In thinking DP should get up before this time?

[LissyGlitter]

This is an ongoing disagreement. Me and DP are both night people and hate mornings. I am 30 weeks pregnant and we have a 2.5 yo DD. Neither of us work, although DP does go to quite a lot of interviews etc and I start uni part time next week, although I am technically signed off work due to mental health issues (dormant for the moment, thank god, but as I am pregnant, the doctor didn't want to take chances)

DD wakes up around 8am (although it has been known to be anywhere between 5am and 10am) and I get up with her, make her breakfast and let her have a bit of cbeebies time while I come to. If it is ridiculously early when i get up, or I feel ill, I do this for two hours then make DP get up, but generally I let him sleep till he feels like getting up. He does do pretty much all the cooking of big meals (I deal with things like light lunches and snacks) and laundry and washing up, so he is pulling his weight, but it can't be good for him to lie in till about 11am every single morning can it? Plus it means that if we want him to come on an activity with us, we are only getting out of the house at nearly lunchtime, and she has a nap after lunch so she misses half the day!

Any ideas on how to suggest he move his lazy bum without sounding nagging? He is finding it hard to not be working, and, like I say, does do useful things all day when he is awake, but he needs to move his timetable!

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There is one thing that might help those of you stuck in the benefit/tax credit area where the only jobs you can get are less than 16 hours a week. This is to be 'partly self-employed' for the necessary extra few hours a week. There are quite a few things you can do that come into this category such as Avon/Usborne/Bettaware, maybe making some crafty oddments, freelance writing/illustrating, or chatline work: what you do depends on your abilities, interests etc. For self-employment, they will accept yoru own estimated figure ofaversge earnigs.

If you want him to get up with DD which is reasonable enough then bargain with him to do particular bits of housework in return.

SGB.........Chatline work oh la la.

OK so chatline work isn't for everyone but it's a valid option for those who want self-employment that is flexible.

SGB i know a woman who claims to have bought her own home by doing chatline work. I might look into it but would get the giggles I am sure lol.

TLE that isn't impossible but I would imagine she was either doing it a good few years ago when the rates were higher, or she does live callback.

I always used to think i'd be good at chatline work until my friends pointed out that I once tried to flirt with my DP by saying "so...how's your willy today?".