to think that grandparents should give my children pocket money?

[SerendipitousHarlot]

I'm quite cross about this actually. We're going on holiday tomorrow, our first holiday in 4 years, and we're all really excited.

However.. my MIL has given both dc £10 each spending money for their holiday - she wanted to give £20 but we told her off...

But my parents haven't sent my dc anything! I would have thought that a fiver wouldn't have killed them! I can ALWAYS remember getting a bit of ice cream money from GPs for holidays, and I'm a bit pissed off.

I live 200 miles away from my parents - they see my dc about 3 times a year, and send them pocket money of a fiver each about twice a year.

AIBU? Or is this a bit tight?

[LovelyTinOfSpam]

Yes it is bloody grasping to hope that GPs would be even handed with their treatment of their GCs. Quite natural that they should treat one set of children regularly and not the others, their money, their perogative. Only a loony would resent that.

[bubblagirl]

the thread has moved on from the money issue to real route of problem now

[HecatesTwopenceworth]

See, this is one of the problems with not giving all the information in the OP - many people only read the op then comment on it.

[LadyGlencoraPalliser]

Yes, I now realise it was AIBU by stealth. SH is obviously jealous and resentful of her sister's relationship with her parents, and she needs to address that.

[bubblagirl]

yes i know was just pointing out for op that its moved on i think feeling a bit more sensitive now the real problem has been outed maybe do another thread op with real problems leading on from this thread so you dont sound so unreasonable

[Tortington]

YANBU

your parents sound a litle thoughtless. and whilst we could all forget these kinds of things from time to time - i am sure this irks you becuase its not the only thing they forget. i know exactly how it feels to have children that are or the most part - ignored.

YANBU - becuase i think you mean -t he thought - the idy biddy little effort that would go into remembering that your are going onholiday and making a nice gesture.

screw 'em their loss

[kittywise]

Yes I am guilty of not reading the thread properly , sorry.

[angrypixie]

The OP did herself no favours with that opening post/thread title though.

[SerendipitousHarlot]

Thanks kitty.

I'm not jealous and/or resentful of my sisters relationship with my mother - just her dc. I am happy to admit to that - but why shouldn't I be? My dc are lovely too y'know. And why does my mother favour them over mine? Reasonable question, dontcha think?

[SerendipitousHarlot]

no pixie, I really didn't, did I? Can't change it though... at least I've admitted IABU - with the tone/content of the OP at least

[SerendipitousHarlot]

custardo - exactly. It's not the money, it's the gesture.

Should I start a mother-bashing thread to pass the afternoon until I go on holiday?

[bubblagirl]

lol

[LadyGlencoraPalliser]

SH - it is a reasonable question, but the only person who can answer is your mother. You really do need to have this conversation with her.

[angrypixie]

Harlot, indeed you have, all power to you for your gracious acceptance of BU

[StripeyKnickersSpottySocks]

Sorry but I think YABU. My parents and in-laws have never done this and its never crossed my mind that they should.

[pranma]

Gosh I am the most indulgent grandma around and it would never occur to me to send money!I take pressies when I SEE THEM AND IF i AM WITH THEM i MIGHT GIVE MONEY BEFORE i LEAVE BUT ACTUALLY sorry caps lock got stuck[not shouting honest]I dont give money as presents at all for Christmas or birthdays it feels so wrong to me.I give them all the love I have,talk on the phone,send books regularly but money-never.