for a 7 year old to constantly talk about marrying my 6 year old

[SingleMum01]

thinking its a bit odd. She also talks about them having babies and I've had to stop her pretending (with sounds and all) to have them in the playhouse and kissing him? It all seems a bit OTT to me.

[Pikelit]

"i use to love dressing up in my mothers wedding dress."

Call me peculiar but that's seriously peculiar!

[ZZZenAgain]

a lovely little German boy is going to marry dd, she's ok with that. We are glad to know it's settled.

No slurpy kissing involved

[Toffeepopple]

DS knows who he is marrying. Apparently the girl in question no longer specifies which school dinner she wants, because she always has what DS has.

Not worried at all personally.

[SingleMum01]

Thanks for all your comments, my poor DS thinks he HAS to marry this girl and they HAVE to have 6 children. I've put him right on that one! The girl just seems totally obsessed with it - to the extent of actually acting out having a baby - describing the legs and the head coming out seems a bit odd.

[hmc]

got to be honest, my first thought on reading this was get a life.

Me too - but I'm a bit intolerant this evening

[raffyandted]

Yes sweetgrapes Though I hope that he doesn't still feel like this when he's 25 ( but shudders at the thought of 45-year old balding, paunchy, Timothy Lumsden-type son still lurking at home)

[dingdong05]

Actually I agree with frankly, I shudder at the memories where adults asked me who my boyfriends were, it made me very uncomfortable. Role playing is natural, but ime adults push it up to another level.
Having said that my son (5) keeps talking about when we have babies, I do explain there are rules about that sort of thing lol

[hmc]

Not at all odd. Perspective required.

[sweetgrapes]

WUN(wine up nose) raffyandted
That is so sweet

[raffyandted]

My DS (nearly 4) is against marriage. I happened to say something about 'when you're grown up like Daddy and have your own house...' This had obviously not occurred to him as he looked worried & said that he does not want to live with a 'laydee' when he is big, he wants to live with Mummy & Daddy for ever. Awww.

[scrummymum]

My DD (5) told me the other day that she is going to marry her brother(!) who is only 19 months.

Completely normal. Its not a sexual thing. I think DD gets most of her ideas from Disney princess films.

I don't really get what the problem is unless he is whipping her off to Gretna Green tomorrow.

[booyhoo]

completely normal for children to do this. freak out when you hear that a 30 something woman has reduced her dd to tears by telling her they were going to marry each other.

OH's mum di this to her dd when dd was going through a marrying stage. dd was around 6/7 and mum had just had her hair done and had a bunch of flowers in the car. when she picked dd up from school dd asked what flowers were for. mum told her it was for their wedding and she had got her hair done specially. dd started crying saying she didnt want to marry her mum, but mum kept it going.

imagine how angry i was to discover she had told my ds (aged 3) that he was going to marry his aunt. he was soo confused. the woman is strange.

[ABetaDad]

SingleMum01 - did this happen yesterday with a little boy at summer camp? If so, it was our DS2 As he said, he spent all day kissing a girl slightly younger than him. He says he has dumped her now though - so your DD is safe. Apparently they had a bit of thing a couple of years ago at nursery and it reignited briefly but she has a long term boyfriend.

DS2 has also been asking a lot about babies in the last week - like how do they come out of Mummy and how do they get in?

Where do 6/7 year olds get this stuff from?

[pjmama]

Franklymydear, I think you're being a bit ridiculous

[Forester]

I also think this is normal and nothing new. I remember at the age of 8 that the girls in my year (including me) were very jealous of a girl in the year below because she was "marrying" a boy in our year. Though I think the issue was more that she was younger and therefore stealing one of our boys(!) - rather than having any romantic feelings.

[Portofino]

DD (5) was obviously worried about her boyfriend (4.5) staying faithful whilst we were on holiday - but it was fine: "They assured me, mummy, that he didn't fall in love with ANY of the other girls while we were away and that he still loves me the most!"

[HecatesTwopenceworth]

my husband's best friend's son announced he was going to marry my niece! He was 4 and she was 5 months old! it's just kids stuff. no biggie.

he's now about 15 and gives you The Face if you mention it!

[LadyGlencoraPalliser]

Frankly, I remember playing husbands and wives with my boy friend when I was that age - and that is nearly forty years ago.
It is a very very normal part of children's play at that age, no matter how much you don't want to believe that.

[littlebrownmouse]

Does it matter if adults think its funny? I think its funny when mine pretend to be teachers and take teddy register. I laugh. ITS NO DIFFERENT!

[hercules1]

IF she found a bottle of cider and drank it and I laughed and praised her I could see your point. Really, there is no harm in them playing husband and wives.

[hercules1]

Yes, I do laugh. So?

[franklymydear]

absolutely parental reinforcement. Natural to do it a couple of times or have a short phase of doing it and then moving on but continually and ongoing means there is an adult somewhere laughing and applauding and giving positive reactions to this kind of play to make it continue interminabl

so yes actually Hercules1 I do think there is Adult reinforcement (presumably not conscious but definitely there)

[choufleur]

DS (3) is going to marry my friends little girl (5) when they are grown up. they are going to live in our house but i will have to live with them as DS is not allowed to touch hot things (so sweet).

[squilly]

DD went through this phase at 5/6 and most absolutely gave up on the idea at 7/8. Now she's mortified at the suggestion of boyfriends! I'm sure your dd will grow out of it soon.