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To be totally upset for being kicked out of pub cuz son was crying?

87 replies

monkeyfacegrace · 26/06/2009 14:11

Ahh maybe Im being totally over sensitive, but having a few problems with my son i.e he wont stop fucking crying the whole time. Anyway, mum takes me for lunch (where we thought was child friendly) to cheer me up. 1, no baby changing, so had to do it on my lap
2, wouldnt heat his dinner, so had to have it cold
3, wouldnt heat his milk, so the forula didnt mix properly so couldn't give it to him. Against company policy to heat baby stuff.

Soooo, after about half hour, my son (7 months) had had his cold lunch and was crying for a bottle. We were half waythrough ours and had already paid so we decided to eat up. Then manager comes over, says there has been a complaint about son crying. Well yeah you stupid fuck, your 'policy' says he cant have his milk heated. So we had to leave!
Im so upset, Im stressed anyway cuz of hearing his whinging all day without wasting money on a very rare lunch and being asked to leave by some pretentious shit in a pink shirt.
Excuse my language.

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PM73 · 26/06/2009 14:13
Hmm
Iklboo · 26/06/2009 14:14
Hmm
Lizzylou · 26/06/2009 14:14

another one for good measure

PM73 · 26/06/2009 14:15

You can never have too many,whilst we are here do you think we could have an emoticon that looks like a cats bum mouth?

monkeyfacegrace · 26/06/2009 14:16

so Im being over sensitive then!!

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Lulumama · 26/06/2009 14:16

goodness me, you sound thoroughly pissed off

why did you not ask for a jug of hot water for the bottle?

why did you not leave when it became apparent that it was not child friendly?

he is 7 months old, crying is his only way to communicate, in this instance, he was most likely hungry and picking up on your stress

you should have left and fed him somewhere else and gone elsewhere

EccentricaGallumbits · 26/06/2009 14:17

and another

why bother going out for lunch unprepared then get cross when it doesn't work?

Iklboo · 26/06/2009 14:17

Ooh I'd LOVE a cat's bum mouth emoticon!

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 26/06/2009 14:17

I'm sorry you feel so stressed. Perhaps you could check the baby-friendliness of the venue next time you go out? Most pubs are not going to be happy about a baby crying constantly at lunchtime, and you don't really have to be in a licensed place to have a meal.

Fimbo · 26/06/2009 14:17

Ah see this is why you should go to John Lewis and not a pub

monkeyfacegrace · 26/06/2009 14:18

They didnt have any jugs spare apparently, and there were loads of toddlers in there so we assumed all was ok. It was only after we had ordered and paid that I discovered lack of facilities.
So we basically had paid, and had food in front of us before he kicked off.

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monkeyfacegrace · 26/06/2009 14:19

I used to out for lunch all the time with my eldest, always prepared, but never ever come across somewhere that wouldnt heat baby food for you!

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Nancy66 · 26/06/2009 14:19

They were wrong to ask you to leave...and when they did you should have asked for a refund.

but but but - why didn't you go elsewhere when it became apparent that you were not going to be catered for babywise?

Lulumama · 26/06/2009 14:19

you could get your son used to room temp food, or eating waht you eat

or take your own flask of water or a carton of ready made formula

nappyaddict · 26/06/2009 14:20

A lot of places now won't heat up baby food/bottles etc so I am surprised you didn't plan for this just in case they wouldn't. When DS was that age I would always take out a small thermos of hot water for such occasions. On an occasion where I did forget I would just ask for a pot of tea and ask for them to put the tea bag on the side and said it was because I like it weak. I never mentioned it was to heat up baby stuff so they were none the wiser and didn't decline.

Frasersmum123 · 26/06/2009 14:20

YABU to go out unprepared, and YABU to be so rude about someone who was just doing thier job.

Lulumama · 26/06/2009 14:21

loads of places wont; heat baby food or milk in a microwave and rightly so, commercial microwaves are incredibly hot and could cause scalding/burning via hotspots

take some rice cakes/ breadsticks etc for your little one and a carton of formula and no need to stress

Nancy66 · 26/06/2009 14:21

is the pub part of a large chain/brewery?

If so write to the head office - say that you were asked to leave, ham it up about your humiliation, upset, distress etc and you will probably get compensation vouchers -you can return in the future minus screaming infant.

monkeyfacegrace · 26/06/2009 14:21

Seriously? Ive never had any probs getting food warmed up, most places round here have microwaves etc for customer use.

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nappyaddict · 26/06/2009 14:23

Where I work we don't use jugs so it is likely they may not have had any. In future if there are no jugs but they are happy to let you have hot water at the table (many places aren't in case someone knocks it over) you could ask for a plastic cup or plastic container to put the water in.

monkeyfacegrace · 26/06/2009 14:23

soz forgot to mention, he was premmie so 5 months corrected, so he can only have totally pureed food atm, so cant have finger food or just some of mine.

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nappyaddict · 26/06/2009 14:24

The only place I've been to with a microwave for customer use was a cafe at the zoo, places like debenhams and soft play areas.

monkeyfacegrace · 26/06/2009 14:26

Must be just around here then, even our local frankie and bennys has one!

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qwertpoiuy · 26/06/2009 14:26

Leave OP alone. She said she gets out rarely, so she might not be as prepared as others who get out more often!

You'll know better next time, OP. I feel your pain, I'm so glad my children are older and over that awkward stage.

The policies in that pub seem way over the top, I doubt if the barman would have given the OP a jug of boiling water. And the clientele sound like complete knobs, choose your venues more carefully next time.

Once you get LO asleep, why not hit a cushion and pretend it's the barman and the person that complained about your crying baby- then relax and have a glass of wine.

Cerened · 26/06/2009 14:27

I don't understand - were you kicked out (as per thread title) or did you decide to leave because of the 'pretentious shit'?

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