to want ds (3) to not always try and sabotage the "quality" time I'm trying to spend with his sisters after school?

[emkana]

I suspect I am bu, but goodness me it depresses me... he goes into full on whingey mood whenever I try and do stuff with his sisters. If I just leave all three of them to it he is fine.

there you have your solution

benign neglect

leave 'em to it and forget "quality" stuff, it is a myth

tis the same in this house too.........altho for me the worst now is every time DH and I try to talk.

all five chime in.