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AIBU?

To think that a 14 year old boy does not need to see a paediatrician for a jab?

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BonsoirAnna · 06/05/2009 19:45

Bloody hell. DSS1's mother took him to the family paediatrician for a routine jab. Said paediatrician asked DSS1 how much pocket money he got - and, on hearing the reply, said that it was 1/4 of the amount a boy of his age should be getting. DSS1 got very upset because he felt patronised - but he shouldn't have been there in the first place!

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Sidge · 06/05/2009 20:08

Why a paediatrician would be commenting on pocket money I have no idea! It's hardly a health need.

In the UK paediatricians are responsible for children and teenagers up to the age of 18, but paeds don't tend to give routine vaccines.

TheFallenMadonna · 06/05/2009 20:09

Do paediatricians have the monopoly on daft comment about pocket money then? You wouldn't get that from a GP?

And tell me your 14 yo DSS isn't crying over pocket money...

YouLukaAmazing · 06/05/2009 20:10

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BonsoirAnna · 06/05/2009 20:11

Yes, he was crying because the paed told him he was badly done to - and then DP pointed out that he gets (a hell of a lot) more than pocket money... it all disintegrated and DSS1 doesn't know what he thinks...

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mylifemykids · 06/05/2009 20:14

I don't understand why a 14 year old would be upset about something so trivial! Is there a possibility your DSS was seeing the paediatrician because it's who he trusts to give him jabs (I know having injections is a phobia for some people) and maybe the paed mentioned the pocket money to distract him from the fact he was being jabbed???

BonsoirAnna · 06/05/2009 20:17

The only reason he was taken to the paediatrician for the jab was because his mother (as usual) zapped on the fact that her child is growing up . The paed then treated DSS1 as if he were a much younger child (the kind he is used to treating) and hey presto it all blows up because DSS1 feels condescended to by all concerned (mother and doctor). Grrrrrrr.

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pagwatch · 06/05/2009 20:24

is there any reason why no one has pointed out to said 14 year old that itis entirely possible that the paediatrician is a twat?

Does 14 year old not know the difference between paediatrician/banker/teenage boy/money providing parent?

I have a 15 year old boy. the stock remark in response to "well so and so told me that most boys my age get £x" is
"and...?"

I would be waaaay more worried about a 14 year old getting "upset" about the comments of a random stranger than anything else.
Perhaps his mum is right given how spectacularly childish he and everyone else is being about a random chat

cory · 06/05/2009 20:24

Ah, I think I'm finally getting the gist (not my brightest tonight):

children in France do not see paediatricians after a certain age

paediatricians therefore are unused to seeing older children and have developed a tendency to speak to their patients as if they were all about 4

mother should have understood this and not exposed 14yo to situation where he would be spoken to in this manner

I'm with you. It's all different in the UK.

You may well be right then. Though tbh the whole bursting into tears because you've been patronised sounds odd anyway. Not how most 14yos I know behave.

Also, what paediatrician administers a jab without checking patient's age in medical notes?

I think in any capacity, this would have been a charmless and annoying doctor.

YouLukaAmazing · 06/05/2009 20:24

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BonsoirAnna · 06/05/2009 20:27

pagwatch - that was the very first thing I said to DSS1 on hearing the story - what the f* did the paed think he was doing???

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BonsoirAnna · 06/05/2009 20:29

I think DSS1 had felt patronised all afternoon (and waited for an hour in a waiting room full of babies with his mother - not good for his teenage ego at all) and the paed's remarks were the straw that broke the camel's back...

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YouLukaAmazing · 06/05/2009 20:30

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pagwatch · 06/05/2009 20:31

Bonsoir
Actually I think my first comment to your DSS1 would have been...
" you cried about pocket money? Seriously? Are you six?"

BonsoirAnna · 06/05/2009 20:34

Oh the doctor in question is vilely condescending. I went to see him once, forewarned and fore-armed, and he tried it on big time on me and I took revenge but I was shattered all afternoon afterwards!

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cory · 06/05/2009 20:34

agree with pag

but am willing to accept that waiting in a waiting room full of babies has some deep significance to a French teenager that it would not have in the UK

Greensneeze · 06/05/2009 20:35

tbh if he's the kind of 14yo boy who cries over a comment about pocket money, he probably does need to see a paediatrician for his jabs

BonsoirAnna · 06/05/2009 20:37

DD hit this doctor very hard when he condescended to her. TBH he had the grace to say that she was "surprising" and that he liked children who surprised him...

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cory · 06/05/2009 20:38

there must be some part of the story we're missing

come to think of it, dd's orthopaedic appointments are in a clinic where most of the other patients are about 5 weeks old (as that's when they pick up on a lot of hip trouble)

if she passed any comments about this, I'd tell her not to be so bloody silly

I do suspect there is a long story here

lalalonglegs · 06/05/2009 20:39

I am baffled, quite, quite baffled by this.

Greensneeze · 06/05/2009 20:39

Oh bravo, that's a much better reaction, you must be so proud

Your dd hit him, and he said he liked children who surprised him?

Is he Marco Pierre White?

noddyholder · 06/05/2009 20:39

weird children hitting adults not good in any scenario

BonsoirAnna · 06/05/2009 20:40

He's just a very wanky French doctor, super full of himself and thinks you see to pay to be told how to bring up your children. But all the French paed's I've come across do this. If you don't do as they say they tell you off.

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myredcardigan · 06/05/2009 20:40

Lol at Anna being outraged at someone being patronising!

Of course it's the mother's fault! Bet she hadn't even had a waxing or styled her hair beforehand!

pagwatch · 06/05/2009 20:42

you have a 14 year old DSS who cries at the mention of pocket money disparity.
You have a DD who hits people when she does not like their manner.
You seem to find both perfectly reasonable responses.
And it is the paediatrician who is the issue ....

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BonsoirAnna · 06/05/2009 20:42

I think doctors that make teenage boys cry, pre-school girls hit them and grown women of the world like me have to take to their bed all afternoon after braving their surgery are a nightmare. I suppose that I just hate this doctor and wish DSS1's mother realised what a wanker he is (and then we could have had a nice evening).

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