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Original poster

To think if you live in a semi you shouldn't have a live band in your garden.

113 replies

StripeyKnickersSpottySocks · 26/06/2009 18:42

I thought radios were bad enogh but the fuckwits next door now have their kids and mates with a full set band 6 ft from my house. Amps, full drum kit, guitars, etc. Parents are looking on lovingly.

What time can I call the police.

I'm havng a dinner part tonight, we won't be sitting out and enjoying the garden now. Infact all windows will have to be shut and I can still hear it really badly.

OP posts:
Boys2mam · 26/06/2009 21:06

I can't 'ere owt over the dogs barking and the chav moosic.....

Boys2mam · 26/06/2009 21:07

feck

'ear

piscesmoon · 26/06/2009 21:41

'I can't understand the posters on here who think it's ok to make a load of noise so long as it's only once in a while!'

Neither can I-once is too much. I am very thankful that I don't live next door to those of you who think it is perfectly acceptable to have enjoyment when it causes utter misery to others.There is no way anyone can ever have a band in their garden! Around our way it wouldn't only be the next door neighbours complaining-it would be the roads all around.

Boys2mam · 26/06/2009 21:45

No-one has complained, that we're aware of though.

Its bitching complaining on MN only..,..

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StripeyKnickersSpottySocks · 26/06/2009 21:59

Well after it had been going on for only about 20 mins I stuck my head out the window and asked if th y could turn it down. I asked nicely and just said its really loud so can you turn it down. I'm not sure if they misunderstood me but they stopped completely and packed away.

I feel bad now. If they'd just turned it down it wouldn't have been so bad but having amps turned up to full level at about 50x stereo noise level was not funny.

So yes, they probably thing I'm a right killjoy now and I'll probably have neighbour problems for ever.

OP posts:
Boys2mam · 26/06/2009 22:01

Can you pop round and speak to them about it? Tomorrow perhaps?

PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 26/06/2009 22:11

They probably felt they were no longer able to enjoy what might have been a short and enjoyable evening for them.

But at least you got some peace and quiet so that your night was not ruined. Nice one.

You might not have a horrid relationship with them over it in the future, but certainly you have not made it better by not even giving the an hour of listening to their children playing music. I am sure if they were going to make your life a misery because of it, they would have just said 'feck you' and carried on with it.

piscesmoon · 26/06/2009 22:21

I would just be thankful that they seem nice boys! You could pop around tomorrow and have a polite, friendly word about it.

noddyholder · 26/06/2009 22:24

get over yourself Lifes short Rock out with them!

helsbels4 · 26/06/2009 22:25

I would definitely go round tomorrow and tell them that you don't mind once in a while as long as you get some prior notice. Tell them you're not a complete hag but a bit of understanding wouldn't go amiss.

They seem quite decent if they're prepared to turn it off not like the lovely lads near me

Hulababy · 26/06/2009 22:27

Don't feel guilty. You politely asked if the could turn it down a bit as it was loud. Nothing wrong with that. If they took offence and stopped altogether that is their choice. If they can't have a bit of a compromise they leave them to sulk.

or it could be that they were just finishing anyway.

PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 26/06/2009 22:28

But I don't think OP said she minded as she was given no notice. it was more that it was loud, out of tune and ruining her dinner party. That would happen, notice or not.

helsbels4 · 26/06/2009 22:33

It would be better though surely, if the neighbours came round prior to the noise???? I wouldn't mind if the grandson one door away told me he'd always play his music between say 6 and 7pm because then I could plan around it but he plays it whenever he fancies and that is what infuriates me. Just because he wants to listen to shite music, doesn't mean to say I do!

GlastonburyGoddess · 26/06/2009 22:37

YABa bitU. once, in the early evening, obviously if it went on really late the YANBU and i would go round and ask them to turn it down, but 6.30(OP) is perfectly reasonable imo.

as for those of you saying about kids making noise in the garden wtf? why shouldnt kids enjoy their gardens. my neibours on my right are like this and shout "why do children shout" loudly over the fence and complain about them making noise. I despise this, they are only 5 and 3 so why cant they have a bit of fun/splashing around in the pool/bit of shrieking. they are only allowed out there from 10am ish till 7pm, so its not like theyre keeping anyone awake.
since when did we live in victorian britian?

noddyholder · 26/06/2009 22:41

When you are young it seems a perfectly reasonable thing to do.When you are older it pisses you off but it doesn't mean you are right and they are wrong just because you are older and grumpier .Unless it was a constant thing and past about 12 then live and let live We were all young once.

helsbels4 · 26/06/2009 22:52

GlastonburyGoddess, I love hearing my children shriek with laughter but I also appreciate that the older people living either side of us might not appreciate it quite so much, just as I don't appreciate my next-door-neighbour-but-one's grandson choice of very loud, very rubbish music

I really do think that if everyone thought of each other just a little bit more then it would all be a bit more harmonious!

PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 27/06/2009 07:37

helsbels - we would all be very quiet, afraid, and bloody bored, but not necessarily harmonous - we would be walking on eggshells.

But, a little tolerance and a little of what it good for you, accepted by others, makes for true harmony, as it means people are more likely to be truly happy.

noddy has it spot on.

helsbels4 · 27/06/2009 07:50

I don't agree that we would all be very afraid and bored and yes, we were all young once but I can honestly say I've never played my music so loud that you'd be able to hear it two doors away! I was brought up to respect others but it appears to me, that there is very little respect any more in society and that's a shame imo.

sarah293 · 27/06/2009 07:53

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PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 27/06/2009 07:53

ok, maybe i shall rephrase that - many people would be afraid and bored. Those who have to stop doing what they enjoy to accommodate those that want peace and quiet.

piscesmoon · 27/06/2009 08:32

What happens to those with small children who are trying to sleep at 7pm? There may be people who are suffering from migraine. There may be 101 reasons why people don't want a loud antisocial noise, without prior warning. If you live in a community, you are not free to do what you want then you want.

PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 27/06/2009 08:38

In that casehat about those children who go to sleep at 6pm then? Or those who nap in the day time so won't want noise or what about those who night work and cannot abide building work at 8am (or any time during the day) as they need to sleep.

Not everyone lives, or chooses to live any particular one way, so does that mean we all have to be quiet all of the time, for all those who don't want noise at any given time of the day. If that is the case we would be screwed as we have 10 weeks of building work going on starting at 8am and finishing at 5pm, monday to friday and we have a baby on the way. We would have a miserable life if we could not extend our loft as we would have no room. But as long as someone else was happier for a few weeks that would be ok?

It just shows NO tolerance.

slackrunner · 27/06/2009 08:45

Spotty - are you sure your name isn't Margot Leadbetter? All this chat of dinner parties being ruined

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PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 27/06/2009 08:50

But Riven who says loud music is not acceptable? Who decides? You? the OP? Me? The police? The environmental dept at the council?

If it was the OPs choice, loud music would not be acceptable at 7pm on a Friday night. If it were your choice, loud music would not be acceptable on a Friday night. If it were my choice, loud music would be acceptable at 7pm on a Friday night. The Police would say it is acceptable. The environmental dept would say it is acceptable if not on a regular basis (and to be honest at 7pm would probably not do much even if it happened every week).