very unhelpful things your other half can say whilst in labour

[benbon]

just wondering if anyone else's other halves have come out with very unhelpfull advice whilst you were in labour. aibu to think this was not very helpful?

after being in labour for about 6 hours at this point my husband told me "WELL YOU ARE DRAGGING IT OUT ABIT!"

so what helpful things did your partners say to you,.

[aendr]

Hmm, my husband actually went and had a haircut - and we can't remember if I suggested it or not, but I definitely agreed it was a good idea. This was Saturday morning (my waters broke at 3am), the barber's is just around the corner (he could get home in 5 minutes flat), nothing was happening apart from mild contractions every 10 or so minutes (bad enough that I couldn't sleep though)... and that situation continued till 1am Monday when things kicked off (not that we knew that at the time). He did text his friend at 9am on Saturday though to tell him he wouldn't be able to make it to said friend's wedding 2 hours' travel away.

I don't remember any unhelpful comments from him during labour, though I do remember arguing with the midwife about an epidural - by the time I asked a second time for one it was too late to have it and apparently I hadn't been insistent enough the first time! I think I had thought that asking for one before it became that urgent was the sensible thing to do, in case getting hold of the anaesthetist took a while, and having asked once would be sufficient! I know better now, and my husband now knows to back me up and be insistent in case I'm out of it on G&A.

[Fairynufff]

When I told my DH we should get to the hospital sooner rather than later - he said "So I won't get to see the British Lions? Do you do know it is only on once every four years?" Stupidly, I felt sorry for him and let him go the pub! Told him I'd call him if the contractions got worse. I gave birth a painful 20 minutes after pulling up in front of the hospital. Didn't even get to the delivery room...

I do remind him of it however, every time the British Lions play now.

[makedoandmend]

DH was great during the birth but afterwards I overheard him say "she had the epidural quite early on".

I'd had it after 20 hours

But you know time flies...

[ilovemydogandMrObama]

Was about 6 cm dialiated and DP says he's going to get his mother some fish and chips

[makedoandmend]

Oh and while the trainee doctor that joined us didn't actually say anything annoying at first, I thought him changing the channel on the TV in the room to the football in between me pushing was a bit unhelpful He then sat down and texted his friends until finally getting up and having a look when dd head was crowning (for one awful moment I thought he was actually going to take a picture with his bloody phone). At this point he shouted 'come on you can do it!'.

Had I not been naked, flat on my back with my legs in the air, I would have hurt him really quite badly

[SugarBird]

During my first labour:
'I'm really tired - I've been working all day, you know' after I'd been in labour for 24 hours.

'This camp bed is really uncomfortable' when he was trying to get some kip and I was around 5 centimetres dilated.

And after DC2's birth:
'It's OK for you - you've been lying around in bed all day!'

Luckily for him I didn't have the energy to respond. He's very sweet normally

[Rosebud05]

'Do you want an eccles cake?' whilst I was in transition.

[girlandboy]

"That looked like it smarted a bit"

[SugarBird]

ROFL at "Do you want an eccles cake?" Genius!

[BottySpottom]

Mine didn't say anything, but just dozen off after DC3 was born, as he was tired !

[BottySpottom]

'just dozed'

[Numberfour]

like many women, i landed up pooing a bit. the assistant midwife said "don't worry, it does not smell!"

the room clunked of poo!!

sorry if tmi

DH complained his hand hurt from my holding it (i gave birth to 10lb4oz boy without pain relief because it happened too quickly and his HAND hurt???)

[funtimewincies]

When I went in to be induced (about 8pm) dh was advised not to go home as I looked 'ready to go'. So instead he went to sleep on a spare bed with the instruction to 'wake him up if anything major happens' while I paced the room dealing with the growing contractions for hours on end.

We was grand during the birth, although he was fascinated with the monitor and kept making stupid comments like 'oohh, that looked to be a big one' - er yes, I did feel it you know .

And at the end, around midday the next day he say 'I'm knackered, I've been up for over 24 hours'. YES AND SO HAVE I AND I'VE BEEN BIRTHING A BABY!!!

Lol Nuneaton man .

[baby101]

My waters broke in the early evening and got sent home after MW checked me out as there were no contractions. She told me if labour started to stay home as long as possible and take 2 paracetamol!

