To buy school tops in the wrong colour

[katiestar]

Our state primary school stipulates either the school sweatshirt which is bright red or bright red jumper / cardi with grey skirt/ pinafore.
I have bought my DDs dark grey cardigans to go back to school in for the following reasons.
1 They always get stained because the school doesn't have enough whiteboard markers so children have to use their hands , which inevitably ends up on their top.

2 Only buy uniform from M&S and their stocks were decimated , but had grey in every size.

3 Won't look too diffreent colour-wise from those wearing a pinafore.

3 Am really pissed off at the school who have agreed to be my placement school for a course I have been doing , but failed to return some paperwork in time for the deadline so I have wasted £200 and many hours for nothing.Not really relevant to the school tops but indicative of my feelings to the school.

5 MOST IMPORTANTLY looks lovely against their long pale blonde hair

a plain red top (couple of quid from Asda), which is the same as everyone elses is not one-upmanship

it is conformity, which little children like, it makes them feel safe

what was that module you are doing ?

child psychology ? all righty then

you know best

Well, speaking as a teacher in a secondary school, a different coloured jumper would have an immediate impact. To start with, your LO's would be sent home, at the gate, and told not to come back until they were wearing the correct uniform. At secondary school, the parents and students sign an agreement to abide by the school rules. That applies to school uniform. If they continued to disregard the rules, there would be detentions, exclusions and ultimately exclusion.

Well the Head of the School is not going to let it go. He or she will need to take a stand, since otherwise if you are allowed to infringe the uniform rule it sets a precedent and so can everybody else. Dying to know what happens in September

stopping on upmanship is the only reason they have uniform

ooo k then pft

I think primary is very different to secondary.
Will let you know !

they will still get stained you know.

my girls have had three uniform changes, from grey (which IMVHO looked AWFUL and very very bland) to red and then navy.

navy is actually the only colour that has stayed looking lovely, but I loved the red......very fresh looking I think.

so, in essence, YABVVVU

My children are at Primary School. The Head Teacher would not tolerate it.

you can probably find out your dc school uniform policy by going onto the schools website.

when i was at primary school i hated the fact that i had a different summer dress to everyone else - it was meant to be green and white checks and my checks were just that bit fatter that everyone else's. i'm still quite bitter about it

State primaries cannot send children home for not wearing a uniform. It's against the law.
What a silly fuss on here about a grey cardigan!

Website says

'All children are requested to wear the uniform which consists of.....'

so would you class that as a rule, or not ?

Make your stand if it makes you feel happy-I don't expect the school will waste time trying to enforce something they can't-however you should realise that the only people that it is hurting is your own DCs. I wouldn't do it to mine-I think it very unfair. I would be mortified if I were your DDs-hopefully they are more confident than I was as a DC.

it's called a UNIFORM

Think about it

katie. That's a rule dear. They expect this. It's not going to look good on you if you have to do a placement there, even if they have stuffed up. Your daughters may like the idea now but in September when all of the other children are pointing at them and talking about them it's going to be very different. I appreciate your need for anarchy, but this really isn't the best way to display it. Do something subtle instead. Children can be cruel and will pick up on anything that's different. Think about it.

There are often staff that still go into schools during the holidays if you needed to speak to someone about your placement. You can order M&S school uniform online.

Yes Katiestar I would interpret that as a rule. 'Requested' is a polite word asking for your compliance.

I have to say that if my mother had done it to me I would be very bitter and that sort of thing would affect my adult relationship with her. It is all so pointless-there is a uniform-why stand out just to be difficult at the expense of your DDs?-I am sure there are far more worthy causes to fight about than the colour of a jumper!

Lol at being a bitter adult because you wore a grey cardigan instead of a red top!

are you always so stubborn katie ?

you have not kept the receipts for the grey cardies, so now they will wear them

"Anyway thanks to everyone for their many and varied comments "

I don't think they are varied are they? I think they are universally saying you are doing teh wrong thing!

nope, not varied at all

about 99% saying YABU

I'm quite liking Katie - she obdurately refuses to see reason (in a good natured way)...I sort of respect that in a person

These things are terribly important to a DC-and yes months or years of embarrassment from a mother, who was keener on making a point that worrying about the feelings of her DD would make me bitter! I don't think it fair to make a DC stand out-for pathetic reasons such as it looks nicer with their hair! You are only in school for 6 hrs a day.

It also means that if they are doing fun type things to represent the school they won't be chosen-simply because they don't represent the school.

So you are happy for your 'quirky' daughter to 'bend' a school rule. So what happens when all the other parents allow their 'quirky' children to 'bend' the rules they don't like?

So your precious first-born is too special to have to conform to the school rules that all the other dull little sheep must obey. Golly - what a good lesson to teach her!!

And for heaven's sake, learn the lesson that school uniform is going to get wrecked, and buy it from somewhere cheaper, so that you don't mind so much when it needs replacing!!

I have always outfitted my dses from the cheap and cheerful end of the schoolwear range - they have been comfortable and happy, and I haven't got stressed when yet another pair of trousers got ripped apart during another game of football.

Katie, whilst Im loving the way you're taking the comments I think YABU - in a big big way!

I am a head of key stage in a secondary school and think this would make a major impact on the students more than the staff. The headteacher cannot possibly let it go and although I'm sure a letter will be sent to you the class teachers will be talking to your DDs.

If you are starting a placement in the school I think you are really making a rod for your own back too.

I would send the girls in with board rubbers if it is about the stains, but also the correct uniforms. Despite what you might think, or DD1 might say, they will suffer from others whispering about them, particularly if you remain defiant in September if the school do ask you to change their cardigans (which I suspect you might!!)