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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to be completely cheesed off with my stubborn dh

17 replies

ilovespinach · 28/08/2009 17:04

ok - so it started a few weeks ago when we were discussing our upcomming wedding anniversary. I said something along the lines of that could never remember if it was the 5th or the 6th of the month but then I was talking with a friend who said that her dh has a birthday on the 5th.

Now dh has taken it upon himself to believe that the only way I now remember what day our anniversary falls on is because it is the same birthday of my friends dh.

Everytime I mention our anniversary he says a sarky comment about how we must remember to wish my friends dh a happy birthday.

I've had enough of this now. I've explained to him that my friend and I were just talking there was nothing else to it as we were discussing that particular date in the month.

We have had a row about it today and I have come to the conclusion that there is no point bothering with our anniversary this year if all I am to get is a sarky comment.

AIBU in thinking that dh should just accept my explaination and move on like an adult nstead of sulking and refusing to let go?

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claw3 · 28/08/2009 17:09

He is being childish and should explain your explanation and let it go.

You are being just as childish by not bothering with your anniversary this tear because of it.

claw3 · 28/08/2009 17:09

ooops accept not explain!

claw3 · 28/08/2009 17:13

Year not tear!

oh sod it, i give up!

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ilovespinach · 28/08/2009 17:22

I know what you mean claw

Yes, you're right - I will not mention it again but it's a shame as it's a special anniversary.....

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claw3 · 28/08/2009 17:34

How long have you been married?

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ilovespinach · 28/08/2009 17:42

5 years....we hardly ever argue and are happy - it just infuriates me that dh is like a dog with a bone if he gets the hump about something

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claw3 · 28/08/2009 17:48

Oh yes i hate sarky comments, i would much prefer them just to spit it out and move on.

Be the bigger person, plan a lovely anniversary, swing from the chandelier after a few glasses of wine and it will all be forgotten in no time.

If he is still sulking on the night, threaten divorce and to take him for every penny he has, that should snap him out of it!!

ohnelly · 28/08/2009 17:52

give him a happy birthday card on the anniversary! ha ha. No your NBU, he is being childish. He will get over it

claw3 · 28/08/2009 17:57

LOL Ohnelly brilliant!

oldraver · 28/08/2009 19:59

Tell him your going out on the 5th with your friends for his birthday

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 28/08/2009 20:06

5th isn't like the 1st or a 25th but I think all of them should be celebrated as special.

I think he is trying to make out you are being off as he knows he is in the wrong but won't admit it.

DesperateHousewifeToo · 28/08/2009 20:21

I never remember the day of our wedding anniversary.

One year we even had a bottle of bubbly and then realised that we were 2 days too early!

He should move on, he's being childish by continueing with the comments.

Everyone uses points of reference to remember things. It's normal.

WidowWadman · 28/08/2009 20:23

Anniversaries are over-rated anyway.

BubbaAndBump · 28/08/2009 20:33

we engraved ours inside our wedding rings and I've had to check it on numerous occasions for the year at least

Your DH is being silly. Could it be that he didn't remember himself?

chegirl · 28/08/2009 20:41

Do not indulge your OH's silliness. Next time he says it just agree with him. He will soon get bored of his little joke.

We always forget ours. It is a very unhappy day anyway. Not because its the day we got married but its also the anniversary of something else so we both pretend to forget about it.

I had a friend who got really annoyed that other people didnt remember her wedding anniversary! She expected cards from friends and family every year - mad bint.

DesperateHousewifeToo · 28/08/2009 20:50

Yes, we had our rings engraved inside with the wedding date but then had to cancel our wedding as dh was ill and in hospital.

We never got around to changing the date in the rings (dh soon lost his too!) so that's no help to us, lol.

slowreadingprogress · 28/08/2009 21:23

Ilovespinach, get your DH's wedding ring engraved with the date, give it to him with a loving kiss, and say "look, now you'll never forget xxxxx's birthday darling"

chegirl, that's so sad. Maybe you and Dh could 'renew' vows on a different day, or have a special day together or something so that you could celebrate that day instead?

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