sorry to be a pain second thread on landlady sil

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if a house has damp so bad

ones daughter has to leave home

her ds has a bad cough

and my asthma is yuck

why the fuck should I be blamed for her not remeding the problem

That sounds all wrong.
How come you're getting blamed?

she is claiming that everything my dh does makes my asthma worse

we have a really severe damp problem and she
will be selling the house when we move and she cannot be bothered to even look at the problems

she has her own life that is fine but to take rent of us and not help is to me very selfish

dh is a very logicalclever man and this is hurting and making me ill

she has not even bothered to contact him

the email we recieved was to my dd

So what does she think your dh is doing to make your asthma worse?

If the house is unfit for inhabiting then don't pay the rent.

You said you are moving anyway, why have you stayed there long enough for your dd to have to leave home etc etc if it is that bad. Is there a reason you haven't moved out sooner?

Also, is it the case that your sister is not doing the repairs as you are moving out and it is easier and safer to do them when the house is unoccupied?

we have no Idea

and dd has said to her in an email

what is dh mneant to have done.

the house is in a very bad state

we have lived in and waited for a lot of reasons

dh getting a longer contract

and a hopefull new start next spring

but the fact that she told dd that i was to blame is mind boggling

we are stuck her for the next few months

Do you have a rental contract? If so you are legally allowed to go on rent strike if the accommodation is not up to scratch. You have to keep the money aside and show that you are able to make payment of rent, but that until the damp is sorted you are not paying as the house is inhospitable. Speak to CAB they will be able to advise further. Otherwise i would suggest moving.

no rental contract not even in the uk.

which is why i feel so out of my depth

why does dh want to sit on the wall
I think I may have to write mil a letter tomorrow she has the complete say over everything

today I am fuming

think the fact that you can feel so used by ones own family is silly

she s hoping to make a lot of money when we move out

I expect your dh wants to sit on the wall because he has no desire for a fight with his family. Not an excuse, I realise but actually it is the way that families often work!

so what do I do

ds will get ill
Iwill get ill

and sil just gets her rent

seems so unfair

dh is so clever

but he will not listen to me anymore

need to log off for a bit

Vote with your feet and pay your rent to someone else. Its not a sif she is giving you free board and lodgings and you have to feel gratefull. Find somewhere else and move. i would be tempted to pay no rent in the meantime

In which country are you? perhaps someone can give advice. You are under no obligation just because she's your sil, she's not "doing you a favour" - she's running a business - and you couuld get a better deal elsewhere!

we are in austria

but dh is taking her side on everything

feel sick she is her today seeing her parents

and they want to see ds

last time she got very cross with him,
but miltold him about the visit before asking me

feel im being such a fool

have already been cross with dh on the phone

I want today over