To think that a 14 year old boy does not need to see a paediatrician for a jab?

[BonsoirAnna]

Bloody hell. DSS1's mother took him to the family paediatrician for a routine jab. Said paediatrician asked DSS1 how much pocket money he got - and, on hearing the reply, said that it was 1/4 of the amount a boy of his age should be getting. DSS1 got very upset because he felt patronised - but he shouldn't have been there in the first place!

[BitOfFun]

Why did you have to see the paediatrcian then? And take to your bed afterwards? Was he rude about your pocket money?

Never mind, I probably don't need to know...

[Sidge]

I am astounded that you think it's acceptable for a child to hit a doctor (well anyone really) however patronising he is.

If he incites such negativity in your family then may I suggest you find a different paediatrician?

[nappyaddict]

I'm a little confused aswell. If in France they don't see paeds after a certain age then why did DSS1's mum take him to one for his jabs?

[cory]

I can understand that a doctor may have awful bedside manners - heaven knows I've met a few of them

what I cannot understand is a teenager who makes an issue of having to attend a clinic full of babies (or an aunt who seems to agree this is something to get upset about)

can anyone tell me why this is significant?

when dd goes to the doctor's it's to get medical treatment

doesn't matter one bit whether all the other patients are babies or geriatrics

(we've had experience of both)

it's just a jab for goodness sake

something simple and basic and practical

[Thebolter]

. Bonkers.

[BonsoirAnna]

DD never hits anyone, ever - the doctor was a first. DSS1 hardly ever cries.

[BonsoirAnna]

I think doctors that make teenage boys cry, pre-school girls hit them and grown women of the world like me have to take to their bed all afternoon after braving their surgery are a nightmare. I suppose that I just hate this doctor and wish DSS1's mother realised what a wanker he is (and then we could have had a nice evening).

[pagwatch]

you have a 14 year old DSS who cries at the mention of pocket money disparity.
You have a DD who hits people when she does not like their manner.
You seem to find both perfectly reasonable responses.
And it is the paediatrician who is the issue ....

The thread finally makes sense

[myredcardigan]

Lol at Anna being outraged at someone being patronising!

Of course it's the mother's fault! Bet she hadn't even had a waxing or styled her hair beforehand!

[BonsoirAnna]

He's just a very wanky French doctor, super full of himself and thinks you see to pay to be told how to bring up your children. But all the French paed's I've come across do this. If you don't do as they say they tell you off.

[noddyholder]

weird children hitting adults not good in any scenario

[Greensneeze]

Oh bravo, that's a much better reaction, you must be so proud

Your dd hit him, and he said he liked children who surprised him?

Is he Marco Pierre White?

[lalalonglegs]

I am baffled, quite, quite baffled by this.

[cory]

there must be some part of the story we're missing

come to think of it, dd's orthopaedic appointments are in a clinic where most of the other patients are about 5 weeks old (as that's when they pick up on a lot of hip trouble)

if she passed any comments about this, I'd tell her not to be so bloody silly

I do suspect there is a long story here

[BonsoirAnna]

DD hit this doctor very hard when he condescended to her. TBH he had the grace to say that she was "surprising" and that he liked children who surprised him...

[Greensneeze]

tbh if he's the kind of 14yo boy who cries over a comment about pocket money, he probably does need to see a paediatrician for his jabs

[cory]

agree with pag

but am willing to accept that waiting in a waiting room full of babies has some deep significance to a French teenager that it would not have in the UK

[BonsoirAnna]

Oh the doctor in question is vilely condescending. I went to see him once, forewarned and fore-armed, and he tried it on big time on me and I took revenge but I was shattered all afternoon afterwards!

[pagwatch]

Bonsoir
Actually I think my first comment to your DSS1 would have been...
" you cried about pocket money? Seriously? Are you six?"

[YouLukaAmazing]

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[BonsoirAnna]

I think DSS1 had felt patronised all afternoon (and waited for an hour in a waiting room full of babies with his mother - not good for his teenage ego at all) and the paed's remarks were the straw that broke the camel's back...

[BonsoirAnna]

pagwatch - that was the very first thing I said to DSS1 on hearing the story - what the f* did the paed think he was doing???

[YouLukaAmazing]

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[cory]

Ah, I think I'm finally getting the gist (not my brightest tonight):

children in France do not see paediatricians after a certain age

paediatricians therefore are unused to seeing older children and have developed a tendency to speak to their patients as if they were all about 4

mother should have understood this and not exposed 14yo to situation where he would be spoken to in this manner

I'm with you. It's all different in the UK.

You may well be right then. Though tbh the whole bursting into tears because you've been patronised sounds odd anyway. Not how most 14yos I know behave.

Also, what paediatrician administers a jab without checking patient's age in medical notes?

I think in any capacity, this would have been a charmless and annoying doctor.