...to think that people who post a picture of their child as their Facebook profile are weird?

[Mouette]

I'm not taling about people posting a picture of themselves WITH their children as their Facebook profile picture, nor about people who put pictures of their DC on Facebook. But people who put a picture of their DC (alone) AS their profile picture. Is that not weird? It's as if they had no identity of their own left... And generally: AIBU to think that there's a lot of boasting on Facebook? (as in: look at me, I've got such beautiful children and such an interesting life). Opinions?

And MrsM - why would you want friends whose name you don't even recognise?

I guess I'm in the fb camp of only having friends who I know and like.

I simply don't know 176 people to have as friends.

I'm not saying people can't put any picture they like - of course they can, it's a free country. Just wondered what people thought. Some of my friends have a picture of their pet. My sister-in-law's sister has a picture of her mother's grave. Fair enough... If a tad dark...

I think there's more to it than 'my kids look better'.

I think facebook is all about puttign across a representation of yourlse f that you are happy with in every way. You have full control over it, unlike how you come across in normal day-to-day life. Children do loook beautiful and good and kind and funny and that's preferable to a picture of a 40 year old who hasn't weathered particularly well.

Fair point... I hadn't thought of it that way. It's true my son looks better than me... He's still not me though, so I wouldn't put a picture of him as my picture. But hey, what am I doing on Facebook anyway -it's for teenagers really.

You may be right pointydog, but I don't think it's any worse than those godawful, uber arty farty shots at quirky angles which aren't completely representative of thereality either.

My fb friends see me reasonably regularly so know what I look like: I've no need to portray a glossy, photshopped version of my life.

And I have 'weathered' rather well, thank you.

DH has a picture of Pat Sharpe from the Funhouse days as his profile pic.....

I sometimes have a picture of me, sometimes one or both of my children. I don't think many people seek me out (actually if they do they will find me as I am unique on fb I think).

YABU

I have my 3 children on my profile picture - there is no way I'm putting my ugly mug up there!!

I don't want to be recognised thankyou very much - I don't want to be contacted by people from my school days.

If that makes me a weird, then meh ...I've been called worse ...

when did this thread become about me?

YANBU

I've always though this a bit weird like your child is your identity. Interesting to read this post and others' comments

YABU. I look shit in photos. DS looks MUCH cuter!

YANBU - they are your DCs - not your clones....

lol MrsM.

Oops! First reply was to mummydragon. Apols. Fridaynightitis. It's been a looong week!

phew will take my paranoid hat off now!

yabu. I change mine a lot though. Have had me on my own, dd1, dd2, both dds together, all of us, me and dh, the dog.. etc. What does that say about my identity? Split personality??

Have just looked at myself in a magnifying mirror. Oh dear. Am now reviewing my opinion. Maybe picture of cat would be better.
Would DS like it if I posted a picture of him as my profile picture? What if he found out in 10 years' time? "Aarggh, Mum! I'm not some old bird!"
The cat won't mind though.

YABU

I ming,, they don't

ATM however its a long distance shot of myself and ds4.

Am I being unreasonable to think you have nothing else to think about?

I have my children as my facebook profile and dont see whats weird about that.

Nothing to do with losing your identity.

Only my friends are on my friend list and they like seeing updated pics of my children especially the ones who live far away and i dont see much.

If you want your profile pic to be different mug shots of your face then thats fair enough.

Each to their own but definitely not weird!

hahahahaha

Sometimes I have a pic of DC (alone, god forbid) as my FB picture.

I am fairly confident I have some identity left, and my DS IS gorgeous but usually my status updates relate to giving him away for being a sod.

YABU, and need to get out more.

Huh? I'm clearly not the only one wasting time on Mumsnet whilst DH is out and DS is asleep. I can't get out anyway, it's raining and I'm worried about swine flu.

Mouette don't worry - surely that's the good thing about mumsnet - we can post about any old thing we happen to be pondering, or about life changing events - whatever!

It's a bit harsh to tell me to get out more. Where are you guys at the moment? Not dancing the samba with exciting men, presumably.

Thanks bluejeans, glad I'm not the only saaad person here... I only post (mildly) provocative threads to stop myself from reaching for the biscuit tin...

YANBU

DD is definitely better looking than I am but a photo of her (alone) is not really representative of me.

Besides, I imagine she'll have her own FB account soon (she's 7 months already) and will want to reclaim all images for her own purposes...