Can someone reassure me please that a Christmas birthday is not so bad

[SarahL2]

I'm due on the 27th December (adjusted by the sonographer from my pervious date of the 25th!) and am already sick of people telling me how awful it is to have a christmas birthday.

Even when I straight out asked for reassurance all I got was "sorry, no reassurance here - it's awful"!!

My MIL is similarly unsupportive. In fact, when we told her I was pregnant, she said "congratulations - bad timing though" -But then when we told her we were expecting our first child she said "but I'm not ready for number 6!" (DS was her 6th grandchild) It just sems she can never be happy for us!

My brother, bless him, just keeps quiet. His birthday is the end of November and I know he hates it being so close to christmas.

If I hear much more about how awful it is I will cry. We wanted another baby but were going to wait for another 6 months to have a summer baby - but this one kind of snuck up on us. We're blissfully happy about the prospect of another child but the negativity of people is really spoiling it for us.

So is it really so awful?

Should I elect for another section rather than a VBAC just to ensure it's not Christmas or New Years Day when the little one arrives?

I'm the 23 December and I'd say it's a good date, everyone remembers it, everyone is in the mood to party, for me the celebrations start early, and no one has ever given me one present for both.

Even though you're due 27th, do remember you could be early or late, either way I wouldn't worry about it,

On the other hand, my aunts birthday is on Xmas day, and to be honest, that's a bit shit, everyone forgets and it's kinda muddled up in Xmas day celebrations.

I think people telling you it's awful are behaving badly. Unless they personally have a birthday at Xmas and have personal experience then they are talking crap.

I think that like everything else it is what you make of it. My son was born on Christmas Day and when I went into labour on Christmas Eve I'm ashamed to say I actually shed a tear. We went down the 'official birthday' route with only birthday cards and a birthday cake on Christmas Day and all other celebrations on 25th June. He is in university now but when he reached an age where he understood (maybe 10) and we gave him the option of celebrating at Christmas he chose to stick with the official birthday - all children are special and when they are born is just the start of their story.

This thread is 7 years old!! Zombie

Mine's 20th Dec. No point griping about it because it is what it is!
It's what you/your family make of it. My folks always made enough of a fuss of me :)
What does irritate me now I'm a grown-up (in age anyway) is that people are rarely free for drinks/meals/celebrations unless I organise something 6 months in advance. I'm starting to plan my 40th `(2017) now, and even then I'm doing something in January instead of December. Tried the half-birthday thing but it never took off sadly. Or maybe people just don't want to hang out with me…!

Ds is 22nd Dec never been a problem. Parties may require a bit more organization but I've found soft play/ swimming pool don't get booked up! Family have always given separate presents though wrapping paper can be a hit or a miss. His birthday often falls on last day of school when they finish early so has brought friends home for a wee party at home. One year we took 8 very excited 9 yr olds to the cinema. We always mange something although it does seem more of an effort as we have so much else to do at this time compared to his sins summer birthdays!

My birthday is a week before Christmas. It's really not a big deal and I can't imagine not having my birthday at Christmas. It never bothered me as a kid. To be honest it wouldn't feel like my birthday without all the lights and Christmas trees.

I think Christmas birthdays are what you make of them. I love parties and making cakes etc so both of the children have fun on their birthdays and DD has never missed out because her birthday is so close to Christmas. As long as we keep that up there should be no reason for her to hate her December birthday.

I still remember all the negativity when we announced her due date though and it really upset me. I also developed ante natal depression with this pregnancy which definitely didn't help me see the bright side when everyone from my friends to my BiL was telling me how awful their December birthdays were. Now she's here and beautiful and funny and excited for her birthday, it's much easier :)