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To be bloody annoyed with next door neighbour?

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Deemented · 02/06/2009 17:52

Have been living here about 5 months now, and neighbour to the right of me has been very welcoming and friendly, although a little too much so at times, if i'm honest. I've had to take to putting the latch on the door when i'm in as she was just walking in without knocking - and i'm just not used to that, tbh.

Have also had to put a front gate up to get to my part of the house as her dog kept coming in and poohing in my garden meaning that ds couldn't go out and play as often as he liked. Not one for confrontation much, but when i questioned her about the dog all she said was...'oh it's not my dog that's doing it' I juist left it at that and a friend came and helped me build a gate which means that her ndog now shits in her own garden

Anyways, today i've been busy in the house a lot, and i could hear her pottering out the back - our houses are joined by the upstairs only, theres a small alleyway running between our kitchens, leading to both our back gardens, i have a gate on mine which is always latched so the boy cant get out - anyways, she's just knocked on my back door and asked what did i think - she's only cut down the privet hedges that divide our proprty from each other!!! She said that she wasn't getting enough sunlight, and now she will!!

I am so annoyed. My back garden is far from perfect - it needs a lot of work doing to it, but i loved the high privet as it gave me a sense of privacy and 'my own place in the world'. Now i'm going to have her dog coming in and shitting all over the place, and i'm not sure about letting ds play out the back as i'm worried he'd wander as he's really inquisitve. I can't afford to get fence panels to put up either.

I'm going to have to say something, aren't i?

OP posts:
islandofsodor · 04/06/2009 23:47

Do let us know what the council say when they (eventually) come out.

Doodle2U · 04/06/2009 23:59

Look! Might be a quick fix

Deemented · 10/06/2009 08:12

A quick update - just got out of shower and happened to glance out of landing window and what i saw has indeed convinced me that neighbour is indeed as mad as a box of frogs!!!

8am and it's raining... and she's moving the back lawn in her nightie!!!!

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Kimi · 10/06/2009 08:18

1 contact council
2 demand she replaces the hedge with a fence
3 rat poison is sausages will sort out the dog.

lisad123 · 10/06/2009 08:21

ROFL oh my, you have made my morning

nickschick · 10/06/2009 08:28

I suspect that she knows you have informed the council and that shes concerned about the state of her garden and wants to 'tidy up' before the council come to inspect.

Bloody awful thing tho -arent some people funny(weird not ha-ha).

Deemented · 10/06/2009 08:35

Kimi - isn't that a little, well... extreme?? I mean, i'm not overly fond of the dog, but still

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AlistairSim · 10/06/2009 08:39

It is indeed extreme.

Save the sausages for the batty neighbour.

ssd · 10/06/2009 09:10

yes, be a good neighbour and give her a sausage sandwich!

lissav · 22/06/2009 06:36

hmm, What a situation to be in! From what you are describing it sounds like you are on what is classed as an urban or small lot. Depending on where you live the codes are different. The code protects livable neighbourhoods, which means your neighbour has to consider the following before making changes; better privacy and outlook for neighbouring properties.. and that neigbouring properties have access to natural light and breezes. This can also include the shading of hot summer rays and cold winter breezes. This section of the code controls sustainable living and the cooling heating of your house. If for example it can be proven that by cutting this hedge down your house is now hotter in the summer and cooler in the winter it could be possible that she has had an impact on sustainable living thus increasing your power bills. This is a big NO! NO! In addition to this Local councils aren't in favour of people cutting down exhisting vegetation unless it's a fire hazard or the vegetation is damaging the structural integrity of surrounding buildings. The most important thing to remember is try not to fight with your neighbour. Meet your neighbour half way. They will do stupid things... There is nothing worse then living next to someone who constantly does stupid thoughtless things that effect you. Try build a good relationship with them. Talk to them about what improvements they might like to make in their garden or to their home. I have my fingers crossed for you but if you take this approach is taken then it can lead to a great relationship with your neighbour. Imagine getting along great having barbeques and talking about home improvement ideas or gardening tips. This is a more tactful way of encouraging them to contact you, or discuss things with you prior to making decisions which may impact on your standard of living. Which could have resulted you both meeting each other half way. Rather then a dispute. A good website is www.sustainable-homes.org.au.

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