new parents i met yesterday with 4 day old baby

[iateallthecreameggsyummy]

Was slightly and at this so aibu??

Couple came into restaurant yesterday with a tiny new born baby. Of course me expecting my own I asked the parents if i could have a look, said how cute he was etc and asked how old he was. Mum said he was born on Saterday, i commented how great he was being fast asleep looking so adorable! The dad then tells me 'well he's been a little the past 2 days!' I just commented 'oh well he's only a few days old' and left them to it.

Was not juding them that on way home from hospital (she still had wrist band on) they'd popped in for a fry up she probably needed it but at being a little s**t the past couple days

i think using that word about a baby seems to display a lot of hate

YABU. I have had people refer to babies as little shits and is meant in a totally exasperated but begrudgingly adoring kind of way. New parents are all slightly bonkers. Comes with the territory.

Ok, that's a good point Lissya, but then, I consider myself mightily more polite than most so just given I know what an adorable and perfect parent I am [wink} and I say worse in private, I'm giving benefit of the doubt that this bloke is still an ok parent to have said the less offensive little shit in public.

Not gonna put him on my xmas card list or anthing though

Creameggs - Don't be daft, you don't need to go back to lurking. This is AIBU, you were brave to post here and you are doing fine. I think you'll find all the posters on here, whether they agree with you or not, are a sterling bunch. Tis the nature of the topic to speak frankly with the op.

The reason I asked if it was your first was because I never understood how someone could shake a baby until I had my own. You walk a very fine line teetering on the brink of insanity. Obviously I never tipped over the edge but I do vividly remember thinking "Oh, I see how it happens now". Equally, before having my own I would never have thought of telling a teeny baby to shut the f*ck up. But I have (my own, naturally, not someone else's).

iateallthecremeeggs - I'm expecting my fifth, oldest is 17, and I would've been shocked too. I've never referred to any of mine that way, in public or private, at 4 days or 4 years.

Oh no, don't go back to lurking. AIBU is an outlet for our nest-of-vipers tendancies.

thanks puzzle! I was pondering it over all morning thinking well its def an aibu subject lol!!

I was just thinking perhaps its pregnancy hormones that kinda makes it seem that bit worse than it actually is.

Last post was very badly written as I was eating with the other hand
I think to me it's the implication that his 2 day old baby is somehow misbehaving or acting up that I find so vile.

Sycamore - I think I saw that one. They called you vile? I want a loon to give me a new moniker.

YAB completely U. It was just a flippant comment. Stop being so judgemental.

YABU. I regularly refer to my 7wo DS as "the demon child", "the exorcist" (given he has a habit of spewing foul substances from all his holes!!), and yes, "a naughty b". Doesn't mean my heart doesn't melt whenever he chooses to bestow his gummy smiles on me

It's risque humour, nothing more, nothing less. Some of us simply choose to express our sappiness differently

yes stealth kind of my point! My littls sis has a 6 month old and the amount of times ive listened to her tell her dd of for pulling her hair or using the baby walker to get to mummy when mummies online has got me very poor baby does not know she's doing wrong. Anyway thats a different aibu all together!

bran plse tell me how i was being judgmental? I am not being rude by asking just would like to know as im not to good putting things across and other than saying i felt a bit {hmm] and which i did above explain could have been combined with the way he was treating me i cant see how i judged them?

I just knew you were the bonncy cheery pg worker type

Asana not sure what you commented out but demon child and exorcist are obviously humour - maybe not humour that everyoone would agree with. Little shit is different IMO.

Creameggs - don't go away!

You have pregnancy/fierce protection hormones swirling - you will be more sensitive to this than some.

Puzzle - if you start an outrageous AIBU thread I will happily come along and oblige you with a suitably stinging new moniker

I will, of course, namechange especially for the occasion.

bonncy bouncy

if i dont smile ill cry and who wants to see a hormonal pregnant woman blubbering when all they want is a fry up and a coffee! Plus if i smile then they smile, then the next person they see smiles and so on...........

lol @ demon child and the exorcist!

But the poor little mite was only 4 days old! I had the most appalling baby blues with DS#1 - I cried all the time - but never once did I think he was less than perfect or call him anything horrid. And if he's sleep-deprived after 4 days I'd like to see him after 4 months (years in our case!).

I think the man deserves to be judged. So OP judge away! I will judge with you.

Disclaimer: this does not mean I do not see the absolute neccessity for being potty-mouthed and to talk about my offspring occasionally in less than glowing terms. Just not in this one. Thankyou.

So your judging him for saying 'hes been a little shit' so what kind of man do you judge him to be then Orm? nasty, bad father?

I'm judging him for showing aggression and irritation towards a 4-day old baby. Whether that makes him a bad father or just an unpleasantly angry man on that occasion I can't say. I don't think that all the excuses (that I would accept for older children) about being tired etc, hold water for a baby that is that young.

I called my DS2 a 'little shit' last night. Not in his hearing and with a smile on my face in a 'I love him to bits but he's doing my head in ' way
I am still a very good parent thank you very much and I wouldnt change DS2 for the world, even if he is a little shit sometimes

He might be a great dad but it I'm not surprised many people see it as a nasty thing to say; I agree with the OP and others.

He probably didn't mean it to be nasty though. More along the lines of 'he's been a rascal' or something like that.

Some people seem to get into the awful habit of swearing all the time just in conversation. I think it's vile and I do judge it when I hear it because it is horrible to me; but it doesn't make them mean parents I guess.

Its hardly aggressive though is it, he seemed mildy irritated but that may have been directed at the OP as they may have wanted to be left alone, a tiny baby cannot understand words, its not like he shouted 'you little shit' at the baby, he said it flipantly to the OP, the 'poor little mite' was non the wiser, i think your over reacting