to cancel a job interview tomorrow even though i need a job and this is a second interview?

[Idranktheeasterspirits]

I was made redundant recently, as was my dp. He has found a new job and started this week.

I have had several interviews now, this particular job is a large paycut, not much scope if any for furthering my career and the ffedback i got irritated me a little if i'm honest. Basically, they said i interviewed very well, was very confident etc but that they have a dress code of dark business trouser suit and shirts and will expect to see me in this attire for the interview tomorrow. They also said that they prefer a more "sober" approach and wish to see me making "more of an effort" in this area.
They said if i do those two things they will make me an offer tomorrow.

My issues are;

1. At the first interview i was dressed in a suit, it was light blue shift dress with jacket. Not anything outlandish or eccentric, just very smart and simple.

1. I can't do more "sober". It's not me, in RL i'm enthusiastic, ebullient and tend to be noticed in a room. I'm not particularly attractive or over loud but i am confident and able to talk to anyone in a work situation.

1. The interview involves a 4 hr drive, the interview is 2 hrs long and includes a medical, psychometric test and "a chat with the company profiler" which i assume is some sort of job profile/psychological type person. I will have to hire a car at large expense, plus the petrol costs so it will add up to £150 in costs.

I just think it is all too much when i am not excited about the company and tbh, i am not too keen on the two who have already interviewed me. I don't want to stifle myself for a role that i suspect i would get bored with very quickly.

Dp on the other hand is of the opinion that i must take the first job offered and cannot afford to turn down this interview.
I am insured so my salary will be paid for up to 12 months so financially we are fine.
Am i being unreasonable to hold off for a job that i really want considering i do have more interviews lined up? Or am i selfish and should i just take the first thing offered as dp thinks i should?

yanbu Why should you be unhappy in this job when it may be someone else's dream job. Also if you take the job you will have less time to look for a job that does not involve a pay cut. You will also leave this company in the lurch when you find a job you are happy with. If money is not a problem I would hold out.

cancel - it sounds crap, it is an interviewers job to sell you the job not grind you down before you even start.

I think YANBU - you have a very definite bad feeling about this place, doesn't sound like it would suit you. Yes it is a risk to let it go but you do have 12mths salary and further interviews lined up so it would be better IMO to explore these other options.

thankyou ladies. I think i'm going to call the agency now to let them know, they will be very cross with me. Sigh.

YANBU

Unless this is for a position in a funeral parlour then I think what you wore sounds completely acceptable.

Wierd people ......

Definitely wouldn't bother attending, if you feel so instinctively that it is not right you will not perform very well in the interview anyway, and if you got the job you certainly wouldn't be pleased. If it was just down the road I would say go anyway just for the experience, however as it is miles away I really wouldn't bother.

Absurd feedback, btw. If you were wearing flipflops and a rara skirt I would understand the comment, however if you were dressed appropriately I think it ridiculous feedback. Is the job in public sector?

What's the point of the second interview if they are already saying 'if you do X, Y, and Z we will make you an offer'?

Don't go work for humourless 'sober' twats. It will make you miserable. If you are financially secure enough to wait for something better than you should wait.

Don't take any crap from the agency, either. I turned down a second interview for a job once (hated the company on sight) and the consultant nagged and cajoled and was furious when I wouldn't go. Just remember they're thinking of their 25% cut!

The words 'shove' and 'it' spring to mind.

I wouldn't bother myself.

If you can afford to hang on, hang on. It is ringing a lot of alarm bells. The point of the interview is to find out if you like them as well as if they like you, and from the first interview with them it sounds like you don't like them.
If you didn't have the insurance and the other interviews lined up I would say go, but what's the point of the insurance if not to give you a breathing space and a chance to find another suitable job?

I once took a job against my better judgement, just because I was offered it, and it was a very bad plan. All those nagging feelings are there for a reason. You've got a year or so to find a job.

make sure you tell the agency why you had such bad vibes! yanbu.

Don't go - what you wore sounds suitable for most businesses. I have once discounted an interviewee on what she wore, but it was really quite inappropriate. You cannot go into a job so half-heartedly and, as someone else already said, your time for looking for a better job would be drastically curtailed.

Cancel!

"wish to see me making "more of an effort" in this area" FFS! Bloody cheek.

Will your insurance still pay out if you have effectively turned down an offer of work?

Agree re. the above - don't go. They should be trying to sell you the job and you don't sound as if their culture would suit you.

Mmm...how long ago were you made redundant and how many months left of insurance do you have? More than six I might be tempted to agree with you, less than that and I think your husband could be right.

I am also job hunting at the moment, graduated in June of last year. Had quite a few interviews in the first couple of months, good feedback and placed on a reserve list for one post. However it has not come to anything as of yet.

It is quite common for employers to prefer candidates who are already in a job rather than unemployed...and I think this is starting to go against me. (Single parent on benefits). So I am now also applying for temporary/part time/retail work which was not my initial area of interest but will get me out the house and back in workforce.

I am hoping that it will be easier to get a job if I am in a job (albeit not similar to the fulltime/permanent/office jobs that I will be applying for).

Would that maybe be the case for you? If you take this job at the moment then keep an eye open for something else more suitable? Or would you be tied into a contract?

Hope it all works out for you.

pmsl. Ladies some of you are very funny you know.

See, i think that's the point of insurance as well Kathy, dp on the other hand thinks if i'm not working then we will sink and it will be doom and we will starve and have to run around naked and our families will disown us..... (i'm the main earner)

Will send a quick email then, am thinking it would be good just to cut and paste your comments from this thread, beginning with the shove and it post.

They were awfully stuffy at the interview. It's not public sector, i'm a senior manager in the construction industry so nothing high brow really. Just lots of dull techie stuff and telling large groups of men what to do.

Warning bells should have rung when they asked me how i manage to work and have children??

You don't want to work for them. Seriously.
I know there is a recession on, but it sounds like there is nothing right for you about this position: boring work, huge salary cut and a wanker of a boss.
If your unemployment insurance allows you to take your time and wait for the right job, then do it.

They asked you how you manage to work and have children?

Oh and meant to add...if you cancel the interview then it might leave a black mark against your name with the agency and the employer. A more suitable post might arise within the same company but working with different set of people...and you would not be considered for cancelling the previous interview.

well make sure you grass them up to the agency about that too. they sound tossers.

Does your insurance not depend on attending interviews and accepting reasonable offers of work? I agree with what everyone else says about the job, but I'd just check the small print of the insurance very carefully first.

Hi, sorry cross posted with lots of you. The insurance will not be affected, it isn't dependant on acceptance of offers.

Have only been redundant for 3 weeks.

Or.... i could go but wear something really really inappropriate with loads of slap etc. Velour tracksuit with the words HUSSY emblazoned across the arse maybe?

Best wishes to you too bentnick, i'm sure you will find something very soon. x x

words that come to mind are, sod, your, job, you, boring twats! in that order