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To buy school tops in the wrong colour

208 replies

katiestar · 27/07/2009 19:51

Our state primary school stipulates either the school sweatshirt which is bright red or bright red jumper / cardi with grey skirt/ pinafore.
I have bought my DDs dark grey cardigans to go back to school in for the following reasons.
1 They always get stained because the school doesn't have enough whiteboard markers so children have to use their hands , which inevitably ends up on their top.

2 Only buy uniform from M&S and their stocks were decimated , but had grey in every size.

3 Won't look too diffreent colour-wise from those wearing a pinafore.

3 Am really pissed off at the school who have agreed to be my placement school for a course I have been doing , but failed to return some paperwork in time for the deadline so I have wasted £200 and many hours for nothing.Not really relevant to the school tops but indicative of my feelings to the school.

5 MOST IMPORTANTLY looks lovely against their long pale blonde hair

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Northernlurker · 27/07/2009 19:57

You are undermining your school's rules - which is a Bad Thing to do imo and you are attempting to work off a grudge they won't know or care about using your children - that's just pathetic.

Take them back and buy the right thing, Your children may be very upset by having the wrong ones. It's not their problem you are feeling rebellious and too lazy to go elsewhere!

barnsleybelle · 27/07/2009 19:57

I know ds's school is very strict re the uniform and would not accept a change in colour. The trousers/skirts have to be dark grey and if they go in pale grey mums get a snotty letter.
So, depending on your school you may have potentially wasted your money

lollyheart · 27/07/2009 19:59

Yabu

Hulababy · 27/07/2009 20:02

YABU IMO

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 27/07/2009 20:03

YABU

Kids hate being different and it could easily lead to them being picked on.

If you dislike the school why are you sending your kids there?

danthe4th · 27/07/2009 20:04

Poor kids being made to look different, and what a fantastic stroppy example to set. The whole point of uniform is to make children feel they belong, they are recognised on trips, they take pride in their school etc. It really annoys me when people don't buy the proper uniform its just a bad attitude which usually gets passed down to the children.

katiestar · 27/07/2009 20:07

Well it is just unprofessional not to complete paperwork on time which would make a student who is helping the school not complete the course.I don't think it is a petty thing to have a grudge about and i think they darned well should care about it !!

The main reason though is the staining thing.Why have tops in a colour that stains so easily ?Why not give the children board rubbers, or use washable paints ?

I think the prospectus actually says children are 'expected ' to wear uniform.I think in our LEA primary schools are not allowed to make primary uniform compulsory , because that would mean they had to make a uniform grant available to hard-up families.

Oh yes and another good point , maybe they won't 'disappear' if they are the only ones in the school wearing grey.

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KnickKnack · 27/07/2009 20:08

UABveryU

Its shows your children that its OK to disobey school rules.

You are nitpicking over the colour of the jumper because you had a disagreement with them on another unrelated matter (at least that how it looks)

They are called "uniform" for a reason

CloudDragon · 27/07/2009 20:09

yabu and I hate uniforms! can't make your DCs not conform because you don;t want them to, that surely is their terrain!

katiestar · 27/07/2009 20:09

No girls liked the tops.Eldest one likes to 'bend' the uniform to be individual and youngest, at 4 , won't care.

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 27/07/2009 20:10

If you feel uniform isn't compulsory just send them in their normal clothes.

Why not be mature and talk to the school about the problems and issues you have with the paperwork?

katiestar · 27/07/2009 20:12

I think I pointed out in my opening post that their stupid incompetence wasn't a reason .
Main reasons are
1 Look prettier and maybe won't look stained after a week !

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LuluMaman · 27/07/2009 20:13

YABU for the reasons stated

however, i can totally understand why you are so angry re the paperwork cock up, but you need to take that up appropriately with the right people

Thunderduck · 27/07/2009 20:13

YABU.

thisisyesterday · 27/07/2009 20:13

i think you're being very unreasonable.
you're basically saying to your kids that it's ok to do whatever you want if you don';t like something. good example to set.

katiestar · 27/07/2009 20:14

Can't talk to the school because its summer hols.

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Jackstini · 27/07/2009 20:14

Sort your paperwork out issue separately - I agree this is not acceptable.
Re the uniform - yabu - don't show your kids it is ok to break rules from day 1.
If you know the school and have been there, do many kids honestly wear the wrong stuff?

LuluMaman · 27/07/2009 20:14

if your main reason is that it looks prettier,you a b VVVVVVVVVVVVV U

you should write in and protest that the unifrom should be a different colour as it stains too easily

but this silly bending of the rules that your chidlren have to bear is not a good idea nor a a good example to set

KirstyJC · 27/07/2009 20:15

I think it's a bit u but I wouldn't lose any sleep over it tbh. My DS's primary school says green jumper but some kids have grey or black as well. Like yours, our school and LEA doesn't specify a uniform, just suggests what the school/PTA would prefer.

Most kids do conform, but those who don't look fine and I don't think they stand out at all. Also, little kids (ie the 4 yo) don't notice these things so I doubt would be put out by, or be teased because of, different tops.

I do think it sounds like you are making a point for them not doing your paperwork though - and whilst I agree that is really out of order, it seems a bit childish for you respond like this.

katiestar · 27/07/2009 20:15

Ah now see I think it IS a good example to set.If something is wrong you SHOULD do something about it.Not be a sheep

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 27/07/2009 20:16

Kids don't need to look pretty at school.

LuluMaman · 27/07/2009 20:18

yes, do something about it but through the correct channels..

LuluMaman · 27/07/2009 20:18

what do you thikn is wrong taht oyu need to protest against?

ThingOne · 27/07/2009 20:18

If they get stained then surely everyone else's will be?

YABU. There are loads of places you can get uniform from, and you can always order from M&S and wait until it arrives.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 27/07/2009 20:20

What is wrong about a school chosing a red jumper rather than a grey one or any other colour?