to think maybe being somebody's sixth wife is not such a great idea?

[hisfuturemissus6]

My lovely dp has asked me to marry him. He's an amazing person, bright, successful (rich) and very cultured. I think we could be very happy together but the skeletons in his closet are giving me pause for thought!

In a nutshell this would be mariage number 6 - it's not as bad as it sounds. He was married for years to wife number 1 then they divorced. He has divorced again - they had nothing in common but also had an apalling run of luck and lost the other wives - very, very sad

Part of me thinks I should just go for it - but another part of me is hesitating and I don't know what to do. I would love to get married and have a big do and settle down to being stepmum to his kids. But then maybe 5 predecessors is just too many?

AIBU?

Flappy- that's a bit of a leap, isn't it? We don't know this man at all. He might be lovely and marry women with health problems out of love. That said, OP, I would be wary about what he says about his previous wives. Can you ask any of them what he was like? You might get a better idea of what went wrong with the previous marriages, and maybe be in a better position to judge whether it's a good idea to marry him or not. I would be more concerned about the huge age gap between you, tbh. Will you have anything in common?

His first divorce was a bit dodgy tbh - long legal fight, strong views all round, arguements in court - your basic nightmare. Since then everything has ben ok - his second wife hasn't caused me any bother, his third wife keeps very quiet and his fifth wife has axed all contact with us. Wife number 4 is plainly never going home and hangs around a bit but I don't feel threatened at all - she's a bit of amare tbh. LOL

Yes dsd2 does have red hair - how did you know - would I have seen you on the school run? She is bloody stubborn actually - and you can't tell her! i said she 'must' do something and she said she didn't think that word should be applied to her!

Oh dear - what am i getting in to?

Duchesse - yes we have a shared interest in theology actually. Makes for some very heated discussions but I think he's reforming his ideas!

I bet you'd get some really lovely dresses from him though - I think his thing is corsets, so maybe bear that in mind for the summer months.

Yes, watch out for DD2 - I think she's got staying power.

What are his houses like?

That has to be a serious consideration!

I think I might know your future husband as I'm sure I have visited one his houses a few years ago and it was a lovely house, not too big but in a really nice location by the Thames.

Do you feel that the difficulties he had with his previous wives are problems you can avoid? Is he the type to get murderously jealous if you flirt with other men?
It's good to share an interest,but theology can be rather an inflammatory subject..

OOH yes, the one with the maze. I've heard about that one. He has another one near Tower Bridge though that's not so nice.

Thought he had gout?

Do you girls mind not talking about where I live - it's just asking to be stalked!

Anyway - he just borrowed the Thames side pad from a mate - who then very sadly died so we couldn't give it back even if we tried!

Well, you're not exactly inexperienced yourself are you - wouldn't this be your third marriage?

And weren't you having a bit of a fling with his (ex) brother in law?
You might want to be careful about that, your dp does sound the jealous type...

ilove - I wish gout was biggest problem!

(between you, me and the bedpost I've suggested he might need a quick trip to the STD clinic - eek!)

We're fine talking theology - no worries at all - though it gets pretty bloody if dsd1 gets in on the act. She has a fiery temper alright - I wish her spanish boyfriend joy of her tbh!

I miss funny trolls......

Sorry, we're just a bit jealous that's all.

Would never dream of posting any pictures which could lead people to discover where you will be living.

Henry must be up to his old tricks again and has managed to stop me from disclosing exactly where you will be living!

As long as you don't find my family snaps on facebook LOL

Actually that's another issue - he's got this really creepy picture of him and his son and wife number three - who's been gone for years! Should I insist he ditches it? I think it'll hang around the house for years otherwise

If you are going to troll, make it funny, not mean.

yes, as fourthings mentioned: what about your poor poor boyfriend...
are these amazing houses really worth giving up poor t**? after all your dh1 and dh2 didn't exactly leave you penniless, did they?

I'm not chuffed by theses accusations that I'm a money grubbing serial monogamist and an unfunny troll! It's not exactly all roses around here you know! Sometimes I really have to stick my neck out.

Please don't mention my boyfriend again - dp is his employer and he could lose his job - if not worse if he finds out. I guess it's doublet or quits time

is this the first medieval troll?

Roses?
Red and white ones?

Looks like your dp is going ahead (no pun intended) with the wedding preparations, have you got a dress picked out because he sounds very serious about making you wife no6!

lol at those hiding the thread. bloody catholics, no sense of humour.

Not medieval SPB! That period is generally held to have ended with the rumble in Leicestershire than my late, not much lamented, exceptionally tight, fil indulged in!

You could say I'm an (early) modern woman if you like