AppleandMosesMummy, you sound like my grandmother. She told me a few weeks ago that people don't send their kids to private school because they "aren't willing to make the sacrifices", and that she never had holidays or new clothes so she could send my mother and uncle. Firstly, she's full of it, because they were on army places. Secondly, she couldn't seem to get her head around the fact that half of this country earn less than £30k a year, and after tax, that's less than a good boarding school's annual fees. How the hell can a family spend more than they earn on one child's education? Frankly anyone suggesting such a thing must have truly appalling maths. I do hope their own parents didn't pay for it.
Nobody is saying that private education should be banned. They're saying that the charitable status is deeply suspect on principle, because the educational benefits are only available to the very wealthiest in the country - so why should they have tax breaks to service their ensuring inherited privilege for their children? It's that aspect that sticks in people's gullets. It's also wholly disingenuous to claim the only advantage is VAT exemption on fees. Donations (towards a new science lab, for example), are eligible for the gift-in-aid scheme, so the school can claim the donor's income tax back from the state for the amount on question, just as if the donation was for cancer research, or Oxfam. And in some private schools, that amounts to a very, very large claw-back indeed.
"State schools are full of teachers who are paid by the state because frankly they couldn't cut it any other walk of life IME."
That's entertaining, given a PGCE is actually quite competitive, and the state system requires one - the private doesn't. There's a supposedly excellent private school near here that employed a 21 year old, straight out of university, to teach Latin. What did she know about lesson planning, learning styles or teaching skills? Nothing. She cheerfully admitted as much to us - she was our contemporary at university, you see. And have you ever heard of Teach First?