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to think that when adults are walking along holding a small childs hand, that they should slow down a bit.

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sunburntats · 06/06/2009 18:33

This really bothers me.
I see it all the time, the adult walking at normal pace and the little dot almost running along side them.Little legs going 10 to the dozen.

why dont people slow down a bit, i think that it is cruel.

what if it was the adult bieng dragged along twice as fast as thier legs can go? Not pleasant.

Now if there is a cake shop selling the last cake, i would make an exception and would of course be literally running with a little dot in toe, that is different.

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TrinityRhino · 06/06/2009 18:35

I didn't realise people did this
I always slow down to a mind numbing totter for the sake of my little hand holder

katiestar · 06/06/2009 18:42

But mostly kids love to run- adults mostly don't.

ThePhantomPlopper · 06/06/2009 18:43

I do this sometimes. I have to really concentrate on walking slow and sometimes forget.

MrsMattie · 06/06/2009 18:44

Christ, no. DS has learned to keep pace. I walk quickly and I don't dilly-dally. Refuse to. I am amazed at people who crawl along the street with a toddling 2 yr old. I am impatient, though, as you can tell.

sunburntats · 06/06/2009 18:46

just look at their poor little faces though, they look bewildered and like it is hard work for them to keep up, not like they "love it".

Just look and you will see.

Has no one else ever noticed this or is it just me?

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Mercy · 06/06/2009 18:47

Thoughtless, maybe in a hurry, or perhaps the child is a dawdler but it can hardly be described as cruel

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FruitynNutty · 06/06/2009 18:48

I have to agree with MrsMattie I can't bare a slow walking child. DS has also learned to keep a steady pace.
If I want to get somewhere then I can't dawdle - far too impatient for that. It's even better if he takes his scooter - I try to encourage this as much as possible!

sunburntats · 06/06/2009 18:48

I dont dilly dally, havent got time, but try to walk at a pace that is comfortable for the little one.

Remember taking FOREVER to get round the block on desperate days when i HAD to get out for half an hour (Or jump out of a top floor window) when ds was little, every piece of dig shit and paper and chewing gum was of interest to him.....

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psychomum5 · 06/06/2009 18:50

this is why mine stayed in buggies for so long, as I am a very speedy walker, and hate having to slow down for toddlers.

that said, my children are super slow even now............I still get riled, so maybe I am abnormal!

PinkTulips · 06/06/2009 18:50

depends, if we're late because dd or ds1 has been walking so mind numbingly slowly and stopping to look at every pebble then ocasionally i have to grab their hand and move quickly

also, if i've had it announced to me in a shopping centre 'mummeeeee, i neeeed tooooo peeeee!' i tend to grab their hand a haul as they'll walk slowly and happily wet themselves whearas i'd prefer to make it to the toilets on time.

normaill though i go slow enough... my mother dirves me mad, she just walks, doesn't even hole their hand or notice if they've fallen behind and she wonders why i refuse to let her bring them for walks!

sunburntats · 06/06/2009 18:51

yes scooters are good, we get to places on scooters allot.

just me then????

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Morloth · 06/06/2009 18:52

hah, sometimes I have to semi jog to keep up with DS.

We all move pretty fast, DS learned early on that if he wanted to walk then he needed to MOVE.

PinkTulips · 06/06/2009 18:53

'normally though i go slow enough... my mother drives me mad, she just walks, doesn't even hold their hands or notice if they've fallen behind'

MrsMattie · 06/06/2009 18:55

DS is well able to keep up with me. I am a cruel mum, I guess. I used to put him in a buggy at the age of three because I couldn't bear doing the nursery run/shopping etc with him dawdling along. Doesn't seem to have adversely affected him. Maybe it's even benefited him. He is 4 yrs old and has just done a 1K race for life

Nancy66 · 06/06/2009 18:57

YANBU I notice this too and it makes me really upset. I think it's really cruel - if you don't want to slow down then put the kid in a buggy.
also hate it when parents hold the kids hand and pull the child's arm up - must be so uncomfortable for poor mite.

sunburntats · 06/06/2009 18:59

THANKYOU Nancy!! You know what i mean dont you!!!!!

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Nancy66 · 06/06/2009 19:01

it's the equivilent of you or I walking alongside some marching 10 foot giant and trying frantically to keep up because they won't slow down.

sunburntats · 06/06/2009 19:02

it is!
I dont know what it is, but i just see it every where on a daily basis,

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SoupDragon · 06/06/2009 19:05

It's not cruel.

sunburntats · 06/06/2009 19:06

it is cruel, i accept that its unintentional, but it is. Cant think of any other description for it.

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SoupDragon · 06/06/2009 19:07

Cruel is beating your child or locking them under the stairs.

sunburntats · 06/06/2009 19:08

different interpretations i suppose.

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Nancy66 · 06/06/2009 19:09

mean and thoughtless then.

yama · 06/06/2009 19:16

I'm a fast walker due to my father not slowing down when I was young. Am grateful for it.

I tell my dd walking fast will make her good at football/dancing/whatever sport she wants to be good at.

I give her targets and I do slow down sometimes.