That was defintely not my intended meaning. What I was trying to say is that its probably easier for mum's to identify tantrums, as opposed to someone who may not necessarily have children or be around young children a lot. For example, even my mum, who was a teacher, falls for my DDs tantrums most of the time, and hates it when we have to ignore her, so she can get over it.
I am not claiming that anybody is superior or inferior, several of us are just struggling to make sense of children and hoping to bring them up the 'right' way (a very subjective term, if I may add).
I saw that the child was distressed when she forgot her lines, any child would have been, when performing at that scale. However, the resulting drama was handled very badly, in my opinion. And if it was my DD on there, I would have made sure to take her off that stage, and let her recover instead of pleading for another chance.
What I found particularly upsetting was that the mum, even before she reached Hollie was looking at Simon, going, can she go again, please?? I found that hard to take, becuase surely in that situation, your priority should be to comfort the little child and not worry about anything else?
I have been on TV myself (albiet, not in that pressured situation), and I know very well that if you put yourself out there in a reality show by choice, you will have to take the good with the bad. We can't just not comment on the situation because she is 'just a child'. If Susan Boyle had messed up would we have been as forgiving (or not?) and she would have certainly not got another chance.