to be fed up with the next-day fallout from sleepovers?

[LightShinesInTheDarkness]

Obviously I am delighted that DD(10) has friends with whom she wants to have fun, and who reciprocate by inviting her to their houses for sleepovers.

But the next day - like today, she is just foul through lack of sleep. Argumentative, stroppy and then collapsed in a heap on her bed because she was just too tired to do anything, thereby making it really difficult for the rest of us to go out and do something.

Or, am I the Bitch Mother from Hell?

Sleep overs are fun, DSs love having friends over, we have had camp outs where the tent has ended up in the living room, 6 little boys waking up at 5am sticky little hands all over the place....God I am so so lucky to be a mother

LightShinesInTheDarkness - nah, you're not the Bitch Mother From Hell - she wouldn't let her DD have or go to sleepovers. You are understandable pissed off with the fall out I think in the future if she's going to a sleepover, organise it so you don't pick her up till dinner time - they'll have one stroppy 10yo they might as well have 2 - then you can reciprocate - much less hassle

Really all you can do is put up with it or stop her from going.

It's why the DIsney channel was invented!!

My 11DSD had two friends to sleepover last night. She has been zombie-like in front of the TV for half the day

It's good for them... and it does mean that you get the evening off!

Phew. Not just me then!

I was just thinking how much I like sleepovers. Apparently last night DD 11 didn't get any sleep after her sleepover at a friends and she took herself off to bed at 8 (unheard of)

DS 13 has been camping with the scouts and he fell asleep on the sofa when he got home, woke him for dinner and he went to bed without any nagging either

I think you have to grit your teeth and put up with it. DD1 is lucky that she needs 5 minutes or so sleep a night, so we never have this, but DD2 gets like this so I do know where you are coming from!

DD1 has a friend (aged 12, no less) who obviously feels the effects badly the day or so afterwards. Her mother always makes a huge thing of it when she arrives "she must be in bed by 10pm or I will never, ever allow her to come again" type fuss. With the result that when DD1 last had a party this girl had to be carted off to DD2s bedroom to sleep alone - because I knew the mother was absolutely serious.

In my opinion only, this mother has a recipe for making her child refuse to speak to her ever again once she is an adult! So for that reason when DD2 has been to a sleepover and is bursting into tears at every tiny thing, I put the TV on and make her sit there until a very early bedtime

I have now arranged all sleep overs for Friday evenings only. That way they have Saturday to recover, long lie Sunday morning and hopefully then you can go out and do something for at least part of the weekend.

DD(9) stayed up until 4am on her last sleepover. And was up at 7am.

Mother of the girl she was staying with said her daughter was a complete zombie the next day, and clearly blamed it on my DD. Fair enough. My DD is the sleepover guest from hell. She's got the most incredible stamina when it comes to staying up giggling hysterically into the early hours and then being up bright and bushy tailed at dawn the next day.

DD lasted until about 3pm when she got home, and then deteriorated into complete hysteria. Utterly foul and completely impossible.

Sleepovers are shite. Only one in a thousand parents gets any enjoyment from them. Don;t let anyone make you think otherwise.

I only allow sleepovers in teh school holidays and only one a year per child. Two at a push.

Sleepovers are stressful-I become incredibly irritated the next day, never mind the children.
I always want the parents to come straight after breakfast to collect their offspring, but they will leave it till the afternoon won't they?

every
second
weekend!

I couldn't stand it

Every second weekend? I ration them to twice a year now. And only in school holidays when she has a week to recover.

oh my dd was possessed today after sleepover here last night LOL
Bless her - she's 10

Don't do sleepovers - much prefer that their friends come round for the whole day & go home after dinner. A sleepover means my smaller ones get woken up, the next day is awful and I'm tired out.

DS1 (11) was in tears by 5pm pm the day after his birthday sleepover.

To be fair, the lack of sleep wasn't utterly his fault: DS2 (4) went downstairs at 7am to check how the big boys were doing and woke them all up ...

My ds (13) has sleepovers quite regularly, but they tend to be Saturday nights during term time and I put the lights out at about 2300, and woe betide anyone who gets out of bed (apart from needing the loo) thereafter.

That said, ds had remarkably nice friends, who have worked out how far they can push before I push back hard.

I avoid sleepovers during term time. If I am pushed into one I go in at about 11.00 and glare at them. Usually does the trick.

That's 11p.m BTW.

well, just don't expect her to do anything the day after a sleep over and let her get on with it...

My DS 13 yrs has them and they don't sleep much they just play inappropriate games all night. Will have to ration them, the last one we had a very busy sunday the nxt day and he was dead beat by the time we got home.