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AIBU?

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to think i should have been told about a child throwing a brick at my ds at nursery?

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rosiest · 10/09/2009 21:48

Just want to know what others would do in this situation.
My friend picked ds up from nursery when i was working. ds has huge cut/graze on face and my friend was told by teacher he hurt it on a brick . My friend asked ds on way home how it happened and he said "x" threw a brick at him in the nursery garden!
Not sure why there were bricks at nursery as obviously young children throw things, but wanted to know what would you do? I feel like nursery glossed over what happened - although i don't really feel cross with this child as all children throw things they shouldn't. It seems like they didn't tell me the whole story - but should i just get over it? AIBU?

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TimothyTigerTuppennyTail · 10/09/2009 21:51

I don't think they meant a brick.

A Lego brick probably, you get alot of those at a nursery. And it's possibly that they didn't see exactly what happened.

paisleyleaf · 10/09/2009 21:51

Brick as in builder's bricks to build houses. Or wooden/plastic childrens building bricks?
Not that it makes a difference to the nursery staff not giving you a proper explanation..."hurt it on a brick" hmm indeed.

ingles2 · 10/09/2009 21:51

well, nursery school age dc aren't the most reliable of witnesses, so I'm slightly surprised you are taking your ds's word as gospel (and word through a friend as well)
Why don't you go and ask at nursery yourself tomorrow?

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rosiest · 10/09/2009 21:58

timothy - i think maybe they didn't see - hence the slightly odd explanation
ingles - I will ask them tomorrow I just haven't had the chance since it happened. paisley - Was an actual brick not a plastic one, as saw mother of child who threw it today who apologised to me (although she didn't need to!) so obviously she was informed about it. Also ingles, I wouldn't normally take my sons word for it, but the wound could never have been caused by a plastic brick which is why I was quite concerned. I just don't want to seem like i'm making a fuss over nothing

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Rollergirl1 · 10/09/2009 22:02

How on earth could a nursery age child even lift a (stone)brick, let alone throw it?

ingles2 · 10/09/2009 22:03

Well you left out a vital bit of info there then.... you saw the mother who apologised. In your OP you were going on the word of your ds and friend.

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rosiest · 10/09/2009 22:06

Oh my ds could lift a brick quite easily and lob it too! That what i'm saying - my child is no angel and i know no child is, but would you feel annoyed at their explanation?

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rosiest · 10/09/2009 22:09

sorry ingles - just didn't want to bore everyone with long op but i see what you mean. also my ds said they've been playing builders at nursery - but surely they wouldn't give 3 and 4 year olds bricks to play with?!

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Rollergirl1 · 10/09/2009 22:10

Well it is incredibly vague. But has also come to you third hand. I think you need to wait until you have spoken with someone from Nursery in person. And then decide if they are glossing over it.

Pyrocanthus · 10/09/2009 22:11

Surely there was an accident report slip?

Rollergirl1 · 10/09/2009 22:14

But also have just thought they might have been a bit vague because it was your friend picking your DS up and not you. You can't accuse them of not telling you the whole story when they actually haven't told you anything at all yet.

You haven't had the chance since it happened? Have you been to Nursery since and not said anything yet?

curiositykilled · 10/09/2009 22:15

You didn't pick up the DC so it's hard to know what the nursery really said. Ask them about it tomorrow but keep an open mind, they might have taken it seriously.

Rollergirl1 · 10/09/2009 22:16

Pyrocanthus: There should be, but a parent would have to sign that and it sounds like OP hasn't even discussed in person with them yet.

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rosiest · 10/09/2009 22:22

pyrocanthus: no accident slip. they don't do them at ds's school- as i found out when ds1 came home with unexplained fat lip...but thats another thread!
rollergirl - took ds to nursery myself today but they has supply staff in today so i knew there was no point asking them as they weren't there when this happen (as my friend told me the normal teacher told her about hurting himself on a brick)
Curiosity: you're right - thats why i'm keeping an open mind as i have 2nd hand info and obviously haven't seen them myself

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curiositykilled · 10/09/2009 22:29

They don't 'do' accident slips? Are they not required to by law? At least to have an accident book... Sounds fishy...

paisleyleaf · 10/09/2009 22:29

Don't 'do' accident slips? I thought that was a national requirement now. They're leaving themselves quite vulnerable by not recording incidents.

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rosiest · 10/09/2009 22:32

I don't know if its required by law. I am a teacher and we send slips home and record everything where i work so it suprises me that they have such a casual approach. as i say - ds1 came home with a fat lip last year and there was not even a verbal explanation given for that! I'm sure they must have an accident book but as i've never seen it i don't definitely know

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BethNoire · 10/09/2009 22:41

Our school doesnt do them,even when a school fuckup put ds2 in hospital last yearwe were given nothing.

I''d be surprised if it were a clay brick tbh, possibly a chunky wooden one. If it were clay i'd be very , wood very

Pyrocanthus · 10/09/2009 22:52

We get slips home if DCs have had any sort of cut or scrape - they say very briefly what happened, what treatment was given, if any, and is signed by the person who dealt with it. I've never had to sign one. Obviously particularly useful in the case of children who are barely old enough to speak for themselves. I assumed it was the norm.

curiositykilled · 10/09/2009 22:58

pretty sure nurseries have to fill in a form if the child comes to nursery with an existing injury and an accident form if they have an accident at nursery. Is it a nursery or a school OP?

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rosiest · 10/09/2009 23:08

Its the nursery class at a school. I'm surprised by it myself tbh. we spend hours filling out slips at work to explain what child has which injury and who treated them. I thought it was the norm until my dc's started here and have had no notes despite several scrapes etc which would warrant a slip where i work.

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rosiest · 10/09/2009 23:10

beth - my ds is adamant it was a real brick 'like our house is built with'. But lets face it my ds is 4.5 so i'm not taking it as gospel!

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paisleyleaf · 10/09/2009 23:14

You don't live in a lego house then?

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rosiest · 10/09/2009 23:18

could well do paisley according to my ds anthing is possible!!

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