to regret giving my dd a gay packed lunch?

[pointydog]

Dd1 (12) was off on a fun school trip today with a mix of kids from high school.

I suggested a few things for her packed lunch this morning and she went off happily with a peanut butter sandwich, a fruitus bar, a kitkat, some dried apricots, a tub of home-made muesli and a bag of chipsticks.

The tuff kids laughed at her lunch - snorting particularly loudly at the apricots - and called it gay.

I feel like the mum in About A Boy.

Peer pressure at lunch is a nightmare! DS1 is 11 (fussy eater so hard to find different things for his lunch) and will not take malt loaf - apparantly it looks like poo! Pizza slice & crackers are also frowned upon - like our job's not hard enough!!

this is an area dialect/slang thing isn't it, because where I used to teach (north staffs) the word gay was bandied about meaning naff, boring, unfair/mean (depending on context) without having anything to do with homosexuality

they certainly did not mean that your DD was "gay", they just thought her lunch was boring/wierd

yes, nits, everything is gay. It's a lazy, meaningless insult

lol @ SGB

my dd refuses to have celery (she loves it) because all er friends AND teachers said they hated it, so now she's too 'embarrassed' to eat it

she is 6

lol @ SGB here too

Hate 'oh that's so gaaaaay'. Come up with an insult that's actually insulting why don't you?

Yes it's a really crap insult... I'm surprised actually as I thought the yoof were more enlightened now - when you look at Big Brother over the past few years you're hardly allowed in if you aren't in some kind of sexuality minority.

I remember boys at my primary school 30 years ago calling each other "lesbians'" though as an insult.

But anyway - back to the pepperami. I had one for the first time the other day (blame DP) and was revolted to find they actually come with a condom on! (at least it really looks like one)

lesbian is still an insult but not half as popular as fat

"sing with your eyes closed"? wtf?

I hate the use of 'gay' in this manner, seems homophobic to me.

Hilarious. reminds me that I once put a High School Musical Frube into DS1 aged 7 lunch box. I had not even noticed what damm thing the bloody yoghurt was plugging.

I got a right telling off in the car and it was quite plainly meant for girls.

Silly Mummy.

I've heard DS say something was 'gay', (he's 9), but I didn't make an issue of it, I will have to ask him what he meant.

I would only question the muesli as a lunch option, but other than that ...!

oooh, pointy, assuming she is not dairy-free anymore then!!

mean kids BTW.

tell her she is not a sheep
baa

it sounded delicious

lol @ HSM frube for ds

slarty, next time she will throw dry muesli at them.

(It is home meade granola by the way. Like flapjack, just not all stuck together)

sounds lovely.

write her a lickle letter for her gay lunch box next time

how do they get candy floss into a packed lunch? it must be very small candy floss because if you pack it too tightly it goes into a sugary lump doesn't it

My 9yo dd wouldn't wear an Easter Bonnet in this years parade, because it was, and I quote "well gay".

Funny thing is, it lead to a discussion about homosexuality and she hadn't linked the two at all. She was meaning geeky/dorky.

Like others have said, it is a ridiculous insult, which to lots of children, means nothing to do with actually being gay.

Still to be discouraged though ...

I told DSS to explain to my gay aunt (who spoils him rotten) why he was using the word gay as an insult... hasn't used it since

My mums middle name is GAY.

She hates it. I tease her sometimes and say

Susan Gay Lewis - woo hooo!

She's 61 and hates Susan and likes Sue so you can really piss her off with it!

Never mind the gay bit, I'm amazed you weren't drummed out of the Good Mum's Club for allowing peanut butter. There is a possibility someone within a forty mile radius may be allergic to it.

I'm not condoning it, but if the meaning can evolve once from "happy" to "homosexual", why can't it now change to mean "bad"?