to think 6 & 8 is too old to sleep with grandmother ...

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...in her bed?

DH took dcs to MIL for the night and I asked him not to let them sleep with her in her bed as I think they are too old now, BUT I now find out that ds (6) did in fact sleep in her bed and dd on the floor on her ready bed.

I know I let them sleep with me when ill or dh is away but to me that feels different - would like to hear other opinions before i rant at dh please

It wouldn't bother me in the least.

yabu
they probaby treat going as a sleepover
no harm done and presumably your dh got a lie in in the morning whne she got up with them?

I think this is absolutely fine and that their grandmother will be hurt and upset if you object

They don't seem especially old to sleep with their grandmother. The one in the bed was 6, the 8 wasn't even in the bed ... Why does this upset you so much?

yabu.whats wrong with it?my eldest are 9 and 8 and if they go to stay at nannys and they want to sleep with her they do.i cant imagine why its an issue?

I wouldnt care what they were doing if it gave me a night on my own, lol

My ds2 (6) always sleeps in with my mum when he stays there. Ds2 (12) sleeps on a futon in my sisters room. I see no problem with it at all.

Erm, why? In many cultures this is the norm! Or does your MIL have some incredibly nasty contagious condition you are worried about them picking up?

YABU. When I was that age, it would've been fun to sleep in with granny. I don't see any problem with it at all, seems quite natural to me.

It's granny, it's a treat. be thankful they have her and are obviously close. My 13 yr old neice lives far away now and she still crawls in with granny on her visits. My ds is 7 and sleeps every fri at her house (in her bed). In fact on the rare occasions they are both at granny's they are all in together!!
I think it's lovely.

My dgs's often sleep in my bed with me ...they are 6 and 4 cant see it being an issue even when they are 6 and 8

I am obviously being VERY precious about this

I blame my mother who thinks it is weird but I am happy to be educated otherwise particularly as it means they will be able to stay with her more often (she only has one bedroom)

Thanks

maybe your mother is jealous of there closeness?

It sounds perfectly normal to bunk in with grandma, especially if there is only one room. If the DC's are happy, I can't see what the problem is.

No problem with this at all, my dd is 8 and would love to sleep with nana, grandad unfortunately puts her off with his snores but she always climbs in in the mornings after he's gotton up.
I don't think there's any age that's too old tbh, they're family, is perfectly fine for them to sleep in the same bed!
I remember having to sleep in with my grandad when all staying with family and crammed into a small house with not enough room, I was about 15! lol

Me and my brother slept with our nan until were were about 10 IIRC. When she had a valve replacement I was dispatched to share her bed for a few days in case something happened to her in the night, I think I was about 12.

I also still share a bed with my mum if dad is away for the night. I'm 21.

I'm going on holiday next week with mum and nan. I might have to sleep with my nan, am I too old?

I was wondering the same thing, bigchris. Maybe she doesn't feel close enough to them to be able to share a bed with them, and is a little envious of your MIL's relationship with them?

yabu.

have you ever asked your mother why she thinks its weird?

IABU. I kept wanting to sleep with my grandmothers until much older than that.

YABU, even

bigchris - yes she is most definitley jealous (even tho she lives round the corner and sees them at least twice a week and MIL lives 200 miles away and sees them rarely) but on this occasion I do not think it is that as she will not let them sleep in bed with her.

tis totally ok IMO. camp on the floor completely ok, the 6yr old in the bed, also ok.

I think your mother is the problem TBH. what is she trying to imply is going on??