Its taken me all bloody day to read this thread and I have been, in turns, amused, horrified, impressed, fascinated and stunned (mainly at some people's "i'm ok sod the rest of you" attitudes).
I would like to say a hearty congrats to UQD, hatwoman and MIFLAW (in the early stages the debate) for so eloquently reminding me of all the issues I have with private schools.
I find the arguments that a child deserves to suffer a substandard education because their parents didn't plan their careers to enable school fees to be paid, despicable quite frankly. You do remember that this is children we're talking about don't you?
And by the way I don't think the state provides a substandard education in the vast majority of cases but those sending their kids to private school obviously do otherwise why would you bother?
And as for the 'oh poor me, we can't afford anything because we're sending our children to an expensive school' well my heart bleeds. If it is that hard then save the money, send them to your local state school and spend more time, energy and money trying to improve it. Everyone agrees that an articulate and motivated group of parents can make a big difference to a school don't they? So why do so many of those who could make a difference take the, ultimately selfish, option of forking out the money every term? Is it laziness I wonder? Or just pessimism?
In fact, has anyone ever thought that part of the reason for declining standards at state schools (particularly in London) is that more people are choosing to spend money on education. Maybe its a self-fulfilling prophecy?