'm feeling uncomfortable about it. Stranger danger I guess. Although the routine for picking up the children at hometime is safe enough.
But I wouldn't put my DD's full name and school she attends on MN or anywhere else online myself.
We were never asked to sign a consent thing, and it wasn't mentioned.
Am I silly to be niggled by it?

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TigerDrivesAgain · 11/09/2009 23:06

yes

Pikelit · 11/09/2009 23:10

I'm not sure what dangers are out there ready to pounce on unseen children about whom nothing more than their names have been revealed. So yes, on the surface it sounds as if YABU.

ABitBatty · 11/09/2009 23:13

YANBU. I wouldn't like it. There are psycho ex partners out there who would scour local school websites for info like that.

pipsqueak · 11/09/2009 23:14

i think its agreat gesture to get all teh new children known and part of the school community - what are you worried about ?

hmc · 11/09/2009 23:17

If the names were accompanied by photos you might have a point, but personally I wouldn't worry about it

bosch · 11/09/2009 23:20

Sorry, ABitBatty, psycho ex partners scouring local school websites for the names of their own children?

Paisleyleaf, I should talk to school if you have concerns about your own child's name being made public like this but wouldn't worry about imaginary child with psycho parent... Check if you can find the document by googling your child's name and alert school if you think this is a data protection issue.

ABitBatty · 11/09/2009 23:27

Yes bosch of course don't you believe that it happens to families who have separated?
I'm not saying that it is something for the OP to worry about, but for some it may be.

ReneRusso · 11/09/2009 23:29

YABU

bosch · 11/09/2009 23:29

I guess I thought if op had psycho partner she'd probably have mentioned it. Otherwise, as I said, it's an imaginary child with psycho parent, etc etc

LauraIngallsWilder · 11/09/2009 23:30

I would complain about that if it were me - they didnt ask, it isnt their role to inform the world the names of children who have started at the school

That is the perogative of the child's mum and dad

Original poster
paisleyleaf · 11/09/2009 23:36

Not come up on the google, thanks bosch

I don't think ABitBatty meant the children's fathers....
I have a horrible ex partner (DD's not his daughter), but he was a stalker psycho for a while. 10 years ago now though, I'm not worrying about him. But he would have been the sort to, I don't know, just delay DD for 10 minutes to scare me, prove power, whatever.

If others think it's fine, then I do feel better about it.
But I wouldn't put full name and school up myself on here - I don't quite know why not. I just wouldn't, and I guess that's what made it seem quite stark when I saw it.

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2rebecca · 12/09/2009 00:25

I don't see the problem. It's very uunusual for a parent not to be able to be told which school their child goes to. My kids' full names are often given in the school newsletter which is available online. If there is an injunction banning the child's father or mother from finding out which school the child attends then you should have let the school know when the child started school, otherwise it sounds like unreasonable paranoia.

cat64 · 12/09/2009 01:13

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Tambajam · 12/09/2009 06:54

Ex-teacher and parent here. I wouldn't like it and I wouldn't do it as a teacher. First names would be enough for the welcome.

snapple · 12/09/2009 07:09

I don't think it is appropriate, first names would be fine.

tinkerbellesmuse · 12/09/2009 07:11

I don't see the problem at all to be honest.

If someone wants to find out if a child goes to a particular school it can't be that hard - the school are hardly giving anything away are they?

On the flip side I think it is a nice welcome and I certainly found it useful being able to identify who DS was going to be in a class with.

BethNoire · 12/09/2009 15:22

We get a list of christmas card names so no real difference

At the meanest its a chance to snurk. Wanklym, anyone?

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 12/09/2009 15:24

YANBU

I have my reasons but would go ballistic if my school did this.

TeamCullenAllTheWay · 12/09/2009 15:26

I wouldn't like it at all. I think putting full names is a bit much, especially as you haven't signed any permission forms.

purepurple · 12/09/2009 15:26

I work in childcare and I find it unacceptable to do this. We are told to send out christmas card lists with first names only.
On a tangent, I have just been given a new badge for work with my full name on. I feel uncomfortable wearing it. I can't really say why, but I don't like it. I have covered up my surname with a sticker
oh, YANBU

smileydee · 12/09/2009 15:29

YABU and a bit paranoid.

limonchik · 12/09/2009 15:41

I doubt it will cause any problems, but it's probably a bit unnecessary to publish their full names - first names would have been enough.

LynetteScavo · 12/09/2009 15:46

I'm suprised they've done this, TBH.
We were refused a class list of first names to send out invitation or Christmas cards when DS2 was inreception "for security reasons". I was told to have a look on the coat pegs adn write the names down from there.

We were given a list of class names when DS1 was in reception, though,including middles names, which was a laugh interesting.

katiestar · 12/09/2009 15:46

YANBU The problem is that it is on the internet so anyone can view it.Ithink children should have been identifeied by first name only.We have to sign a permission slip which, as well as photos , asks us whether our DCS names can appear on the website.

tootyflooty · 12/09/2009 15:46

unless you have specifically told the school that it is a security issue ie violent ex, then I do think yabu, our school do the same thing and it is just a welcome to the new children. With only first names it is not so personal.

All new reception classes in our area, also have their photo in the local paper, although not with the individuals named.

Our school also allows video and photos of school plays and sports days. Some I know do not, it is child safety gone mad. Ridiculous restrictions imposed by paranoid parents spoil it for normal people.

Sorry if that sounds harsh.