Can someone reassure me please that a Christmas birthday is not so bad

[SarahL2]

I'm due on the 27th December (adjusted by the sonographer from my pervious date of the 25th!) and am already sick of people telling me how awful it is to have a christmas birthday.

Even when I straight out asked for reassurance all I got was "sorry, no reassurance here - it's awful"!!

My MIL is similarly unsupportive. In fact, when we told her I was pregnant, she said "congratulations - bad timing though" -But then when we told her we were expecting our first child she said "but I'm not ready for number 6!" (DS was her 6th grandchild) It just sems she can never be happy for us!

My brother, bless him, just keeps quiet. His birthday is the end of November and I know he hates it being so close to christmas.

If I hear much more about how awful it is I will cry. We wanted another baby but were going to wait for another 6 months to have a summer baby - but this one kind of snuck up on us. We're blissfully happy about the prospect of another child but the negativity of people is really spoiling it for us.

So is it really so awful?

Should I elect for another section rather than a VBAC just to ensure it's not Christmas or New Years Day when the little one arrives?

God, a zombie!

Now I feel like a twat.

My eldest is a Christmas baby and has always had two sets of gifts. He loves it. But I planned an Xmas baby with military detail!

An OP who updated a zombie thread! Hooray!

I'm glad you are all happy with her birthday OP

There was another thread about Christmas birthdays and I was surprised to find a roughly 50/50 split. A lot of people hate a Christmas birthday granted but I saw just as many who apparently love it.

My eldest is the 30th. He'll be 4 this year.

We tend to celebrate Christmas with no mention of his birthday until the days itself. Once he's in bed on the 29th, we take everything but the tree down, and string happy birthday banners up and so on, so when he comes down in the morning, it looks less festive and more birthday.

We tend to do his party in mid-January though, so he's back at pre-school and it's a bright thing to look forward to in the murk that is the new year.

My youngest is in June, so they couldn't be more different!

I don't really see the point in worrying about something you cannot change It's only a birthday, do people celebrate them much once they're out of childhood anyway?

Post Christmas baby here. I loved having the decorations up on my day as it felt special. There will always be the people who double up on cards and presents. my parents never did I always had a special day of my own. As I've got older its harder to arrange birthday nights out as we have family stuff going on. As teen/ in my 20s I'd celebrate on new year. Wouldn't put me off having off December baby. Congrats

My birthday is in Dec right near Christmas

I'd prefer June imo
But that's because my family and friends tend to treat it as one, rather than 2

I know if I had a child near Dec, I'd ensure their birthday is a completely separate thing and ask any family to do the same

DS was born on Christmas day. It was actually really speciall at the hospital as the salvation army carol singers were outside the labour ward and it just felt lovely. Admittedly the practicalities of having a Xmas day birthday mean a bit of juggling and some people either forget (!) or only get him a joint gift. But it is super special to me, best Xmas present ever!

My DD is a boxing day baby, she loves it, we start off the Xmas celebrations with dinner out on the 24th.
Christmas on the 25th with in-laws,
26th we do a heap of birthday things.
27th often have get together with her friends, past few years not had a proper party but its a full on few days, she loves it. I think you just have to try and make the days as separate as possible.
PS, you could be early or late, try not to focus on the possibility of baby being born on Christmas day too much!

just think - if you were having the baby at any other time it would not be THIS baby. therefore it's amazing that you're having a Christmas baby, because you will love THIS baby more than anything

Me, my brother & my DH are all December birthdays and love it... it makes it feel special :)

Surely whatever birthday you have, you would just be used to it?

Ds was born on 23rd December. He is turning 10 this year and still absolutely loves having birthday and Christmas together.

My DS's birthday is between Christmas & New Year and LOVES that he always has the day off school every year. DD (early Dec birthday) has to wait for her birthday to fall at the weekend.

Both sets of grandparents & their aunts/uncles have been really good at keeping birthday & Chistmas presents seperate so that helps.

I'm really early Jan and I have never really been bothered by it, plus I can spend all by birthday money in Jan sales and get twice as much!

I like that it sometimes snows too - it's like a super special gift from Mother Nature !!

My dd's birthday is the 27th and she hates it. I honestly feel bad about it but what can you do!

Fucking zombie wtf is wrong with people!!

I'm on the 27th and I've had no problems.

As a kid it was a bit of a pain and my Mum would come up with ever-inventive ways to make it better. Like having a joint birthday party with my sister one year.....in JUNE!

But as an adult it's great, everyone comes home from wherever they are for Xmas so my friends are always around and we've been ice skating, to winter wonderland, went to a pantomime one year! Nope, panic not and just enjoy your little extra Christmas pressie

I love that you replied with an update OP! I am due Christmas Day and filled with guilt for unborn dc3, but this post is been reassuring, particularly with the 7 year update!

My step-dad's birthday is 23rd December - he did hate it (and consequently Christmas) as a child, but now he just gets really really into Christmas and enjoys being able to ask for more expensive things for birthday/Christmas (he's never minded having joint gifts - he used to ask for them growing up and was the source of jealousy to his siblings as he always got more expensive/fancy stuff when the family didn't have much money).

I also know many people who love their December birthdays.

That's all I can give you I'm afraid.

I'd always imagined Christmas would be quite a fun time to have a birthday as everyone's in the festive spirit.

Mine is June 25th so exactly equi-distance!

My mate's is January 2nd. Now that's a shit day. First day back at work, everyone is squint and fat and doesn't want to go out.

DS was born on Christmas. Rather special in our experience. His picture in the paper, shares a birthday with Jesus. We have always celebrated and enjoyed it. When he was little he had his parties first Sunday after going back to school. Now on NY Eve shared with a friend born on NY day.

It just takes more planning.

I'm a Christmas baby "19th December". Loved it and love Christmas. Everyone's in a good mood and ready to celebrate. Big thing my parents did was ensure no joint presents so my birthday was very separate to Christmas.

I'm 29th Dec. As a child you don't know any different. As an adult it's a bit crap as people aren't that fussed about going out. But saying that you're probably out yourself Christmas Eve and New Year's Eve so are happy to do something quieter on your actual birthday.