To be upset hurt and annoyed with my so called best friend **Warning*** its long

[pingping]

Basically My BF is getting married in the next few weeks she asked me to be her maid of honour months back when she found out about the surprise wedding ( I was in on the surprise)
Anyways at the time she was not speaking to a family member and barely in contact with friend (A) So as people found out about the wedding they have all got back into contact and she then said to Family member and Friend (a) she wants them as Bridesmaids fair enough.
So we started filming for the wedding and the lead upto it everything was great then out of the blue a week before the wedding so called Best friend texts me and says Your no longer a bridesmaid as I have to many and we have to keep in with a £12k budget so I dropped you and Friend (c) hope theres no hard feelings etc. Of course I was hurt that out of all her Bridesmaids she picked me. Not spoken to Friend (C) but I can imagine she is pissed as well.

There is alot more background to it but the people she has choose over me always let her down or only want to see her when they want someone to go out with. The Family Member barely speaks to her at all and has only seen BF 6mth old about 5 times since she has been born and there has been very long arguments between the two of them.

I am at a point where I don't know what to do if I should still attend the wedding etc Maybe I am being unreasonable I just don't know... People that know us feel she is being out of order and keep telling me this which is annoying me even more.

[pingping]

Thanks for all your advice very much appreciated I had got to the point where I thought I was being out of order and unreasonable for not being so bothered by it all.

[FabulousBakerGirl]

I don't buy this weddings are stressful things. They really don't have to be - they should be fun - and they certainly don't need to be a reason to behave appallingly.

If you are in business with this woman how are you going to move forward?

[Indiechick]

I'm sorry, do I understand this right, you were in on a secret that was basically her wedding was arranged but she didn't know about it? Was she happy about this surprise wedding?

[mazzystartled]

FBG

Weddings should be fun. But this poor woman has had a "suprise" televised wedding foisted on her, and all the pressure that entails, plus has family issues going on. I don't dipute that she has behaved badly, and the op has every right to feel hurt. But these are, surely, mitigating circumstances.

[pingping]

Its a long story but the groom told me he had applied for it before she knew and she found in out in March

So yes she was happy to be on the Tv else she wouldn't of agreed to it.

I do believe that she is very stressed and worked out as she hasn't had her DP around for 3 weeks now ( not allowed contact) she does have a 6mth old and a 9year old so she must be shattered

I dont know anyways I am going to email her again and just check she is ok in herself

[ruddynorah]

is it 'don't tell the bride'?

[devotion]

letsgostrawberrypicking - wise words!

if you dont go everyone will think you are in the wrong so go and look great and dont mention a thing.

make a note "crap friend!"

Sounds like the prog may have got involved to spice things up too.

[devotion]

letsgostrawberrypicking - wise words!

if you dont go everyone will think you are in the wrong so go and look great and dont mention a thing.

make a note "crap friend!"

Sounds like the prog may have got involved to spice things up too.

[FabulousBakerGirl]

Not imo. She didn' thave to go along with it!

[Stigaloid]

She is not a friend. YANBU but i wouldn't waste time or breath on her. Friends don't treat people like that and certainly don't send texts - what a coward.

[mazzystartled]

she's not allowed contact with her dp? and the have little children?

that tv programme is evil. and she was really, really stupid to agree. but can you imagine how hard it would be to not go along with it? he dp must be an idiot.

[StarPlayer]

Has the 'wedding' happened yet?

[oldraver]

OP said it was this weekend just gone... pity we could of all gatecrashed

[StarPlayer]

Yes, but did she go? & if she did, what was it like? Did the Bride speak to you? Did the cameras follow your every move?