to be annoyed at this new term of 'full time mum'

[blondie80]

i know i'm not being unreasonable.

a woman on that lottery 1-100 show on sat night referred to herself as a 'full time mum'

i take it she meant sahm instead.

i have no bones with anyone's choice as to what the do, sahm of wohm.

but... i was so annoyed i felt she was referring to wohm as - part timers??

does she forget that we do the same stuff as well as a full week at work!!

i was with my mother when we watched the show, and she has 4 dc who have left home, and says she is still a full time mum regardless.

ok rant over.

I am a full time mother who is in paid employment

DH is a full time father who is in paid employment

any objections?

I get really irritated when women describe themselves as full-time mums. I'm not a part-time mum just because I have a job. All mums are full-time mums. I don't think it's the term as much as the smug way it tends to be used that irritates me.

how about.

raising one's own children.

kidding of course!

smallegg ..... how about not?!

We all raise our own children. Working outside the home doesn't change that. Ask most parents. Because most parents work outside the home.

Do you really think women who work aren't raising their own children though? Really? And if they work three days a week, are they only partly raising their children. And once the kids are at school, are they not raising their children between nine and three? And if you have a year's maternity leave and then go back, are you only raising children for that year. And men? I guess they never raise their children because most of them work.

Oh kidding. Of course.

lockets - how can it possibly be incorrect to say you're not in paid employment if you're staying at home and not working???!!

That's not a judgement, it's a simple fact. You don't get paid to be at home with your children - therefore you are not in paid employment!!!

This thread is getting more surreal by the minute!!

Do you not think this is all getting a bit silly.
I say I am a full time mum because my son is not at school and I look after him full time at home - it is a description of what I do and in no way shame or form a judment on mothers who work full time or partime or are students - it is how I describe what I do.

And one day when I am lucky enough to go back to work I will be a lawyer for example and a mum - but would personally not describe myself then as a full time mum.

Why do we all have to be so snippy about it we are all mums whether we go out to work or not and how we describe ourselves in our own different ways is not a reflection on other parents merely a description.

Forget the at home bit. Some mothers have jobs and some don't.

Hmm. One of my elderly neighbours said to me when I told her I was expecting baby #2 "another baby for someone else to bring up then?". Oh how I chortled She was old and ignorant so I ignored her.

I think parenting is a totally rubbish term though.

but northernlurker I am with my kids all day I parent them all day. If I worked and they went into a nursery, to a child minder then someone else would be doing it . That is not being a full timer.

Doesn't mean you love your kids any less, but you don't parent them full time if you work.

that's so true twopeople

I am 5'11" and more or less a 12. I weigh round about 11 stone. I think she looks bigger than me TBH.

Twopeople..... I think you are being far too black and white about it. Any child is subject to various influences, unless they are literally brought up by one person and never see anyone else.

What about a SAHP who uses playgroup or nursery school a few sessions a week? Are they parenting full time? What if the child is taken round to grandparents for an afternoon and they look after him/her?

And where do partners fit into this? Unless one parent is dead, then every child has two parents. My DH worked F/T while I was on maternity leave - I didn't think of him as a P/T parent!!

And what about a non resident parent who might absolutely wish with all their heart they had full custody? I think they'd be pretty unhappy with the presumption that they are not a full time dad or mum.

What on earth is the problem with "full time mum/dad ,in/not in paid employment"(Delete appropriate bits)????

Just in case you wanted to know that.

wrong thread.....

totally disagree lockets - it doesn't make you sound like you're in charity work at all. Weird idea!!