To think sometimes mumsnet sucks

[VeraDuckworthsHandbag]

Now I know it is just a bunch of people on the WWW but in the time I have been on here I have been given some great advice, seen others given great advice , and support, and hope and friendship and on the whole I think most people here are decent.
I know everyone is different and everyone has the right to their own point of view but sometimes just sometimes it gets so hypercritical I could scream.

A mumsnetter who's husband is having an affair is joined in the Other woman bashing, but a mums netter who is about to embark on or is having an affair is given support.

A person who has a husband or partner going to jail is given support and of course he is judged innocent

Then there is the great mumsnet get out of jail free card depression.

But when it really becomes quite sick is on days like today when someone in the public eye dies and holier then thou posters start dancing on the grave.

All you people bashing Micheal Jackson today should be ashamed as he was never convicted of anything, there was no proof he had done anything wrong but in true Jade goody style it starts and people show their sick side.
Everyone thinking he was a perv, can you hand on heart say your partner has NEVER looked at something child related on the internet? Now as you all say not my man just think about it, you do not know.

How do you know when a mumsnetter comes on and says their partner /parent what ever has died and we all go so sorry thinking of you, that that dead person was a good person? You don't but you say sorry for the familys loss.

The same people who have a go today will be the ones who say "oh no you can't hang people" the sort that defend pond scum like Sharon Matthews mother because she was "depressed" or stick up for the dirty fat bitch on wifeswap cause "it is sociality to blame that she was too lazy to get her fat arse out of bed and feed her child anythink better then crisp and not hers"

In the rush to be the most PC person on the board you lose sight of the truth, and sometimes the truth is not PC.

If MJ had been married to a mumsnetter the threads today would be so so different, and anyone who thinks not is deluded

"Everyone thinking he was a perv, can you hand on heart say your partner has NEVER looked at something child related on the internet? Now as you all say not my man just think about it, you do not know."

Huh? Firstly, yes I can hand on bloody heart say that or I'd leave him after calling the sodding police. Secondly, if he had, I'd not be saying it was in some way okay because other people's might have, too. In what way is that statement a defence of MJ (who as you correctly point out has never been convicted)? Although quite frankly if my DH had a predilection for cosy sleepovers with little boys, I'd leave him too. There's lonely and then there's grossly and selfishly inappropriate at BEST.

People can say what they like about a man none of us knew at all. He's famous fgs, not a close personal friend. I'm sorry people are upset about this, but equating it to actual loss of a loved one is pretty insulting to those on the bereavement threads genuinely going through sheer, agonising hell.

And the jokes make me laugh. Sue me.

YABU
Michael Jackson was a child abuser and I have no doubt of that
My DH has never accessed child abuse images online. He's not very computer literate so I'd be able too see immediately if he did. I knew when he had googled 'hot sex'. Lol.
I've never seen anyone get support when they say they are thinking about having an affair. The opposite in fact.

What a fucked up thread.

Is it really an attack to speculate on someone's usual ID? Huh.

Anyway OP got her answer to AIBU. And vanished, it seems...

Jeez some people are just bloody stupid. Vera you seem to have a weird attitude to men if you think they all want to look at kids on the internet.

I'm just assuming that you wanted to rile a few people up because I cannot think of any other reason why you would have said something so awful.

Yes, MN does have double standards, but don't we all.

Of course MN has double standards. We're all just a bunch of strangers on the internet. We are not god.

burninup....yes it is.

Op your gasseing......... Never read so much breeze in one post jheeeeeeeze how fun would MN be if we all agreed.

As for the statement about Men looking at child related things online you are not serious.... Stop tarring everyone with the same brush because if you honestly believe that do you also believe that all nursery nurses are peado's

Jheeeeeeeeze

I think it is at the very least hurtful, if not actually an attack, when someone is wrongly accused of writing an unpleasant thread such as this one, burningupinspeed.

I can hand on heart say my husband has NEVER looked at anything child related on the internet.

You fucking loon.

