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for a 7 year old to constantly talk about marrying my 6 year old

45 replies

SingleMum01 · 30/07/2009 17:51

thinking its a bit odd. She also talks about them having babies and I've had to stop her pretending (with sounds and all) to have them in the playhouse and kissing him? It all seems a bit OTT to me.

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meemarsgotabrandnewbump · 30/07/2009 17:53

I think it's all very normal. Maybe she's just discovered romance.

Mumcentreplus · 30/07/2009 17:57

LOL..it's strange but some children are like that...my 4yr was married in a secret ceremony at school ...she has a friend who is totally in love with her and wants to marry her legally as soon as possible

FlyMeToDunoon · 30/07/2009 18:03

My 4 yr old is obsessed with an older male [5] and has talked about marrying him for over a year now.

Pikelit · 30/07/2009 18:12

You've got a son. They can be as unwilling to commit at seven as they are at 37. Hence you'll probably find the whole idea as OTT as I did. Girls can be very different!

Mumcentreplus · 30/07/2009 18:25

I already have in-laws

hercules1 · 30/07/2009 18:31

Very normal. My 5 year old dd is trying to decide still which of her 2 year 6 boyfriends she is going to marry. She is obsessed looking forward to the day.

Morloth · 30/07/2009 18:42

My son is a totally womaniser, he has married around three little girls in his class and dumped them all for another one who started later in the term because she has lovely pig tails.

Sounds pretty normal to me.

franklymydear · 30/07/2009 18:46

I find that odd (and I have boys and girls) I think a 5 or 6 year old should be a child and not a pseudo-romantic playing at marrying friends - I think that must be reinforced by parents / adults which makes it continue

NormaSknockers · 30/07/2009 18:46

Sounds normal to me, although DD is still at the stage of wanting to marry Daddy (she's only 3)

hercules1 · 30/07/2009 18:47

franklymydear - it's perfectly normal behaviour. You are the one putting an adult perspective on it not them.

lol "Adult reinforcement"

southeastastra · 30/07/2009 18:47

i remember marrying my emu puppet off to another puppet at about 6

hercules1 · 30/07/2009 18:48

Ds had 3 wives when he was 3.

tkband3 · 30/07/2009 18:49

DD1 and her best friend are both marrying a boy in their class - he's said it's ok, cos you can have 2 wives apparently (his mother's parents are divorced and re-married, so this makes sense to him), but he wants them all to live with his mum .

itchyandscratchy · 30/07/2009 18:52

perfectly normal. You will look silly if you make an issue out of it. Just ignore it if you don't like it.

serenity · 30/07/2009 18:52

DD(5) is marrying DS2's best friends 6YO brother (allegedly). It makes me feel twitchy when she starts going on about it (DS1 and 2 thinks it's hilarious) but she's 5, it doesn't mean anything - it's role playing of a sort, she's not really a black belt, pirate princess either.

LynetteScavo · 30/07/2009 18:58

DS2 has just anounced that he is going to marry his dad.

RustyBear · 30/07/2009 19:00

My DD married a boy from her class in a playground ceremony (complete with vicar, best man and bridesmaids) when she was six and a half - they had played the Innkeeper and his wife in the Nativity Play the previous Christmas and apparently decided they made a good couple.

It didn't last long, though - DD's 'husband' read out to the whole class his story about 'My Wedding' with a description of his 'wife' "She has long black hair and she is gorgeous, but I don't like it when she sucks her thumb"

DD was mortified and announced crossly that her next story would be 'My Divorce'!

wb · 30/07/2009 19:11

lol RustyBear

Ds1 wants to marry me. I haven't told him yet that I'm actually a bigamist (married once in playground aged 5, again in 30s to dh).

littlebrownmouse · 30/07/2009 19:17

DS (6) is grappling with the age old dilemma of having two fiancees and not being sure which one he wants to marry. They have rings made of pipe cleaners and everything. Tis very innocent and cute. Am shocked that franklymydear thinks its in anyway not normal or somehow inappropriate. They're acting out adult roles in the same way that they play at going shopping and making the tea. Its no different to them, there's no sex involved!

HecatesTwopenceworth · 30/07/2009 19:19

yup, it's just play. remember playing "mummies and dadies" when you were a kid?

squilly · 30/07/2009 19:20

DD went through this phase at 5/6 and most absolutely gave up on the idea at 7/8. Now she's mortified at the suggestion of boyfriends! I'm sure your dd will grow out of it soon.

choufleur · 30/07/2009 19:21

DS (3) is going to marry my friends little girl (5) when they are grown up. they are going to live in our house but i will have to live with them as DS is not allowed to touch hot things (so sweet).

franklymydear · 30/07/2009 19:21

absolutely parental reinforcement. Natural to do it a couple of times or have a short phase of doing it and then moving on but continually and ongoing means there is an adult somewhere laughing and applauding and giving positive reactions to this kind of play to make it continue interminabl

so yes actually Hercules1 I do think there is Adult reinforcement (presumably not conscious but definitely there)

hercules1 · 30/07/2009 19:21

Yes, I do laugh. So?

hercules1 · 30/07/2009 19:23

IF she found a bottle of cider and drank it and I laughed and praised her I could see your point. Really, there is no harm in them playing husband and wives.

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