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for a 7 year old to constantly talk about marrying my 6 year old

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SingleMum01 · 30/07/2009 17:51

thinking its a bit odd. She also talks about them having babies and I've had to stop her pretending (with sounds and all) to have them in the playhouse and kissing him? It all seems a bit OTT to me.

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littlebrownmouse · 30/07/2009 19:24

Does it matter if adults think its funny? I think its funny when mine pretend to be teachers and take teddy register. I laugh. ITS NO DIFFERENT!

LadyGlencoraPalliser · 30/07/2009 19:25

Frankly, I remember playing husbands and wives with my boy friend when I was that age - and that is nearly forty years ago.
It is a very very normal part of children's play at that age, no matter how much you don't want to believe that.

HecatesTwopenceworth · 30/07/2009 19:27

my husband's best friend's son announced he was going to marry my niece! He was 4 and she was 5 months old! it's just kids stuff. no biggie.

he's now about 15 and gives you The Face if you mention it!

Portofino · 30/07/2009 19:28

DD (5) was obviously worried about her boyfriend (4.5) staying faithful whilst we were on holiday - but it was fine: "They assured me, mummy, that he didn't fall in love with ANY of the other girls while we were away and that he still loves me the most!"

Forester · 30/07/2009 19:28

I also think this is normal and nothing new. I remember at the age of 8 that the girls in my year (including me) were very jealous of a girl in the year below because she was "marrying" a boy in our year. Though I think the issue was more that she was younger and therefore stealing one of our boys(!) - rather than having any romantic feelings.

pjmama · 30/07/2009 22:36

Franklymydear, I think you're being a bit ridiculous

ABetaDad · 30/07/2009 22:44

SingleMum01 - did this happen yesterday with a little boy at summer camp? If so, it was our DS2 As he said, he spent all day kissing a girl slightly younger than him. He says he has dumped her now though - so your DD is safe. Apparently they had a bit of thing a couple of years ago at nursery and it reignited briefly but she has a long term boyfriend.

DS2 has also been asking a lot about babies in the last week - like how do they come out of Mummy and how do they get in?

Where do 6/7 year olds get this stuff from?

scrummymum · 30/07/2009 22:51

My DD (5) told me the other day that she is going to marry her brother(!) who is only 19 months.

Completely normal. Its not a sexual thing. I think DD gets most of her ideas from Disney princess films.

I don't really get what the problem is unless he is whipping her off to Gretna Green tomorrow.

booyhoo · 30/07/2009 22:51

completely normal for children to do this. freak out when you hear that a 30 something woman has reduced her dd to tears by telling her they were going to marry each other.

OH's mum di this to her dd when dd was going through a marrying stage. dd was around 6/7 and mum had just had her hair done and had a bunch of flowers in the car. when she picked dd up from school dd asked what flowers were for. mum told her it was for their wedding and she had got her hair done specially. dd started crying saying she didnt want to marry her mum, but mum kept it going.

imagine how angry i was to discover she had told my ds (aged 3) that he was going to marry his aunt. he was soo confused. the woman is strange.

raffyandted · 30/07/2009 23:47

My DS (nearly 4) is against marriage. I happened to say something about 'when you're grown up like Daddy and have your own house...' This had obviously not occurred to him as he looked worried & said that he does not want to live with a 'laydee' when he is big, he wants to live with Mummy & Daddy for ever. Awww.

sweetgrapes · 30/07/2009 23:55

WUN(wine up nose) raffyandted
That is so sweet

hmc · 31/07/2009 00:00

Not at all odd. Perspective required.

dingdong05 · 31/07/2009 00:06

Actually I agree with frankly, I shudder at the memories where adults asked me who my boyfriends were, it made me very uncomfortable. Role playing is natural, but ime adults push it up to another level.
Having said that my son (5) keeps talking about when we have babies, I do explain there are rules about that sort of thing lol

mrsjammi · 31/07/2009 00:07

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raffyandted · 31/07/2009 00:15

Yes sweetgrapes Though I hope that he doesn't still feel like this when he's 25 ( but shudders at the thought of 45-year old balding, paunchy, Timothy Lumsden-type son still lurking at home)

hmc · 31/07/2009 00:16

got to be honest, my first thought on reading this was get a life.

Me too - but I'm a bit intolerant this evening

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SingleMum01 · 31/07/2009 16:42

Thanks for all your comments, my poor DS thinks he HAS to marry this girl and they HAVE to have 6 children. I've put him right on that one! The girl just seems totally obsessed with it - to the extent of actually acting out having a baby - describing the legs and the head coming out seems a bit odd.

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Toffeepopple · 31/07/2009 16:45

DS knows who he is marrying. Apparently the girl in question no longer specifies which school dinner she wants, because she always has what DS has.

Not worried at all personally.

ZZZenAgain · 31/07/2009 16:46

a lovely little German boy is going to marry dd, she's ok with that. We are glad to know it's settled.

No slurpy kissing involved

Pikelit · 31/07/2009 16:50

"i use to love dressing up in my mothers wedding dress."

Call me peculiar but that's seriously peculiar!

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