to cancel a job interview tomorrow even though i need a job and this is a second interview?

[Idranktheeasterspirits]

I was made redundant recently, as was my dp. He has found a new job and started this week.

I have had several interviews now, this particular job is a large paycut, not much scope if any for furthering my career and the ffedback i got irritated me a little if i'm honest. Basically, they said i interviewed very well, was very confident etc but that they have a dress code of dark business trouser suit and shirts and will expect to see me in this attire for the interview tomorrow. They also said that they prefer a more "sober" approach and wish to see me making "more of an effort" in this area.
They said if i do those two things they will make me an offer tomorrow.

My issues are;

1. At the first interview i was dressed in a suit, it was light blue shift dress with jacket. Not anything outlandish or eccentric, just very smart and simple.

1. I can't do more "sober". It's not me, in RL i'm enthusiastic, ebullient and tend to be noticed in a room. I'm not particularly attractive or over loud but i am confident and able to talk to anyone in a work situation.

1. The interview involves a 4 hr drive, the interview is 2 hrs long and includes a medical, psychometric test and "a chat with the company profiler" which i assume is some sort of job profile/psychological type person. I will have to hire a car at large expense, plus the petrol costs so it will add up to £150 in costs.

I just think it is all too much when i am not excited about the company and tbh, i am not too keen on the two who have already interviewed me. I don't want to stifle myself for a role that i suspect i would get bored with very quickly.

Dp on the other hand is of the opinion that i must take the first job offered and cannot afford to turn down this interview.
I am insured so my salary will be paid for up to 12 months so financially we are fine.
Am i being unreasonable to hold off for a job that i really want considering i do have more interviews lined up? Or am i selfish and should i just take the first thing offered as dp thinks i should?

Hee Hee - read this thread, and thought it was funny! I am a Civil Engineer working in a very male orientated office, but fortunately for me, I am able to work 4 days, 27 hours a week (which is less than the standard 4 days here!).

Saying that, I do get comments every time I leave at 3 to do the school run, but we have a policy of not being able to work from home, so I cannot finish off reports, etc later, unless I do it by stealth - blooming employers cant have it both ways! I have two young kids also, and jsut about manage, but I reckon I manage a lot better than a man would in my shoes!

Good luck with your job hunting.

OH OH,I think you should go, but bring the kids with you, and leave them with the recpetionist

I would cancel - saying that you don't think the role is right for you

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i'm glad you told them to shove it. 'more of an effort' my arse.

definitely DON'T rush finding another job. when you do, you could be in it for years so it's worth finding a good one.