to have bought my first packet of cigarettes to drink with some Baileys in the daytime as a secret Vs up to my dh?

[HoneyDue]

I am rebelling because my dh does not care for me so I'm secretly smoking and drinking as a form of rebellion against him.

The op is for a hernia which is why I find cleaning, lifting etc difficult but he just thinks I'm lazy and has no respect for me. He can't hide his contempt. I do not want to get a divorce because I'd lose my home wouldn't I. I have 3 young dc and am sahm.

Of course you are love. Well good luck on the smoking. That'll help with the anaesthetic

You're punishing yourself by doing this, not him.

You can get another home, somehow, even living in a bedsit for a while is better than allowing him to treat you like this,particuarly in front of your children. You're teaching them that his behaviour is acceptable and the norm.

Try a drop of avocat in your Baileys and a marachino cherry. Blimmin luvverly.

Sod the baileys,why don't you just start with a line of coke,that'll show him.

Boak at the thought of Bailey's at all, much less neat and in the middle of the day.

Yuk.

Why not join a gym instead, get really fit and then LEAVE HIM?

Whynot just spit in his dinner? Do a little toilet cleaning with his toothbrush.

Baileys - yuck

Baileys and fags Tis a troll for sure

better revenge would be to pour the baileys over his fat head

then again, perhaps it's time you went out to play

I have plucked up courage to write this. I cannot leave my dh because as a sahm I've put a lot of time and effort into my home and I do not want to leave it.

My home means more to me than my dh.

I can put up with his nastiness (he's not violent just nasty to me) and if smoking and drinking aren't good methods I'd like to know other methods to get back at him for being mean to me. (without bankrupting us)

He is lovely to dc, my parents, his mother (who worships the ground he walks on)

yes you are being unbelievable unreasonable. HTH

feminist scmeminist
google shelter - they can give you helpful housing advice ring them they aren't for those who are homeless.

google your options.

help yourself.

Is a bit odd to care more about keeping your nice house than the fact that your DH is a cock who doesn't give a monkeys.

If you're looking after kiddies I assume you won't be getting lashed on the baileys - so a small baileys and a couple of fags isn't really all that exciting.

Why not get him to look after the kids and go out with a friend/some friends and get properly pissed and smoke if you like. Then you can tell your friends what a cock your DH is.

What's the OP for? If you're having a general anaesthetic you have to have someone with you for the next day or 2 (if they let you home that quick) so you will need to arrange alternative childcare. So if he won't do it you better start thinking what alternatives you have.

I wouldn't stay with someone I disliked for the sake of a house! Your response is as if he is the parent and you are the child. Going to get some legal advise would be a better start.

clean the toilet with his toothbrush?
immac in his hair cream?

baileys' not a very nice drink - rubbish revenge.

Well, if it is secret he won't know and it isn't two fingers up to him, and why do you want to damage your health just to score points?

Madness.

Absinthe is delicious

So, you are ill enough to need an operation.

Are pissed off with your husband.

Have considered an affair.

If you are real, get yourself to a solicitor and let your husband meet a grown up woman.

have you ever tried chicken a la loo?
delicious
wipe dh's chicken round the toilet bowl

hth x

i've thought of another. next time you get the bus, make sure you sit on the back seat and play music from your phone so that everyone can hear it....great rebellion, that one.