childrens names

[verazafira]

a colleague of mine had a baby last week and named her florence. i had twins 3 months ago and one of those is florence, i dont mind this but still find it strange, but to cap it all today someone i know in our village has named her new baby martha which is my older daughters name(her other daughter goes to same nursery) i choose my childrens names as they are individual and have never gone with the crowd i am really mad about this , any advice, am i being unreasonable.

i think people are odd but also at the same time cannot think for themselves which is very sad

Take it as a compliment that your name choice was obviously just so lovely she couldn't resist

thats true maybe too much thought had gone into name searching

Indeed, but how many Bryn's do you know

Admittedly we didn't know any Harvey's - we just liked it. But did know it wasn't particularly unusual. And Bryn is pretty common in Wales. It was just the fact she was a relative, I guess. And she didn't run it by me first... Then again, why should she? She has every right, just as everyone else has, to name their child what they like! But felt very personal.

Why have I typed that all in the past tense..? I'm still pregnant!!! Brain is turning to mush, do apologise...

sorry, i also meant that I had put to much time into finding what i thought was a different name, my brain has been like mush since having my first child, and i still take things personally (which my husband tells me off for) i think it is because as mums and mums to be we are very protective of our children.

I was going to call DS2 Florence. He's 6 now, but if he had been a girl and was called Florence, I would not have objected to you using the name. Why would I?

A colleague's wife is due soon and they are thinking of DS1's name. I am not offended if they use it. That would be a bit bonkers. Actually I would be flattered. Shows they like my DS's name!

Martha and Florence are the sort of names which are coming back in. You are leading the way!

27 years ago I named my first born Christian. It has never been shortened by anyone even school friends,uni friends,footy friends. As I live in OZ this name has become extremely popular in the last few years since "our" Mary Donaldson married into Danish royalty and named her firstborn Christian. My DD was born 2 years later and we named her Briony Louise. Lots of people thought it rather a strange name (some still do) but hey! we loved it and still do. Needless to say some people got them confused and called them Christine and Brian.

Not much you can do about it really, but they are lovely names

YABVU and silly.

And I am probably in the minority in that I don't even think it's unreasonable if friends or relatives choose the same name as I have chosen.

Why is it OK for a colleague or someone who is not 'close' to choose the same name, but unreasonable if a friend or relative does it? Surely that just means the riend/relative really likes your child's name? I think that's very flattering.