Now look I have NEVER said all men look at kiddie porn, or that most men do, I have said you can NEVER say for sure that someone has not. The point I was trying to make was that before you all jump on the grave of a dead man calling him a pedophile you need to think. He was never convicted of any crime, you do not know if he did anything wrong and NO ONE ( and I am sorry for those of you think you know it all) NO ONE knows for 100% that someone you know would not look at this type of filth. I would put money on if someone (well known poster) came here and said she though or knew her partner had looked at this sort of thing that she would get more support then flaming.

It was the same with Jade goody, so much hate for a young mother who died a horrible death.

I find it hard that so much hate could be pored on someone you have never even met.

It is sad that so many people sit on there computers and judge and pore scorn on people they do not know, you know what the papers tell you, and a lot of that is crap.

At the end of the day 3 children have lost their father and that is heartbreaking.
But carry on taking what I have said and twisting it, I will say again...
THE POINT I WAS TRYING TO MAKE IS YOU DO NOT KNOW IF HE DID OR DID NOT ABUSE CHILDREN, AND YOU DO NOT KNOW WHO LOOKS AT WHAT NO MATTER HOW WELL YOU THINK YOU KNOW THEM.
MY FRIENDS HUSBAND IS CRB CHECKED AND WORKS WITH CHILDREN AND IS A TOP BLOKE TO ALL WHO KNOW HIM...BUT THEY DON'T KNOW HIM AT ALL.

pingping.

Do you lahove Dr Cox????

I heard a wee radge on the bus talking into his mobile phone - he was going on about how he didn't even realise MJ had popped it and then went on to say,

'Aye, mebbe they can melt Jacko doon, turn a' the plastic bits into toys, and then kids can play with him for a change, eh? Haw Haw'

I'll admit I had to stifle a laugh.

still waiting for you to say who you usually are.. this is a bit of a big post for an occasional poster/ lurker...

LOL, I find Mumsnet so tame - you really need to back away from the computer if Mumsnet is getting to you.

I also absolutely 100% know that my husband has never looked at anything child related, even the tiniest little inkling or clue on my part would be enough for him to be hung out to dry. It should worry you that you can't say the same.

"depresed"

what you mean the disease that almost killed my DH?

In "" marks?

And you think OTHER people are nasty?

FFS

As they say

like it or piss off

Any sympathy vanised the moment you typed that

I can because I don't have one,

However my friend said the same no he never would ...till he did

Its the same as saying oh my other half would never have an affair, then they leave you for the shag buddy..

NONE of you know if MJ did anything wrong, but you all want to say he did, and that says a lot about you really.

Fed up now, leaving

Byeeeee!

OP, MJ admitted to inappropriate activities with children.
Rumours or not would you allow your dcs to stay at his house?????

close the door on your way out

I couldn't care less about MJ, I have no opinion either way, I've not opened any of threads for that reason. But you're other comments make my teeth itch, frankly.

oooh I do love a flounce, make sure you flick your hair properly and don't let the door hit you in the arse on the way out.

Michael Jackson was creepy as fuck, IMO he was a crap musician as well so no great loss as far as I am concerned. Not everyone cares about the same things you do.

The child porn analogy was a bridge to far, frankly.

PP Who is Dr cox

OP you did state some stoooopidness about peoples husbands looking @ child related things.

As for MJ who am I to judge

The facts I know of MJ is

He wrote and performed sang fantastic songs he rightfully is a legend in the music world.

I love his songs and have done since I was a child

People's comments about things he did with kids are there own views. I am split on what he did and didn't do I hope for them childrens sake that he didn't do things he was accused of because not only would they have been abused but there parents would of sold out on them and there abuse which in fact makes them worse.

I hope his family friends children are ok I neither mourn or hate the a man I don't know

I appreciate his musical talent thats it.

Of course alot of people are going to say terriable things but thats part and parcel of being a celeb

The way your comment about men looking at child related things seems to me like your justifying what MJ may or may not of done

I hand on heart can say I have never met a man that has look at child related things online and if I did I wouldn't know them for very long.