To find this attitude incomprehensible?

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(Apologies for linking to the Daily Hate)

I simply cannot imagine writing an article which contained the phrase: "I know that, if I were to lose one of my children, even if I were to lose all of them, I would still have my husband.
But my imagination simply fails me when I try to picture a future without my husband."

So, can any of you say that you love your husbands more than your children?

I love my children and husband in a different way but I know I could not let my children die to save my husband. I have told him to save the kids first.

On the way to theatre for an emergency section I told my DH to save the baby if he could only save one of us. He wanted to save me.

It isn't exactly that uncommon though, is it. There are fairly frequent examples of mothers choosing their husband/boyfriend over their children, including in cases of abuse.

I don't see why it's so tricky to love a husband and a child just as much, the more you love the more you have to go around, it doesn't run out!

Do they actually pay journalists to write this sort of wishy washy pointless crap?

What is her point exactly?

My mother always chose her boyfriends over me, so you are right there Nekabu.

Self indulgent twaddle of the very worst sort. Not at all suprised she's already been in the Saturday Guardian Family section.

OnTheBorderLine - I am at what your parents used to say. That is truly awful! Bad enough that they felt that way but did they really need to say it to you?

Just looked on Wiki.

"Waldman posits that children who are made aware of their secondary rank in their parents' affections "are more successful, happier, live longer and have healthier lives" than those who grow up with different expectations."

So there you are

Let's see what her kids say in few years time.

Aside from the other issues, history shows us that boasting about your sex life in public is inevitably indicative of serious problems.

She's just whipping up pr for her new book - and thinks saying summat a bit contraversial will help.
Either way she's obviously given too much thought to this shit.

Probably already been said, but how lovely for her children to read this

Both DH and I know that, despite our love for each other, we both love DS with that absolute unconditional love that just can't be replicated by the love you have for a partner - in my opinion, obviously and clearly not shared by all!

I can't think of anything I wouldn't sacrifice to save DS but the bottom line is - and DH feels the same - each of us would sacrifice the other if that were the only way to save DS.

And what kind of SICKO "daydreams" about their kids dying, and then thinks "Ah well, still got the old man's love truncheon to keep me going"

I have been running the who would I save scenario through my head while reading this and as devastated I would be to lose either the children or DP I wcould ot imagine going on after losing one of the children I am not meant to outlive them.
It also occured to while thinking about it though is that my love for my childen is unconditional but the love for my dp probably isn't really is it?
It is conditional baised on what are deal breakers for me, that he stay faithful, he doesn't hit me etc.
So although my heart still races when I cuddle up to dp at night the love for him is totally different from the love I feel for my chldren.

I love my children in a completely different way to how i love my husband.
I could never love them all in the same way...do i love him more than my children..?.I don't think so,but i do love him for completely different reasons to why i love my children.When they are grown and have life's and loves of their own,hubby and i will have each other and if i had spent all my life loving my children more than my husband,what kind of future would we have together??
Head scratcher!
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Exactly nekabu, she thinks she is unique or something

Love for husbands is conditional.

Love for children is not.

Almost exactly the same piece of this was published about 6 months ago - in that one she was harping on about her husbands beautiful aqua line nose.

Bleugh

she's... erm... odd

Don't know who said it, but there is a quote, "The children of lovers are as orphans".

I think there's a lot of truth in that. Dh's father is still besotted with mil (who knows why?!) and it is absolutely clear that his dcs have always taken second place. Dh has always maintained that he would never be like this as he believes it made for a very unbalanced upbringing. So it has rebounded on me - I'm in last place here!

guffaw and splutter at "Ah well, still got the old man's love truncheon to keep me going"

Horrible horrible article and horrible horrible woman. I know it's only a photograph but I can't help thinking how unhappy the eldest two children look. I could never imagine telling my children I didn't love them as much as their Dad, even if it were true. The way I love them all is so different I couldn't even begin to compare it.

Pathetic.

thoughtless cow - what her poor DC must feel on reading that.

Ok, not everyone has the sacrificial instinct that goes with motherhood, fair enough, but you don't have to tell the world!

I'm sure her DH is a wonderful man who wouldn't dream of abusing their kids, but if he ever did, no doubt she would let him rather than lose him.

she strikes me as one of those awful simperiong women whos whole existance is defined by haveing a husband, drives me batshit crazy!

"Perhaps he just inspires more complete adoration than other husbands." All I can say is URGH! I completely love and adore my husband (his head will swell to twice the size if he reads this now...) but the love and adoration for my DS is on a whole other level.
What a strange woman. Poor children.

ah, the lovely high in steps of Michel Chabon strike again.

Surely she wrote about this about 4 years ago?

Woman is bonkers.