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To be annoyed with childminder for giving DS ready made pasta?

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Snippets · 15/05/2009 23:08

The freshly stuffed type you buy from M&S? We had an agreement that all meals would be freshly cooked. I take ages making each meal for him from scratch and have never given him pre-prepared or convenience food and bit annoyed she has.

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KingCanuteIAm · 18/05/2009 23:56

lol, I am never sure how many people here know about it as so many people are quite new!

Am off to bed too, snore...

mistlethrush · 19/05/2009 10:12

A poor little nanny from Surry
Was preparing a meal in a hurry
The pasta was chilled but,
Oh no!, it was filled!
And that heated her employer like curry.

KingCanuteIAm · 19/05/2009 10:15

Well I never saw such talent showing itself when this thread started!

muffle · 19/05/2009 10:41

Than thou I'm distinctly more holy
As I toil over fresh guacamole
And I won't be won over
By someone called Dervla
Saying "This is not just ravioli..."

Sycamoretree · 19/05/2009 10:46

SNIPPETS - I am a FT professional working mum in London (whatever that qualifies me as on this site, I'm not sure, but you mention you are also this so you know, I'm trying to make a connection with you).

I make a lot of freshly prepared food for my DC's, most of which I do in bulk and freeze.

I'll tell you something that might possibly of interest:

When my DD, my PFD, was about 12 months old, I had just decided she could drink something other than water or milk. I had bought a bottle of organic baby juice to water down. DD liked it. All good in the hood.

My mum was doing some shopping for me the next day and I asked her to buy another bottle of this juice. She came back with the exact same bottle but it WAS NOT ORGANIC.

Do you know what I did? I fucking made her take it back and exchange it.

Now, I was actually saving that up for the next anecdotal PFB thread, but it is my gift to you to try and make you see, just a little, where everyone is coming from.

It's not that you don't have a right to expect your employee to do as you ask. It's not that anyone can argue pre-packed food is better than freshly prepared. It's your refusal to accept that what your nanny fed your DC is actually a perfectly decent, nutritionally sound meal and that your original OP was most definitely an over reaction.

I tell you the above story as I can well imagine, if I'd discovered MN with my first child, I would have done down in a blaze of glory with a similar thread. Probably I'd have posted about the fricking apple juice issue.

But now, nearly 3 years on, another DC in the mix, I have got a great deal more perspective on the issue. I'm telling you now, (particularly if you plan to have any more kids)once your DC hits 2 years old (and goes neophobic and stops eating everything they have previously enjoyed) you will be reaching for the fishfingers, sausages, M&S kids ready meals and be so bloody grateful that they will eat some pre-packed ravioli with some semblance of a vegetable sauce it's not true. Trust me - I have been in your shoes...I am no longer in those shoes.

These are just facts of life and parenting. The other MNetters on this thread are just speaking from their varied and infinite experience.

I strongly advise saving this thread and revisiting it a year from now and seeing if you really, truly still feel as strongly as you do about that packet of raviloli.

If you do, we will all come back and give you a virtual sainthood.

georgiemum · 19/05/2009 10:48

30 pages of comments!!!!

Sycamoretree · 19/05/2009 10:50

Food - it's emotionally baby

Sycamoretree · 19/05/2009 10:51

Emotional (duh)

thumbwitch · 19/05/2009 11:15

loved your post Sycamoretree - your poor mum!

Sycamoretree · 19/05/2009 11:19

I know thumbwitch - the utter, utter shame of it.

I also remember actually feeling a stab of anger in my heart when I opened the cupboard to find my nanny had bought some of those goodies crisps and given them to DD when she was about 17 months...

My DH said my face actually went red - such was the reaction.

I think I understand the OP's pursuit of "perfection" for her child - I was hoping to give her the benefit of my experience and journey from neurotic over-zealous first time mum to more rational parent.

Cosmosis · 19/05/2009 11:24

this thread prompted me to look at the ingredients list on my (tesco) passata carton. the only thing on there that isn't tomatoes is citric acid.

ps love the poetry!

Stayingsunnygirl · 19/05/2009 11:34

Snippets said:

"Sorry but think you're all a lazy bunch of loons."

And you are a very rude and unreasonable young woman.

There are children starving in the world, and you are making a huge issue out of one meal of good-quality fresh filled pasta.

Does your nanny bake all the bread your dc eats? Or make the cheese?

If the nanny was regularly feeding your ds over-processed, high salt, high sugar,high fat ready meals, you would have reason to be cross - but all this fuss and superiority over one single meal of something that is jolly high up in the ready-prepared food-chain is, frankly, ridiculous - and in a few years time you will look back at yourself and cringe at how you've portrayed yourself.

Laquitar · 19/05/2009 11:35

And did you know that tinned tomato is actually helthier than fresh? Because during the process a cancer-fighting ingredient (i can't remember the name) is released and therefore is much more beneficial than fresh one!

weblette · 19/05/2009 11:37

Lycopene I think Laquitar, ketchup's full of it too.

Great post sycamoretree.

OrmIrian · 19/05/2009 11:38

Brilliant muffle!

Laquitar · 19/05/2009 11:39

Ah yes, thats the word i was trying to remember! Thanks Web

Grammaticus · 19/05/2009 12:07

Now you've drawn Tim Dowling's attention to this thread, can I just add - what a twat he is

treedelivery · 19/05/2009 12:08
Grin
OlympedeGouges · 19/05/2009 12:25

Twattish in an affable twat sort of way...

mistlethrush · 19/05/2009 12:30

There was a M'Netter called Syca-
Moretree whose mum got into a pickle:
the need for organic
caused her to panic
and she wasn't awarded a sticker...

(Sorry 2nd line not quite right, didn't want to be rude about the mum of someone I don't know )

Sycamoretree · 19/05/2009 12:39

Thank you Mistlethrush - I feel immortalised on MN now

mistlethrush · 19/05/2009 12:43

I used to feed my son organic
But nowadays I do not panic
He eats curry and rice
and lots of things that are nice
and to worry about that would be manic.

tommypickles · 19/05/2009 13:55

I can only say JESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSUS
Get a life, how is that any different from pasta you would make yourself.
Look after the kid yourself if no one else is good enough!

LittleOneMum · 19/05/2009 14:41

I can't be bothered to read the whole thread, but there are two things I just need to say...

(1) Wait until your child stops eating everyone he/she used to, then see if you don't resort to 'bad' foods sometimes; and

(2) You're actually setting your child up for a fall. My parents were very anal about food - all organic, never allowed sweets etc and as soon as I was old enough I scoffed those and now regard unhealthy foods as a real 'treat' (which they should not be). I have the sweetest tooth of anyone I know!

You're a silly PFB mother. Relax.

ThingOne · 19/05/2009 14:55

Love your post SycamoreTrees. What a corker. How did your mum react? I bet she had a good giggle with the people in the shop when she went back.

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