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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to think that snobbery about others is only depriving yourself

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OrmIrian · 25/04/2009 20:43

of the company of people who might turn out to be amazingly good friends.

Yes it is a thread about a thread. Sorry. But it's a serious point.

If you judge and dismiss people on the basis of what they put on their walls or where they live, doesn't that reduce the pool of potential friends and acquaintances, and experiences. And if you judge but don't speak or act on your judgements, or let them colour your actions, don't you eventually learn just how pointless such judgements actually are?

Just wondering. As I get older I get less judgemental, not more and I think my life is richer for it.

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Thunderduck · 25/04/2009 22:56

Same here hf.

scottishmummy · 25/04/2009 22:57

righty link to other thread please.oot the loop here

Thunderduck · 25/04/2009 22:58

I have to say I didn't expect it to be more than 50 posts max.

Thunderduck · 25/04/2009 22:59

Here Scottish

MintyyAeroEgg · 25/04/2009 23:00

People on the other thread are fessing up to their own petty snobberies. In a self-mocking kind of way. It is overwhelmingly a light-hearted thread.

I am less judgemental as I get older, too. I have more life experience and am better informed. Doesn't mean to say I can't take the mickey out of myself for my own petit bourgeois (sp?) tendancies.

Thunderduck · 25/04/2009 23:01

I agree. I think most of it is posted with the member's tongue firmly in their cheek.

junglist1 · 25/04/2009 23:03

Awight mate what's petit bourgeois only because one of the aforementioned MC mums at school said her H was very bourgeois the other day and I didn't have a scooby (clue) what she was talking about, so just nodded politely

scottishmummy · 25/04/2009 23:04

thanks Thunderduck.thing is human condition is we are all flawed and ascribe negative traits to others.less so ourselves

funny that

junglist1 · 25/04/2009 23:13

Have skimmed the other thread and noticed things on the list that apply to me (baby tracksuits,tattoos,chav jewellery). However, I don't believe for one minute that anyone wouldn't like me if they spoke to me (not in a bigheaded way). I've never actually come across anyone that uppity, not to my face anyway.

Portofino · 25/04/2009 23:18

I don't do snobbery i like to thimk. I was brought up in a council house and dh's dad was a bingo caller. We live in a whole other world now. We have friends who have been to dinner (and played poker) with Bill Gates and earn squillions and others who live in squalour. I like who I like.

Thunderduck · 25/04/2009 23:19

There are quite a few things on people's lists that apply to me too. I'd be surprised if many of us don't do or have at least one thing on that very extensive list.

junglist1 · 25/04/2009 23:20

Exactly. It's about the person, not money, speech or class.

hf128219 · 25/04/2009 23:26

Definitely the person - there are people who are 'the same' as me who I could quite happily murder!

cutekids · 25/04/2009 23:27

i don't know about this other thread but i honestly love mixing with all sorts of people...and i hope that doesn't in its'own ways sound snobby cos i'm not a snob at all.at least i hope i'm not.
when you take people for themselves..not what they look like,what house they live in etc.,it just makes the world so much more interesting.i have friends who won't entertain some people cos they think it's below them.however,it's great when they meet upsay at my house or somethingand they find they "have to talk" cos more often than not the feedback afterwards from both sides is nearly always positive.

blossomsmine · 25/04/2009 23:51

That other thread is worrying me

I didn't think i was particularly common or a snob.....i certainly am not MC though...

But since reading that i am now worried about the fact that i used to 'like' alot of the other mners and now i am paranoid about all the things they don't like!

The things they are mentioning i just never even THINK about

I thought i was being polite saying 'toilet' and now i am common When we were in America i refered to it as a 'loo' and they looked at me as if i was mad!!! So i stuck with toilet.....

I need to stop thinking about this.....

blossomsmine · 26/04/2009 00:03

.....Why the hell is it a loo anyway??? Where does the word loo come from??? I think its a weird word...

Thunderduck · 26/04/2009 00:08

From regardez l'eau I believe. Watch out for the water, when people used to chuck the contents of their chamber pots out of the window and into the street below.

blossomsmine · 26/04/2009 00:24

Thanks thunderduck.....and surprisingly enough, cos i now believe i am WELL common, i understood what you meant by regardez l'eau!! Jeez.....i can't be that bad

Mmmm......?? Still not happy with 'loo' though....i think that sounds kind of slangy and common...?

Ahh...had a thought, cos i am having problem finding things i am snobbish about....how about crocs!! Well, are they common? My dd won't let me get any anyway!!

Thunderduck · 26/04/2009 00:26

I wouldn't say they were common, just ugly.

edam · 26/04/2009 00:30

I posted on the other thread but wasn't taking myself seriously. Heaven forbid! I'm aware that my snobberies, inherited from my dear Mama, are ridiculous - does it really matter whether you call it a toilet/loo/lavatory/bog? Of course not! Yet I can't help correcting ds when he comes home from school talking about toilets - and that's a fault in me. Was kind of laughing at my own silly hang-ups.

blossomsmine · 26/04/2009 00:31

.....can't help wanting some though....just for wandering around in the garden....well thats what i tell dd anyway I am not allowed any, dd is obviously a snob!

Thunderduck · 26/04/2009 00:32

LOL I'd insist on buying them then. I have heard that they are extremely comfortable.

BitOfFun · 26/04/2009 00:41

I agree absolutely! I posted on the other thread, but I am conscious that I am/do things others would judge. Also, I know there are people herecwho do things that I snobbishly judge, but I nonetheless love the cyber bones of! The beauty of mumsnet to me is that you can meet and connect with all sorts of people outside your experience, and really develop an affection for them. I love mumsnet!

alicecrail · 26/04/2009 07:42

I posted on the other thread too. I am snobby about loads of things, but would never not be friends with someone because of it.
I am snobby about pierced ears on babies - my mother got mine done at 6weeks old.
I'm snobby about jeans on small children - i hated wearing them as a child because they are so uncomfortable.
I'm snobby about children walking around with dummies in their mouth - my brother can't speak properly because of having a dummy constantly.
I was brought up in a council house, with my young, unmarried father, eating cheap food and having dodgy furniture. I am snobby about them in the way that i wouldn't want them myself, but if a friend had them i probably wouldn't notice.
I know it has been said, but it is VERY bad form to start a thread about a thread, especially one where mnetters are admitting things they probably wouldn't in real life and laughing at themselves. Disgraceful really.
thunderduck it was a laugh

sarah293 · 26/04/2009 08:01

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