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Original poster

so i called the police.

78 replies

usedtobeme · 02/09/2009 21:07

Following on from my previous thread about my teenage dog sitter taking the piss..

Basically discovered my almost 15 yr old dog walker had been in my house, gone thru my cupboards (with a friend i already banned from my home) stolen a bottle of gin, beers and a bottle of brandy. I had it out with him and his mum gave him a telling off (of sorts)

Since discovered my kids piggy bank has been emptied of all but the coppers, tens and twenties. Gutted.

I rang the other boys parnets and they said they didn't see how their son could be involved and had an awful tone.

So i rang the police who said we were within our rights to charge them but we decided a talking to would be ample.

I feel bad for my neighbour but i feel like i've been burgled and to be honest she did little more than get upset and say she was worried about him and he was still being a little cocky for my liking during our 'chat'.

Was i out of order invoving the police?? I hope it gives him enough of a fright to put him on the straight and narrow.

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2shoes · 02/09/2009 21:10

no imo yanbu
he over stepped the mark and his parents are uninterested,
the police my save him iynwim

monkeypinkmonkey · 02/09/2009 21:14

YANBU hopefully the police talk will sort them out. Maybe next they will think before they steal even if it is just 10's and 20's.

allaboutme · 02/09/2009 21:15

good for you!

morocco · 02/09/2009 21:15

yanbu
how upsetting. definitely he needs a kick up the arse now to stop him getting into worse trouble later on

Original poster
usedtobeme · 02/09/2009 21:16

Monkeypink it was only 10ps and 20ps they left. They took the £5 note and all the £1 coins and 50ps.

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KIMItheThreadSlayer · 02/09/2009 21:19

YANBU

Rindercella · 02/09/2009 21:23

YANBU. Hopefully a scare from the police will be just what the little fecker needs to dissuade him from further crimes. Because of course it is criminal what he has done. Rifling through drawers and stealing booze & money is common theft.

He is actually quite lucky that you have decided to take it no further than a ticking off by the police.

Heated · 02/09/2009 21:31

YANBU.

You've given the parents a chance to sort out their thieving offspring, who clearly have no compunction about stealing from small children. Nor, as I think most parents would do, have they offered to make restitution.

We would do the same.

TheChilliMooseisyourfriend · 02/09/2009 21:32

YANBU. Please don't let him into your house again. What a toe-rag.

DesperateHousewifeToo · 02/09/2009 21:32

What a horrible thing to have happened!

YANBU at all. They are very lucky you didn't take it further.

groundhogs · 02/09/2009 21:34

good for you indeed, i think the boy needs to repay the piggy bank money, that's the least he could do.

TheCrackFox · 02/09/2009 21:36

YANBU. A kick up the arse (from the police) might just do him a favour.

Leeka · 02/09/2009 21:38

Did the parents offer to refund you and replace the booze? VERY rude if not - and up to them if they then make him work it off/pay them back/whatever punishment.

If my 15 year old son had done that I'd have marched him straight round with apologies, flowers and replacement everything including cash.

TeamEdward · 02/09/2009 21:39

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Tortington · 02/09/2009 21:41

bit ott imo

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usedtobeme · 02/09/2009 21:45

Parents didn't offer to replace anything.

custardo really ? ott? 2 teenagers of almost 15 going thru cupboards ands stealing alcohol and money and you think a ticking off from the police is ott? I feel like i've been burgled.

I have far greater expectations for my children. But then we are all different.

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Tortington · 02/09/2009 22:07

i have greater expectations from my children too. I hope there wasn't any underlying inference there as i am not sure what your statement qualifies exactly

i felt that you did the right thing by speaking to the parents.

if something significant of value had been taken i would have phoned the police

but not for some bottles of alcohol and 10p and 20ps from the piggy bank.

you did put this in AIBU

i thought you were

MmeLindt · 02/09/2009 22:11

If you had gone straight to the police then I would have thought it too harsh. Since you did speak to the boys and their parents and their reaction was not good, then I think you were right to involve the police.

MissMoopy · 02/09/2009 22:13

Totally the right thing to do. Little shits!

Original poster
usedtobeme · 02/09/2009 22:13

custardo maybe you should read the thread before you comment.

It wasn't 10p and 20ps they took, that is what they left. It was all the other money in there they took. A £5 note, lots of pound coins and all the 50ps. It was my sons birthday money.

I am well aware of where i posted thank you.

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Original poster
usedtobeme · 02/09/2009 22:19

Thank you for the replies. I did think long and hard before calling the police but i feel it was the right thing to do as in my opinion stealing is stealing no matter how you dress it up.

The other boy is apparently in trouble alot, drinks at school etc so personally i hope this is the wake up call he needs.

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Tortington · 02/09/2009 22:22

i read and commented on the OP

lots of people agree with you

i don't

get over it

Stayingsunnygirl · 02/09/2009 22:23

I think that you did the right thing, usedtobeme. His behaviour was totally unacceptable, and I don't think that his parents have reacted appropriately either. The least they should have done is to offer to replace the things he took. That is what I would do if one of my dses had done this - and then I'd have made them work to repay me.

You'd also have got a bunch of flowers and a letter of apology from me and from my ds!

Original poster
usedtobeme · 02/09/2009 22:29

good reading custardo but can't see myself where it says in the op that they took 10ps and 20ps. I have noticed on other threads that you like to go against the grain, good for you!

Thanks stayingsunny i too would have felt i couldn't apologise enough and i didn't actually get an apology from any of the parents.

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Tortington · 02/09/2009 22:32

i commented that i thought you did the right thing by speaking to the parents.

i understand that you are very upset. i do not in anyway think that what they did was right.

i do not agree with calling the police

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