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to think that it was rude to take a photograh of my family without asking today?

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4andnotout · 06/06/2009 18:16

My mum and dp were holding dd's 1,2& 3s hands and jumping over the waves at the beach today when this older bloke literally just walked up behind them, took a photo and walked off
He didn't even say hello or ask permission, i was sitting up the beach a few yards with my fsis and was bfing dd4, we were speachless and all just looked agog at eachother and by the time we had all agreed that we thought he was rude he had walked off with his companion.
So do you think he was being rude?

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pjmama · 06/06/2009 18:17

Extremely!!

littlelamb · 06/06/2009 18:18

Very
My ds had his picture taken by some japanese tourists in Starbucks last week. I was

Mamazon · 06/06/2009 18:18

incredibly.

hullygully · 06/06/2009 18:19

V V annoying. You should have charged him. People do this to my dog all the time, really annoys me.

peanutbutterkid · 06/06/2009 18:23

Not rude to me unless he physically came very close, you're in a public place.

Paolosgirl · 06/06/2009 18:28

A bit creepy imo and very rude. Doesn't matter if you are in a public place, it's still ill mannered.

ABetaDad · 06/06/2009 18:32

4andnotout - do you ever read a newspaper, a magazine or indeed watch TV?

No one can stop someone taking a photo in a public place. Celebrities know this and can do nothing about it. Neither can you.

Its annoying but that is the law.

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4andnotout · 06/06/2009 18:35

He was about a metre away from them, it was a nice scene but i still think he should have asked public or not.

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4andnotout · 06/06/2009 18:37

Celebrities are papped as they are famous, my dd's 7,4 and 20 months are not.

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goldrock · 06/06/2009 18:40

Last summer one of my DCs who was about 5mths at the time was eating some of my ice cream at a fair and he had it all over his face, looking really cute and a there was a family sitting next to us who asked if they could take a picture. I said yes but did wonder what they would do with it - it wasn't anything "funny" as it was a group of mixed ages with older children but still a bit odd.

katiestar · 06/06/2009 18:53

When we were on a very quiet beach in Fuerteventura last year with our 4 kids, a bloke spent ages pointing a camera at one of my DDs (age 7 ) .He was about 15 yds away from her and she was paddling up to her ankles in the sea and playing on the sand.I am pretty sure it was her that he was photographing as there was no one else near her and when she moved his camera followed her.But what can you do ? Except keep a very close eye on her.
I like to think he was an 'artist' rather than anything dodgy.

katiestar · 06/06/2009 18:56

sorry pressed post by mistake
It is odd though.You would think people would ask.At the other exterme someone asked me if they could take a photo of the wild flowers on the verge outside my garden the other week !.Not even mine !

Anifrangapani · 06/06/2009 19:04

My dh is a (pro) photographer - he will often take photos of people without asking first - because people freeze when they know they are being photographed. However he will introduce himself after he "has" the shot and show the LCD of it to the person and say they can have a copy if they want. It is rude not to.

The vast majority of photographers are not kiddy fiddlers - they are just taking a shot of a photogenic child/family group/people. Unfortunately if you are taking candid shots out in the open for your own use you cannot get a CRB check to prove you are not dodgy and therefore have to endure lots of parental scowls even at events where you are the official photographer.

psychomum5 · 06/06/2009 19:11

I don;t think so TBVH, sorry.

this is how a lot of people get fab photos. I know it would be nice to ask permission, but he wasn;t to know that you were with them, and to wade into the sea to aks permission would kind of take away from the simply spontinaity (sp?) of the picture that he got.

I have to say, the people who take pics that are the ones to worry about, you never see, as they take them with hiddne camera's and are often hiding themselves.

a picture of a family having fun jumping the waves in the sea is a fab shot, and completely innocent IMVHO

HecatesTwopenceworth · 06/06/2009 22:03

I think it's rude. I'd also be pissed off if he WAS a professional and he was going to make any money out of it! I don't think anyone should make money out of your image without giving you some!

bigted · 06/06/2009 22:13

Bit rude not to ask permission but I would still have been flattered!

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4andnotout · 06/06/2009 22:18

One point my parents raised was that as foster carers what if it had been the image of one of the children they look after, as they have to delete any pictures on laptops etc after the children leave their care, luckily fsis wasn't in the picture as she was sitting with me.

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magicOC · 06/06/2009 22:19

I am a very keen amature photographer and am very wary of who/what I take pics of. It is a sad sad world we live in where we have to be wary, but, for the safety of everyone it's only fair you either stick to taking scenes that dont involve people you dont know or as someone has already said ASK. I agree it spoils the spontinaity of the pic, but, that's life.

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4andnotout · 06/06/2009 22:23

Just a quick word after he had taken the photo spontaneously was it all it would have took, just so we knew why

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bigted · 06/06/2009 22:28

4andnotout, to clarify, yes it was rude!

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