to hate it when parents 'hold' little girls when they need an emergency wee?

[cheekster]

I know emergencies happen, but it just looks awful.

Saw this happen today in a shop doorway

Lets agree to disagree and stop with the insults shall we

DD is 3.10. She is totally toilet trained and we don't own a potty any more. Sometimes when we are on the park she needs to do a wee. So I take her by a tree and hold her to do a wee. The way I hold her, my arm is under the back of her knees and her legs are bent so they probably mostly cover her genitals anyway.

I agree that weeing in a shop doorway isn't on, but none of us know the precise details of what happened.

Oh and my DD can pee standing up. She likes to do that stark naked in the garden with her feet as far apart as she can get them. She's also good at doing a "yoga crab" position and weeing like that. However I think that would get her more attention when we're out and about so I discourage it.

Just remembered my own public emergency wee at the age of 22. And now alcohol was involved...

During my rookie weeks as a nanny I tried to get a three year old to do a crouching pee in the bushes. Needless to say, she was soaked from the waist down, had to be stripped, wrapped in my cardigan and taken home pronto.

The six year old can do it though, pretty impressive I now realise.

No alcohol rather than now alcohol

Shop doorway. Yuck.

Fretting about seeing the "genitals" of a small child, sorry small girl

Just look away

naive, deluded and ignorant are 3 words that spring to mind.

I had an emergency beside the work bins after a leaving do...hope my genitals were not seen on car-park CCTV..lol

We didn't have a car when I had dd2 so dh took dd1 in on the bus to see us in the hospital (20 miles away). On the way back, dd announced that she needed a wee NOW and dh asked the bus driver to stop, which he kindly did. Dh took dd off the bus and they sorted themselves out, but as they go back on, dd said, in a VERY loud voice, "I wee weed all over my Daddy's shoes!"

Cheekster - 5yo's have emergencies too - no way am I going to carry a potty around for her

And no way would she use it - Id rather expose her to the world
(well not literally but ykwim!)

I would assume that a mum in this situation would only hold her daughter in such a way that her genitals are on show, in a shop doorway if she felt that it was the only option. Maybe it wasn't possible to turn round so the child was more private - or maybe it was the first time she'd had this emergency, and she didn't think it through.

My mum used to hold me over a drain if we got caught short. Nothing more public than that. Although she was horrified one day when I started to poo too. Maybe that was tmi

I'm amazed at the number of women who have rarely weed outdoors. I do alot of long distance walking, hillrunnng and backpacking where no toilets so for me weeing outside is fairly common. I haven't needed to hold my daughter since about 5 though. She's been capable of crouching down and holding her clothes out of the way since then, but then she goes on long country walks so gets alot of practice. Urinating in a doorway sounds disgusting though.

I am amazed too 2rebecca.

But I would like to fly the flag, as it were, for the non healthy brigade. I regularly had to relieve myself out of doors in my late teens due to alcohol consumption/no bogs combo.

I agree it is an art

I hold dd to wee outside occassionaly, in the park on long country wallks and bizarelly more than once at the cemetary when we visit fils grave i find somewhere quiet/secluded by trees

I wouldnt let her wee in the middle of the street/shop doorway though and i wouldnt let a boy either, have occassionally had to run to loos and once had to ask a kebab shop owner if we could use his loo as there were no public ones (nice bloke said as she was a child we could)

When i collect dd (5 from school) we often catch the bus. I ALWAYS ask if she needs to go before we leave the building. But you can guarantee that if we have to wait more than 10 mins for a bus it's "Muuuummmm". So gutter or nearest bush, and I always hold her up. DH hates it if this happens when he's there, but what do you do when there's not a loo in the immediate vicinity?

(id take her to the loo while till at school, explaining what has happened before, what would happen if she needed to go ON the bus)

I DO that! Every time we go anywhere I suggest she at least tries before we leave. But i have had no accidents for at least 2 years so if she has to pee in the gutter once in a while, I am not going to worry about it.

(im not trying to get your back up, you do whatever you want but I personally would take her and make her try not just ask, i think its part of toilet training to teach planning ahead too im only saying as you asked)

YABU but I would never have let my DD pee in a shop doorway. Would always look for a public loo. Outdoors in the countryside is totally different and you need to hold them so they don't wet knickers, socks and shoes.

Cannot ever recall having to do this with DD but it must have happened. Had to pee outside myself recently when camping at a festival, in the dark, discreetly. It's a skill for a grown up not to wet shoes.

I'd like to see you MAKE my dd try!