To think if you live in a semi you shouldn't have a live band in your garden.

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I thought radios were bad enogh but the fuckwits next door now have their kids and mates with a full set band 6 ft from my house. Amps, full drum kit, guitars, etc. Parents are looking on lovingly.

What time can I call the police.

I'm havng a dinner part tonight, we won't be sitting out and enjoying the garden now. Infact all windows will have to be shut and I can still hear it really badly.

I think as some others have said you have to accept some disturbance some of the time. It's unfortunate, but it's the price we pay for living so closely packed together.

You can only really complain if it happens a lot or is very late at night.

At some point you will do something noisy (perhaps building work) and they will have to tolerate it.

They might be and if so, if it continuous I agree complain. But not for a band at what is now 7:30pm.

We complained about noise next door once. at 11:45pm when I was very pg and has listened to it for days in a row. DH went next door and politely asked them to turn it down which they did immediately. The father had been out and returned shortly after and said he had been working each evening and apologised. It did not happen again until his DS's birthday and we were informed, and invited.

Disputes do not have to be disgruntled disputes, they can be dealt with simply and effectively with some understanding, tolerance and leeway.

As someone said earlier. Say nothing now at an early stage, and then if it goes on past x time, you have demonstrated reasonableness and can request it be toned down.

And when you make noise, that courtesy will be extended (we now have horrendous noise from our house due to a loft extension and have weeks left to go).

OP said nothing about it being again though, did she? The 'rave' was ridiculous, through the night and without parents consent but this is at a reasonable time with parental supervision.

YABU

we had this recently. Neighbours in the next street hosting a live band and DJ in their terraced garden from 5 in the evening til 4 in the morning. It was bloody horrendous. God knows how they're direct neighbours coped. I was hallucinating from lack of sleep and poor dh had to get up and go to work the next day, dd barely slept as well...

We rang the police who said they would do nothing. Even rang environmental health who said they don't come out on a Sunday night apparently its acceptable to do this unless you produce a 'noise diary' and only will environment officers come out if the music is 'persistent' ie happens regularly over months.

Neighbours do this once a year to us

So that means they don't do it 364 days a year

bad luck over the dnner party, but on balance.....

LAst time we were having a barbecue, so gave up drank beer went outside and sang badly

try it? free entertainment?

wise words from Pavlov.

I do think though that as onagar said we DO live closely packed and that's why I hate all this crap in the magazines and on tv programmes about "treat your garden as another room!" well, no it's not another room and you can't put your stereo on and live out there loudly so that your neighbours never get any quiet time to enjoy their own space!

It is another space yes, but we need to use it with consideration for others and not in exactly the same way as we'd use the space inside our house

rant over

Pavlov talks sense

'Everyone's entitled to enjoy their garden the way they want to.'

Most definitely not if it upsets anyone else!
I would go round and ask them to go inside.

my point exactly pisces!

Could be worse BTW- woman down the road has Bad playing at max level and you can hear her sobbing over the top of it.

Coul;d you imagine deciding between whether to interrupt and upset her or put up with it for however long?

Live and let live

May as well book yourself into the old folk's home now

Well said pisces. Everyone cant enjoy the garden as they want to if a neighbour is playing loud music. What if others want to hear the birds sing and read a book ...

I think if my neighbours were having a live band next door tonight I'd be weeping! Theres noise and theres noise!

Neighbours dd across the road came across recently to say she was having a party and would trun the music down by 11pm. That was lovely and really appreciated. It meant that when her friends were going home at midnight in a rather merry fashion, it didn't bother me a bit.

Slowreading - as you rightly said, we live on top of each other and this is exactly why the band should be allowed to play. It is so difficult to ensure that everyone is happy all of the time, and what some people find entertainment, others do not, the way some people choose to enjoy their time is different to others. So tolerance on all levels is needed, tolerance of the way they have chosen on this one occasion to enjoy there evening, and their tolerance of their neighbours who not enjoy it, by leaving plenty of other evenings when you can hear the birds sing, and by turning it down after a certain time if you request it.

Tolerance is so so important in an overcrowded environment, both ways. And is so lacking in society.

I can't understand the posters on here who think it's ok to make a load of noise so long as it's only once in a while!

My next-door neighbour but one, has her grandson living there and the summer months are horrendous! Admittedly he usually only has his music absolutely blaring for about an hour but it is pretty much every day!

I've stood in my kitchen this evening cooking the family meal, with the door shut and the washing machine on because it drives me insane!!!!!

I tell my dc's to quieten down when they're getting lairy in the garden because I have consideration for others and I appreciate that not everyone wants to listen to my children having fun, so why can't other ignorant shits plug in a pair of head-phones and listen to their shite music as loud as they like without disturbing others? AAArrgghhhhh. Rant over, as you were

Exactly pavlov

Is one evening, for which they ahve clearly rpepared and look forwards to, worth years of black looks and the like from neighbours anyway?

If they're still at it late, by all means have a word. If they're annoying make a point of asking for warnng if it happens again.

But AFAYK it oculd all be to perform one or two somngs they have qwritten for a local show and be over by 8.30

which on a Friday night is Not The End Of The World

Yes Helsbels but tahts repetitive annoyance

If it had happened once in August 2008 would you even remember it?

YAB a little U imo.

Surely everyone is allowed a bit of a knees up in their back garden now and again. There may well be times when you make a bit too much noise and would appreciate a bit of understanding.

My neighbours are constantly doing work on their the house which can be pretty noisy into the evening. I bite my tongue as I know there are odd occasions when we'll want friends round and sit in the garden until late. Just a bit of give and take I reckon.

Im with you helsbels. I too make my kids come inside if they start yelling and arguing. They can play as much as they like at reasonable levels (and by no means quite) but I am so aware that there are elderly couples both sides next door who probably enjoy or can just about tolerate normal children playing, but not squabbling, yelling etc. Im proud that my kids already understand to be considerate of the neighbours. As you say, people should use headphones when wanting to listen to music outside or anywhere public. What is the difference between having a stereo on in a garden so everybody has to listen to it, and having a stereo placed on the table in the middle of a train carriage or library. That wouldnt be deemed acceptable.

I do think a party or two a year is acceptable with notice though. But the notice bit is the key. I bet the op wouldnt even be noticing it if she knew about it in advance.

Where is OP? Hee hee, she's probably out enjoying the music. Oh no, dinner party....

I wonder if they are still out there?

I wonder what the people who live around Hyde Park are going to be thinking this weekend, the Hard Rock Calling festival is on, and that is not going to be quiet, and its in a built up area with a lot of people to piss off.

I just don't get being p**d off so early on a Fri night. I understand graciousness and allowing people to allow their gardens to varying degrees but each to their own. Its not every night, even week....

Maybe its cos I live on a council estate

Ah that explains it, no sprinklers to stop the noise you see, so you have become hardened to it