Contractions started about 11:30pm and DH went to bed as he was tired!! I stayed up with my tens machine and at 5am decided I needed to go to the hospital - but forgot to phone first. When I arrived the MW told me off for not phoning and said that when I returned later that day I must phone first (don't know where she thought I was going). Then another MW appeared, took one look at me and said "Oh bless you, clutching your little tens machine". DH wanted to slap her. They were so convinced that I was an over-reacting 1st time Mum that they took me into an assessment room and messed around for ages without examining me. DS was born 45mins later with no pain relief as there was no time!

Half way through pushing DH told the MW he felt light headed as he's missed breakfast, so they sat him down and went to get him tea and a biscuit!!

[jennybensmummy]

well bens dad - now my ex said numerous things, let me first describe labour then it will make more sense!! i was in labour in total for 5 and a half days, i went to hospital on day one and was 3cm dilated, went back on day 3 and was still 3cm!! then went into more strong labour - the contractions had been half hourly for 5 days then went to constant contractions where i couldnt move at all in middle of night at home. well i got in bath nd took 2 paracetamols, then couldnt get out of bath and took 10 mins screaming to him to wake up - nothing!! then when i finally woke him up and was stood there naked screaming and grunting etc he asked "cant you wait til morning" - it was 12.30am!! i threw phone at him and said ring my mum and hospital tell them im coming this time and not leaving!!! he made me do it to which they could barely understand me his response when they spoke to him on phone - "i think shes exaggerating a bit i cant see baby yet"
then he went mad at me that i was embarrassing for not wearing shoes to the car!! then had a very quick labour as was pushing on way to hospital and had no pain relief - as ben was being bborn the classis was "so i can finally go back to bed??" quickly followed with "see it wasnt that bad at all i thought it was easy!!!!" the midwife just told him "you go and get some fresh air for your own safety i think dad" lol then in weeks after he told people, "she overexaggerated the whole thing it was quite a quick labour i think and he was only 9lb 1oz so no wonder she didnt need pain relief" - 5.5 days, didnt have time for pain relief as just had to push!!!!

[Jenski]

After giving birth to DD1, my DH cut the cord and said "I name this baby ......", as if cutting a ribbon at a grand opening of a boat or something

[sleepyeyes]

Sounds like your well rid of him jenny!

ROLF at Nuneaton.

[peppapighastakenovermylife]

Mine went around telling everyone for ages after DS1 that I apparently 'screamed a bit' when the midwife gave me an episiotomy with no sort of pain relief - funny that!

With DD, at home, and me in transition he asked if there was anything in particular I wanted to watch on tv...

Oh and when DS was about 2 weeks old he kept telling everyone how exhausted he was...at the time he was sleeping in the spare room getting a full nights unbroken sleep whilst I BF DS every hour or so!

Seriously, if men had babies the world would be a very different place.

[lobsters]

DH got a huge crush on the anaethestist, and she went on endlessly about how lovely, intelligent and young she was. Given she was all these things, but it didn't make me feel better.

After I'd given birth the doc turned to me and said "you thought you were having a girl didn't you" in a tone of voice that implied oops there's a been a mistake. And then buggered off and didn't say anything else, so I had to keep asking whether it was a girl.

I'd been fully prepped for a c-section, completely numb from boobs down and not feeling great above that. About an hour after DD was born DH wanted me to take a photo of him with the baby and shouted "FGS why can't you hold do it properly when I was struggling to get them both in the frame and couldn't really move back to zoom out.

[SugarBird]

Owwww peppapig - that happened to me with my first. Unbelievably painful. Still wince when I remember it and it was 19 years ago!

DP of course opined that 'it couldn't have hurt that much or they would have given you an anaesthetic first'. Men!!

[mummytowillow]

I've laughed out loud at some of the comments off our loved ones!!

I had an unplanned C section, we had 4 lots of IVF waited four years for our little one and when they handed her to my hubby ......... he decided he felt a little overwhelmed and faint and had to go outside with the MW, handed her to the other MW and left me lying on a bed with my guts hanging out not being able to see my daughter ...... bloody woos!!

He came back about five minutes later all sheepish, but I let him off as he's not very good with blood and things!!

[fairimum]

during a rather awful emergency c-section (pre-eclampsia so had known would be happening sooner rather than later) - after I had been throwing up as they took an hour to get epidural (and spinal i believe in the end!) in - they cut me open and DH says - "wow it is just like in CSI, that program is SO realistic!"

[dilemma456]

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[jennybensmummy]

pmsl @ dilemma456 love it!!

[nicolamumof3]

This has given me such a giggle what a great thread!!!

i remember my dp saying after giving birth to ds2 'i thought you would have coped a bit better than that really'....oh REALLY??? he's never lived that down, was much better at labour of ds3