to think that new au pair is a bit out of line to....

[mousemole]

ask me if I am a natural blonde on second day of work ? I was a bit taken aback ?

I am having bad gut feelings about this one. Does bad gut feeling ever turn out good where AP's are concerned ? There have been lots of other strange and inappropriate comments which I am trying to ignore....

Not something to get rid over.

What else has she said as that one stated is not too bad. But strange.

can't believe you've come on here to ask that!

if she hits your kids/can't cook/swears at you/steals then I'd be worried

asking you about your hair colour??? sack her

no, not too bad, just a little odd really.
Other things
' I am not typically swedish -not blonde, not tall and not easily laid' ( in front of children)
'How did you afford such a big house ?' - it's not big and we rent it

And then other things like telling me she was going to use the phone to call Sweden ( would be polite to ask first time ?), covering the kids ( 3 and 1) in temporary tatoos ( she has 2 tatoos) and telling them they were really cool. Kids now obsessed with bloomin tatoos.

So not individual huge bad thing but all adding up to slightly odd and inappropriate ?!

ssd - don't read my boring posts then

Then you need to tell her

that is rude to ask
please don't do that with the children
I would apprecitae it if you asked before using the phone,

etc etc

yes, have started to do that -cue very hurt,puppy dog face from her

Ignore.

will do. Had 2 fab AP's before. I think some of it is cultural.I need to become more Nordic in my thinking.