AIBU to report this childminder??

[mylifemykids]

There's a childminder who's house backs onto mine. I was just up in the bedroom when I heard one of the children crying in the childminder's garden. I didn't take much notice because there's usually one or other of them crying. Then I heard the childminder say 'X that was really naughty I saw you hit him then, I am very cross with you' and then I heard a slap!!! I looked out the window to see one of the minded children stood there screaming and holding her leg where I assume she was slapped. She was then dragged by the arm inside and told she was going to 'the bedroom' to calm down.

If I'd left my children with a childminder I'd hate to think they were being treated like that.

Do I assume it was just a one off and ignore it? Or should I report her (not sure who to?!)

Yes I think you should report her

definately

I'd hate for this to go unreported

You could start by reporting it to ofsted. But yes, I think you should report.

is it a mindee for sure and not her own child?
did you actually SEE the slap?

If you are sure that is what happened and it wasn't her own child - YANBU.

Ofsted if you are in England, Care Commission if you are in Scotland. Phone numbers will be easily googleable

Are you sure it wasnt her own child?

phone police
social services ask for duty SW children & families
ofsted

hitting constitutes abuse
regardless of frequency or one off

do it today.that is someone's child.some mum is paying mum for her child is safe and well cared for.not slapped

call today

Call today. The fact that you did not actually see the slap or are not sure if it were her own child or not is irrelevant. The question mark is now there. If it's all innocent then that will come out.

You have to do what your instincts tell you.

YANBU. Report her.

My DS2 (and in the holidays DS1) goes to a wonderful CM, but if I thought for one minute that she'd slapped either them or another of her mindees I would be mortified.

Please call Ofsted.

no dont think long and hard about the CM at all.think long and hard about the slap you heard,someone's child on the receiving end of that.a mum trusting cm with her precious child

oh and a parent cannot consent on child behalf to physical chastisement

are you a cm nahui?
would you bee so forgiving if it were a nursery setting?

You cannot use physical punishment regardless of parent's wishes Nahui.

In this case if it was me I would leave it for now, but just keep an ear / eye on the situation - as you didn't see the slap you might have been mistaken about it being a slap? And perhaps the girl was holding her leg if the other child hit her back etc

As Nahui said it is someones career that could be ruined because of a possible wrong assumption.

Saying that tho if I saw her do anything like that again I would be on the blower straight away....

Hi,

I definitely think you should report this, I am a childminder and would NEVER smack a minded child (or my own for that matter but that's a whole other debate). The CM is NOT allowed to use physical punishment EVER no matter what the parents use as discipline.

Please report this woman, Ofsted will give her the opportunity to present the full facts.

Ofsted's number:08456 404040

I agree I would hate for my child to be in a situation where the CM was hitting them, and would want to know, but ONLY if it was true. You can't cast doubt over someone like that unless you are sure it is true.

how do you know it wasn't one of the other kids that did the slap?? you need to be careful before you report this woman.

you could ruin her career, even put a question mark over her as a mother. how would you like it if that happened to you over something innocent?

keep an eye/ear out for anything else happening, but think carefully before you report her - you need a bit more to go on I think.

My CM cares for her own son in the setting as well, I know she doesn't but I wouldn't be happy at her slapping her own child either.
It doesn't sound like a loving, calm and controlled envronment, does it?

so she punished a slap with...a slap
Agree with scottishmummy!

gosh some of you prioritise adult career before child welfare?

what irrefutable proof do you require?
this merits further investigation

the appproporiate authorities can look into this further.let them investigate and ascertain fact

had this been a nursery adjacent to house,and slap heard not observed same circumstances people would rightly be apoplectic

dont think anyone would post Oh hang on think of the Nursery nurse career,the owner livliehood.

You didn't actually see her get slapped, the events leading up to it, and as others have asked how do you know it was not her own child?

Approach with caution unless you are really sure of what went on.

no no no caution,no oh lets see,oh dont want CM getting trouble

get some flipping perspective people

cycling christ based on what OP typed this needs to be further looked at

can you not see this was someone child potentially slapped

suspicion and overhead circumstances is enough to warrant an initial complaint

so if any of you nay sayers turned up to collect your dc heard similar circumstances but didnt observe would you just think "nah saw nowt, do nowt"

As you didn't actually see any child being slapped I certainly wouldn't report it but would keep an eye on it.